By previous BF pushed me down the stairs..and now I am scared to see other guys. i like another guy but I told him I couldn't see him because I was still scared and didn't feel safe..was I wrong...The guy is really nice and I send him a care box every month he is in the army...and I told him I really wanted to see him but I am still scared.
2007-04-08 18:25:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are both in Asia he is not an American..
2007-04-08 18:33:27 · update #1
Well, I wouldn't say that you're WRONG . . . that's not the right word for it. Maybe paranoid would be a better word. It's not your fault that you feel that way, but you have to understand that most men are not like that at all. All of love is taking risks. I bet that if you pursue a relationship with this guy, you'll feel a lot safer. You have to get back to dating if you're going to get over that experience. Good night!
2007-04-08 18:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then it sounds like you're not ready to get over what happened to you yet.
But I'll tell you one thing... Army guys are awesome. And if you end up together, if he lays one finger on you the MPs will throw his butt in jail, even if there's no proof other than a 911 call from you. So really he has more to fear than you do!
Hang in there, and don't be afraid to tell the new guy what you're going through. This is a guy who's willing to put his life on the line in some stupid war to protect the people he cares about, and even people he doesn't give a darn about, so he'll be more likely to want to protect you than push you down some stairs ^_^
2007-04-09 01:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by Mulan Rouge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not all the guys dont push u like that.. There are a lot of guys who believe that there girls should be treated as princesses..
But u hav to get over ur fears..
Meet the boy u must... meet him in open space.. may be garden etc.. hey come on get bac to life... u have lost some time brooding over this.. now come back.. we all are waitin.. we means the ppl who have jus come back from where u are... you are not the first person in there and u wont be the last..
and for all the emotional support shoot emails...
2007-04-09 01:38:56 · answer #3 · answered by Mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably, need to seek personal counseling for post traumatic stress. It was okay for you to share your feelings with a serviceman who is nice to communicate with. It was very smart of you to be honest about the way you feel at this time, instead of rushing int a situation that could make yourself very uncomfortable and ruin the chances of having a positive relationship in the future. There is no "WRONG" or "right" to the way you feel. You have every right to feel scared because you have been through a scary experience for anyone and you need time and help to heal. Best wishes to you.
2007-04-09 01:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural that you are going to feel scared after going through something traumatizing. But you need to keep in mind that not all guys are the same. It is good that you are being cautious, and stay that way, but you need to leave a little leeway for love in there. It sounds like this guy is great, and he is in the army for gosh sakes, I can't really see someone like that being forceful with you. Do what you feel comfortable with, but leave some room in your heart for a kind man to fill.
2007-04-09 01:31:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We tend to select partners who reflect our own opinion of ourselves. So, if you have a good opinion of yourself, you will choose a partner who will honor you and your opinion of you. I would guess the stair incident happened when you selected a guy while you weren't feeling too good about yourself. Think about it. If you really like yourself, you won't pick a guy who doesn't respect you. Remember, you deserve the best...because you are the best.
2007-04-09 01:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All though you were probably emotionally scared by what your ex did to you. You should not stay like that for the rest of your life. You have to move on with your life and you should see this man.
2007-04-09 01:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by alex 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
here what you need to do.. post another question asking how many girl got pushed down the stairs.. trust me.. I think you are the only one.. then maybe if you are smart enough.. you will realize that not all men are like that.. ok????
please don't forget to use your brain.. its not for decoration.. =D mwah!
2007-04-09 01:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by deadmeat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its not completely wrong since you are scared but you should try to get back into dating so that you wont be scared it was just one stupid dude
2007-04-09 01:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by rickabamboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really like him let him know how u feel, if he is really interested in u, he should have no problem in taking things slow while u get that trust in guyz again.
2007-04-09 01:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by mari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋