Um... embarrassing sex question?

Question

My boyfriend can only have sex once a day... we can never get him through a second round! Sometimes he can come twice a day if the second time is via other methods, and I can tell he is embarrassed about it and so I am wondering if there is anything I can do or he can take to increase his libido/confidence... I'm not giving him a hard time or anything (I know its a sensitive issue and am always understanding) I know it's normal, but I am curious too!
He is 19 years old and a varsity wrestling captain in college, really athletic so it's not like he is really old or anything.
Thanks guys!

Answer 1

Can ONLY come once a day? Are you joking? Most men do NOT COME that often - more like 4-5 times a week max and usually 2-3 if they've been married more than 5-10 years. I have a very high drive and over the years I'd say my average is once a day. So be thankful he can do it that often. But to help you, you'll need to let him have a couple of hours in between to replenish the fluids and to rekindle the sex drive (unlike women who can have endless orgasms after they've learned how, most male orgasms diminish in intensity so that by the 4th or 5th time he is raw and it hurts and there is nothing left to come with. You might consider using Viagra, but realize that it is not altogether unpleasant for a man to have staying power for the lady's benefit even though he is not getting off for himself (after a couple of times).

Answer 2

First of all your guy is normal….. but it's important to understand what that means. Going to the doctor would be an extreme waste of money as some have suggested here…. because the doctor would probably laugh.

What you're discussing is called the recovery time. Time between when a man ejaculates and then it's able to ejaculate again. This can range from 15 to 30 minutes to 30 hours. Essentially the body supplies one chemical to get the guy interested in hard then when he has an orgasm there are release of chemicals that subdue the first ones. If the release of the subduing chemicals is much stronger than maybe it others then it'll be quite a while before that wears off.

It has nothing to do with how much he loves you. When I wrote my book about sexuality we actually asked this question to men and women….. The women were asked a question what is the average number of times a guy comes with you in one night?

33% said 1 time
45% said 2 times
15% said 3 times
4% said 4 times
3% said 5-6 times

The guys said they came on the average
24% said 1 time
49% said 2 times
18% said 3 times
5% said 4 times
2% said 5-6 times

When we asked women what is the record number of times (the most) a guy has come in one evening

3% said 1 time
Over 50% said 2-3 times

So what you can gather from this based on what 2,000 men and women said was 25% of the male population on the average is only going to come 1 time an evening. Even then 50% said that the record number of times was only two or three.

He did mention one thing that is on the varsity wrestling team…. is not taking any form of steroids even and precursors his he???? I say this because steroids can have a nasty opposite effect of producing estrogen. Estrogen would deftly take the starch out of his pants.

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Answer 3

Its not too uncommon for him not to want to have sex more then once a day.. most people dont even have sex that often. It could be all in his head if hes thinking about it too much it can make him not be able to perform again, or he may just not want to, and wants to do other things. Talk to him if these to things are not it then really if you both see it as a problem have him talk to a doctor on the issue, and see if there is anything they would reccomend.. Have you tried lots of forplay then without stopping the forplay just switched to sex.. Most of the time if you do something like that it helps because you said it yourself sometimes he can get off a second time doing other things so start with those other things, and while hes really into it switch into sex, and see what happens. He can be over working hisself working out, and everything since he is really athletic, and that can cause him not to be able to do it more then once keep that in mind. Also make sure he isnt using any type of steriods, etc because that can cause the problem too. Talk to a doctor for options, and advice ob/gyn perferabbly. I wouldnt reccomend using any kind of meds to increase his libido because most of the time you become dependant on them, and cant even get it up at all without it once you start taking it then also sometimes it wont get up even while taking it, be careful when it comes to that. I think you just need to try switching it up a bit.. different positions, more forplay, etc should help, and make sure he dont ware hisself out working out, wrestling, etc before he trys to have sex, and things like that because like I said it can make it hard for him to keep up. Thats really all I can think of.

Answer 4

Good grief! Once per day is plenty! There really isn't anything you can do about this. He shouldn't be embarrassed about that either . . . if he is, it's because he knows that you're expecting more of him than he can give. Better to teach him how to please you better the first time around. Contrary to popular belief, sex is hard work for men and it isn't good to do it very often. I just had to laugh at the other answers saying that a guy that age should be able to orgasm four times in one day . . . HA! That's like seven times the average rate . . . . Good night!

Answer 5

Do you mean - he can only come once during sex or once a day? If I am not 90% turned on after the first time I ***, I'll go limp. Then it takes a few minutes. I have to be 100% turned on to come again right after. Else, it takes an hour.

For girls, they can watch tv and not think about sex and still *** a few times.

Answer 6

just give him oral sex everytime yall are about to have sex. Or try something out of normal of your regular self something really freaky. If that doesnt work he might have anxiety and since he hasnt been performing after the first time, he has it built up in his head that he never will perform. U might have to take him to the doctor and get him some xanax that will knock out the fear.

Answer 7

Hmm once a day is not enough. At 19 maybe 3 times , but once , hmm something is wrong there sweetie. Perhaps a Dr. or you can discuss this sometime when you feel he is not going to get upset. Good Luck to you.

Answer 8

Have him or you jack him off in the first round, don't give him any of you at all. Let the first round be just the jack off. Then he will be able to go that second round with the rubber on, for a good while.

Answer 9

He may have a problem he needs to see a doctor for also if you make it an issue the embarrassment will cause him not to get an erection just lay off the issue for awhile if he is still having a problem then he may need to see someone

Answer 10

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