My girlfriend has been mad at me, and rightfully so, because I expressed some really immature thoughts about sex. (As in I don't see any reason why we shouldn't) I have changed my mind and recognize where i went wrong and really want to just forget it happened. Unfortunately, I think we had our arguement right as she was thinking I was only interested in her for that (which is not even close to true). I'm kinda new to the serious relationship thing and I know that she is very confused and upset. Whats your take on it?
2007-04-08 17:37:24 · 23 answers · asked by Grizzly UM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask her how she feels about the whole affair, and take it from there.
If she, by chance, refuses to communicate on the issue, then you've done all you can, and the ball is entirely in her court.
2007-04-08 17:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be in trouble with many females until you realize that sex is an activity for married people. The purpose of male and female relationships in dating is for two people to get to know each other better and to develop a system of relating, planning and working together that will carry both of them through all the circumstances of a lifetime, including all types of decision making and parenthood. You must always put the friendship and the needs of the individual you are befriending on equal footing with your own needs. Sex is important in a successful marriage but not as important as the media makes it look in any heterosexual, romantic relationship. Everyone who is not married or ready to commit is in trouble when they give sex priority and drag it out of it's proper perspective.
2007-04-09 00:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like bad timing on that part. well, just talk to her and tell her you're sorry and that you were being an insensitive jerk. nothing makes me more forgiving than a man calling himself a jerk. if you really want to work it tell her you were being an ***. (unless she doens't like cursing) more importantly you have to look at her reasons for not wanting to and your statement could have been extremely insensitive. especially if her reasons are for religous reasons. if you talk to her and apologize and are genuinely sorry she will more than likely forgive you. and you'll be able to prove that you care about her and not just having sex. tell her you understand and that you want to do things when she's ready. sex is a HUGE responsibility because sex leads to babies. even with condoms you aren't totally protected. condoms are only approximately 80% effective which to me isn't safe enough to me. also you have to worry about std's a lot these days. i always find the best way to go is unless you can see yourself having a baby with the person there's no need in having sex with that person. and no i'm not very old so this isn't just the ramblings of an old fart.
2007-04-09 00:46:19 · answer #3 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem too young to stress out about stuff like this. If it's really meant to be things will be worked out. If not then don't even bother. But for now, just be honest with her. There's no need to lie. It's human nature to think of stuff like that and it's really hard to hold it in. Give her time to think about it too. No need to rush things. Prove to her in some way how sorry you are (if it's really that bad which it probably isn't cause girls think of that stuff too, just not as out loud as us men). There's is always other option to have fun so have fun. Remember, if you want to last, shes always right and shes the only girl in the world to you. Good Luck!
2007-04-09 00:49:50 · answer #4 · answered by bro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am sure she is offended. There are certain things a gentleman should not reveal.
I would send her some flowers with a note that states" I was out of line." Also reassure her that you have a strong attraction for her and they you felt comfortable to share some "inner thoughts" with her, but perhaps you over-stepped some boundaires. Let her know you have a great deal of respect for her and you have no expectations for her to do anything she is not ready to do.
And in the future, try and keep ALL thoughts that infringe upon a woman's dignity to yourself. :)
2007-04-09 00:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by LisaLou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try telling her that you made a mistake and that you are sorry. Ask her if she will forgive you. If she says that she will then forget about it and move on. If she says that she won't forgive you then tell her that you will have to let her go. Its not fun for either of you but you will get over her. Remind her that you were sorry. Tell her it was you who made the mistake and that you really like her (if you really do) so she knows you are serious. Also, look her in the EYES. That will tell her that you mean it. Be truthful.
Hope this helps.
2007-04-09 00:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by snoopiegirl727 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a serious talk with her. tell her how u feel and tell her that u KNOW u messed up and tell her how much u really care about her. if u can just be honest with her it will really help u in the long run, because honesty is a HUGE part in having a committed relationship! but do expect that she needs some time to cool off after what u said......
2007-04-09 00:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by ilt_21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to wake this girl up and tell her that it is very normal and natural for you to express your desires about sex and that there is nothing wrong with talking about it to someone you really like a lot.You are not the problem she is and you need to stand up to her about this if you don't the two of you will never find out what it's like to be together like that.When you like someone you want to have sex with them as I'm sure you are well aware of, being a guy and all.
2007-04-09 00:53:55 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep trying to talk to her about it, and let her know that you're not just using her for sex. If she's not ready, and you try to pressure her into it, then you're not a very good boyfriend. On the other hand...if you're nice about it and understand that she wants to wait, then you're a great guy. It is very responsible for you to admit that you were *immature* about it. Some guys just deny their stupidity sometimes. But just talk things out with her and I'm sure everything will work out. Good luck =]
2007-04-09 00:41:51 · answer #9 · answered by xfallendaysx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading that I'm as confused as you are.
It takes time dude, its a learning curve, whatever the circumstances of an argument if you guys are meant to be you will work through it.
Don't stress to much, ignore the sex side of things completely for a while and just concentrate on other stuff.
All the best.
2007-04-09 00:41:56 · answer #10 · answered by Whatever. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, you're kind of in the doghouse. I would recommend flowers and a romantic card. Explain (in the card and tell her verbally) that you are sorry and that you love HER and want to be with her whether you ever have sex or not. Let her know that you're on her schedule for physical intimacy and that when you bring up sex with her its because you find her attractive and sexy, not because you're trying to pressure her.
2007-04-09 00:49:26 · answer #11 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋