This girl I work with just broke up with her boyfriend (after about 2 years). Even before she broke up with him we were flirting and talking to each other on the phone and stuff. I have not officially asked her out yet but she has let it been known that she does not want a "boyffriend" write now. I know she likes me at least a little bit, but she does not want a boyfriend write now. What does this mean? should I wait? should I give her time or what?
2007-04-08 19:27:59 · 12 answers · asked by funkymonk73 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We all say that. She just got out of a long term relationship and has a flirt object that she sounds interested in. Fear of rejection leads us to say "I don't want a boyfriend right now." Don't ask why we say it. I mean, you knew she was suddenly available and likely fragile and if she is interested she is on the rebound at the moment and is probably feeling down. If she says anything like "I'm not ready for a boyfriend right now" again you could casually say "Well, I hope you don't mind letting me know when you ARE ready for one..." and then to keep it light just sort of pat her on the back in a "friend" sort of way. If she is really interested you'll know it by her response. If she ISN'T interested you will know by her response too...but either way it's not a huge turn down for you.
2007-04-08 19:35:15 · answer #1 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up is not easy. Just send her flowers. Send her a card, let her know you are there for her after the breakup with her ex. Find a way to her heart. Woman like man to go the extra mile to make them happy. This is a good start for a relationship. If you really like her, tell her so and tell her you are willing to wait until she is ready. Good luck :)
2007-04-09 02:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by Sammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Just give it time. Be her very best friend. A LOT of romantic relationships start out as friendships.
Most of mine started out that way, You can become the closest person in her life that way and that usually leads to deeper feelings down the road.
Just always be there for her and she will probably come to YOU.
2007-04-09 02:33:54 · answer #3 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look hun you have to give her some time ... you and her are close by the sounds of things and you dont want to ruin that so you have to give her sometime ok wait a couple of weeks then see if she would or not because she might feel like omg like i just got out of a relationship and here is this just asked me out like come on seriously thats what you got to think about ok
so good luck
2007-04-09 02:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by delly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um HELLO??? wait, omigosh I'm a girl myself and i know if i had just broke up with my bf of 2 years i would want some time to myself for ab it, to get things clear..if u ask her now it is only going to put her on the spot most likely make her feel uncomfortable and make things between u guys awkward
2007-04-09 02:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by sexy_eyed_sweetheart <3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes women are just not ready for relationships, but can still like a guy. If you like her as much as you say you do, you could tell this to her and say that if she's interested, that when's she's ready to date again, that you would like to date her.
2007-04-09 02:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by angel_girl2248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try giving her some time to get over this relationship she just got out of. when you feel it's the right time, ask her out. it could just be a friendly date to start, and not necessarily another relationship for her to jump into.
2007-04-09 02:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont want to rush things with her when she just brock up with her bf that she has been with for 2 years..... you sould just be there for her if she needs somone to talk to......at the moment she doesnt want a bf because she got hurt from her last one just give her time and just be there for her.....thats the best way to get in
2007-04-09 02:33:25 · answer #8 · answered by badgirlforlife007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for a sex-change... or simply cross-dress, as a result you are now a female -- now you'll be in the money
2007-04-09 02:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i wud wait about a month cuz my girl acted the same way so wait awile
2007-04-09 02:32:16 · answer #10 · answered by broken souls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋