She still has pictures of her and her ex-boyfriend together in various places across her room including a wall, a mirror, a nightstand, and a bookshelf. We've been going out for more than 6 months and I havn't said anything about it, but it makes me sick to my stomach (literally) and it hurts when I see or think about these things. I love her and she says she loves me. I don't want to make myself seem insecure, but truth be told, I would rather have her go to sleep every night thinking of me as I think of her. What can I do to make her forget her ex and move on with life and be happy with me. (I'm sorry if I sound selfish but I'm just being honest.)
2007-04-08 17:40:39 · 20 answers · asked by kjam16 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she's a lil weirdo huh? if she don't take down those pictures, can i suggest that you never have your picture tooken with her or give her any pictures of yourself...
i've seen a movie with robin williams in it, pictures of a family all over the wall... yeah, creepy. lol
2007-04-08 17:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by ღсяаՀу∙թіхіе∙ժմѕτღ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question; what can you do to "make her" get over her ex. To begin with, it's pretty hard (if not impossible) to "make" anybody do anything. What you can do is keep being the great and wonderful guy you always have been. Either she understands you are fantastic or she doesn't. If she doesn't understand how great you are, you really don't want her. She's not that bright. On the other hand, if she recognizes how wonderful you are, she won't even see the other guy's pictures. How about your pics? Does she have any of those? Have you given her any? Why not take a bunch of the two of you doing different things together, have them framed and give them to her. Pretty soon there won't be any room for the other guy's pics.
2007-04-08 17:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it's a little difficult to say without knowing what kind of person she is. But on just what I can tell now, I would say it's a possibility she may have commitment issues, or if the ex was her first long relationship she may be having hard ties dealing with what she has grown accustomed to. But all in all, I believe you should let her know it makes you feel uncomfortable, sure she can still like her ex but holding all those memories in her new relationship with you is not something you want to deal with. You and her ex are different, let her know that. Or if she is a lil begrudging to let go of those pictures, take some of you with her. Make new memories and enjoy what time you have together. Let her know that you and her are what's happening now, not her ex and her past. Well, thats about it. Hope this helps.
2007-04-08 17:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by Shadowed Silver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not being selfish by not wanting those pictures there. Truth is you have to talk to her, and let her know those pictures being up everywhere where you can see them bother you a little because it is of an ex. She is with you now, and its not really right to have pictures up of your ex all over the place especially since your supposed to be with this new person, and in a new relationship. I mean if you talk to her about it, and how it bothers you chances are she will understand, and take them down/put them away if she dont throw them away. There is nothing wrong with her having pictures of her ex because it was a part of her life, and memory, but its not cool leaving them out all over the place when you have a different boyfriend.. Tell her its cool if he dont want to get rid of them, but maybe its time to take them down, and at least put them away. Just be honest with her without making her feel like your angry with her, or anything like that. You dont have to get into detail if she asks why, but you have to tell her something so talk to her. Even saying(in a nice voice like your not upset)we can take some pictures of us, and put them up now if you want to.. hope this helps.
2007-04-08 18:00:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me advise you that go away from her for 4 to 5 days and observe that does she realize about your exitence and want you to come back , it will help you to know about her sincerity towards you or she just passing her time with you.
Secondly dont argue her for her ex boy friend pics, when bring her to your room put some other girl pics in your room and tell her that she was your ex girl friend then just observe the behaviour, if she says to move those pictures from your wall then do it just observe, hear and do it.
Never say her that you love her wait the time when she says you that she loves you truely and can not live without you.
2007-04-08 17:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously she hasn't really let go of her past. It seems it was rather difficult for her to do so. She should take those pictures from her life. I mean she can keep them in a photo album for memories but not everywhere in her room where she can see them anytime. You can talk to her nicely, ask her whether she is comfortable with her current relationship with you. Tell her your true feelings about the photos (if she cares about your feelings she will remove those pictures off the walls). Take more pictures when both of you hang outs...so she can replace those.
2007-04-08 17:48:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you feel threatened by the presence of these pictures. I think you should deal with this; see this situation as an opportunity to grow, rather than simply attempting to eliminate the source of the fear.
If you can't feel secure in this relationship, then it isn't worth much; if the girl still likes her ex, then the relationship is also fragile. Asking her to get rid of the pictures is a cheap fix.
2007-04-08 17:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not extraordinary to hold close photos of his youngsters up, regardless of the undeniable fact that that's totally unusual that he continues to be have been given his ex putting up on his wall - maximum individuals prefer to do away with those form of recommendations, or a minimum of attempt to conceal them away in a field someplace. It sounds like he's no longer completely over her yet. I actual does no longer sense comfortable if my boyfriend did that. It shows that he's not any longer taking your emotions into attention. it rather is honestly no longer a good sign. you may ask him how he could sense in case you nevertheless had photos of your ex-boyfriends putting up on your mattress room. i'm fairly valuable he does no longer like it. :-)
2016-10-21 09:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by troesch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound selfish: I'd be mad, too, and anyone who says they wouldn't feel the same way you do are either against monogamy or liars.
Perhaps you could just say something such as 'Who's that?'
If she says it's her ex, it's officially no longer in hiding. Then you could perhaps say something like "...You still have pictures of your ex on your wall?"
At that point, you sound less like the jealous boyfriend (who would most likely say 'EW, he's UGLY!') and more like the confused boyfriend. Maybe it'll make her feel uncomfortable enough for her to take them down.
2007-04-08 17:45:53 · answer #9 · answered by Furr. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not believe that you are being selfish, your girlfriend is. Ask her how she would feel if you had pictures of your ex all over? I am sure she wouldn't feel comfortable.
Tell her that it makes you feel as though she still has feelings for her ex and if she loves you, she would take the picrues down.
2007-04-08 17:45:41 · answer #10 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋