Showering with the boyfriend?

Question

Here's the details [not for me, by the wayyy, for someone without the use of a computer who is nagging me to help them but I'm clueless as to how]:
Both her and her 'lovely' boyfriend are 15 [Chelsea's, my friend's, birthday is in May, and the boyfriend is a month younger], and all I really know is that her boyfriend asked her to take a shower with him and she has no idea what to do when in the shower. I would help her out with some advice, but I've never really have gotten to that point in a relationship myself. They've been hoing out for two months about, but she had been friends with him for years beforehand. Apparently they've already been naked around each other [why she told me that disturbing fact leaves me clueless...just kidding] and have rounded all three bases [if you catch my american terminology] already. He's no virgin, she is [yet she doesn't care, sex is, I guess a "basic human right and privilege that shouldn't be so publicly scorned for teenagers" according to her.].

Sorry, ran out of space. The questions would be "Should she do it?" and "What do you do in the shower with a guy?" [I've tried answering the second one, but she won't take it -.-]

Answer 1

Alrighty. Here we go.
I was in this EXACT same position, like, last month. First, cuddos to waiting a little while for sex, although I agree with your friend that it shouldn't be so publicly scorned. The very first thing I recommend she does is call planned parenthood, if only because it takes a while to get an appointment. If your having sex, you should be on birth control. It is much easier to break a condom than you think, and it always happens at the wrong time. But do use one, especially if he's 'no virgin'. Okay, so, she's not to freaked about her 'first time a.k.a. losing it, and if she's comfortable with it, what the hell. Go for it. Be responsible and have fun. Congrats. Now, on to the shower. I know this sounds weird, but wash each other. Use it as an opportunity to touch every part of him. Wash his hair, let him wash yours. It what showers are for. Using the water and soap is an awesome way to give a hand job, by the way. Don't worry to much about it, I'd never done this before either. Chances are, either he has and he will guide you, or he hasn't and he's just as nervous as you. You'll work it out. Its kinda like sex in that, there are no real instructions, you have to go with the flow of it, no pun intended.

grrrr. I just read the post above. Okay lady, who asked you for that advice? That wasn't the question! 15 year-old can be a whole range of maturity's. I know people 21 who shouldn't be having sex. And the average age to begin having sex in Switzerland is 12/13. Only in the US is it so stigmatized, leading to the highest rate to teenage pregnancies in the developed world. Responsible sex is a part of life, and gift from God. Two months is a while, better than one eih? That's all I waited my first time, and you know what? Still with him, same guy, long-term relationship. Thanks for being so un-judgmental. I'll remember that next time you have a question...

Answer 2

basic human right and priveledge? where did she get that crap from. at 15 sex should be the last thing on her mind. and only been holding out for two months? that's not a very long time. babies can come from having sex. condoms are only 80% effective. if you aren't ready to raise a baby don't lay down (or stand up) also there are these nasty little things called std's and some of them stay with you for life. some can kill you. and no i'm not old. so it's not like i'm just some old woman telling you these things. trust me waiting is better. not to mention having sex with a man before you are 21 and before he is especially is not even worth it because men don't stop growing until they are 21(if you catch my drift) and your body changes A LOT until about that age. it's scorned because if you get pregnant tax payers are paying for that kid not you and your parents. until you can work full time you shouldn't even have sex, there are too many young girls with babies and havent the first clue of how to take care of them and can't pay for them. that's why it is so publicly scorned as she puts it. and abortion is the same as murdering a baby. there's a haert beat 25 days after conception. that's before you even know you are pregnant. women and girls who have abortions are plagued with night mares and hearing babies cry when there are no babies present. so unless your friend is willing to deal with any consequences i advise to lay off of having sex at 15

Answer 3

Taking clothes off of any kind can lead to sex when in front of a guy. Hi is experienced and chances are she will get trapped in the shower and it will lead to sex. If this guy likes her he should place her in a situation where the first time will be sweet not sleezy.. I am not sure if this guy has any respect for her. She is getting into a bad situation and should keep her clothes on if she wishes to stay a virgin a bit longer.....

Answer 4

Krystal, this is one of those things that takes care of itself. If your friend gets into a shower with her boyfriend, they will figure out what to do. It's really not a problem.

Answer 5

your girlfriend need to more into school not showing with
her boyfriend. both are two young. especially since she
not intersted in having sex with him which by the way is the
best thing right now. so tell her to keep her clothes on,.

Answer 6

I imagine they'd do the same thing in the shower that they do in the bed, or wherever else; it's just a different, fun new environment.

Answer 7

if he doesnt care if they have sex and if she doesnt care if they have sex then tell her to shower with them because that is prob whats going to happen in the shower. but i would talk to her about her virginity.... she might find that she wants to save it for the right guy..... anyways you shouldnt have to make that decision for her.. its her virginity and she needs to decide what to do with it.

Answer 8

I say go for it, he must care about her if he wants her to be clean first. Or maybe its his nice way of saying she is fowl and needs to put soap to H2O

Answer 9

She is headed for serious trouble. Ask her if she wants a baby shower,too.

Answer 10

you take it with them so you will know what to do when some one ask you to.