If someone you are living with complains nonstop whenever you disagree with them, shouldn't you do or say som

Question

one night in May 2006 my mother made my father go live with his mother, then that night unbeknownst to my brother, 22, sister, 19, and I, 21 she unplugged & hid the phone & went out and got her crazy online gf from Albany, NY who had taken the bus to MD and the next day rented a moving truck and we had to get everything we could in 1 day and everything else was abandoned, & move to Albany. In August my mother drove me back to MD for college, but her gf came along and yelled at me the entire way and cursed my mother's parents out when we got here and my mother did nothing but sit in the vehicle and look sad. But my mom's gf would just go on and on complaining about me and expect me to just sit there and LISTEN to her complain about me and do NOTHING.If I even tried to leave or cover my ears she would physically attack me and I would be in tears and no one would do ANYTHING. So was I really just supposed to sit there and LISTEN to her talk crap about me and do NOTHING? What would you do?

and for some reason my mother, brother, and sister would not do or say anything; they all apparently thought that I should just sit there and not do or say anything while my mother's gf went on and on and on. WTF??? If you are living with someone you are SUPPOSED to be able to disagree with them and speak your mind to them, even if it means being rude. And if this means having to defend yourself then so be it. Am I the only one who realizes this? Or am I wrong, and should I have just avoided complaining or saying certain things in my mother's gf's presence, and not done anything when she complained nonstop (and often made COMPLETELY untrue statements) about me? Keep in mind that she threatened to kill me and would put me out of the apartment in a city where I knew nothing and no one if I myself did anything physical.

Answer 1

You may want to consider living with your dad. It sounds like this gf has your mother under her thumb. Until your mom is willing to stand up for herself and her kids, there's not much you can do except get out. You are legal age and you have the right to live your life as you see fit.

You are always right to stand up for yourself. It should be done with respect no matter how the other person is acting but it should be done. No one has the right to abuse you verbally, physically or emotionally. Have you tried to discuss the situation with your mom away from the gf? It sounds like your mom may be afraid of this woman. You may want to encourage your mom to get some counseling so she can learn to stand up for herself.

Answer 2

I would check out all the options I have other than staying in the abusive relationship you described.
What about living with your grandma and dad until you can take care of yourself financially?
Most of colleges have counseling service to cope with stress in life, if they cannot help you right away, they will refer you to professionals who can.
I would look for shelters run by churches or other non-profit organizations to see if they can give me place to stay until I can be on my own.
I would look for roommates near the campus, so I would not have to spent money on transportation if possible.
Do not quit school regardless what happens. You need the degree you are seeking to secure your future. Even if the degree does not look like a meal ticket to you, it will always remind you of your tenacity and resilience.

Answer 3

Poor baby. You are being aBuSeD. Keep up the good work in school so you can do a Kelly Clarkson and "Breakaway." God bless.