I think graduating from High School is an important milestone and it should be celebrated. My 17 year old son wants nothing to do with a party. Do I go against his wishes and have one anyway? I have asked him why and he tells me no one would come (not true, of course) also said he doesn't want to be the center of attention. I would really appreciate some feedback on this. Thanks in advance.
2007-04-08 17:24:01 · 11 answers · asked by seashell 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ok as a Senior, and also as someone who is shy and hates being the C of A, I say respect your son's wishes. He will appreciate you more for that, than if you throw him a party he was against in the first place. Sometimes parents don't listen to kids because they think their way is better and then end up fighting because it's not what their kid asked for. When we say "no one is going to come" we don't actually mean "NO ONE". What we mean is "no one, cool or interesting that I want to invite but won't, will come."
Especially since he's a guy, he's not likely to change his mind like a girl would so I say just let him celebrate it how and if he wants to at all..
2007-04-08 17:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by LuvUrGirl 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-02 07:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what -- what about the family taking your son out for DINNER the day of Graduation .. and NOT making a 'big thing' of the event.
With close family there, he can relax (believe me .. he is most likely already stressed by his life choices), and just wants to keep the 'celebration' small.
Just go along with his wishes at this time. It is HIS graduation .. and instead of spending so much on a 'party' -- how about if that same amount of money is used on a 'gift certificate' for either school books/supplies for College or a 'starter' purchase for his own place to live!
2007-04-08 17:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by sglmom 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Go ahead and have a party - when YOU graduate from something.
If this is your son's graduation we're talking about, you respect your son's wishes.
Gee, it's not rocket science, you know?
2007-04-08 17:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps a compromise? Instead of a huge party, ask if he'd prefer a small gathering of family and close friends only. If he still says he doesn't want a party, don't push it.. and don't fret it... you can have a small celebration dinner or something simple just for the two of ya
2007-04-08 17:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your son is mature enough to decide! Not celebrating a occasion does not mean that he is frustrated or bored with life!He may be just introward---May be he dosen't like most of his school mates ! He may be having a limited friend circle!OR he may have different approach to look at celebrations!Don't just force him--Discuss with him in case he has some better idea to celebrate--may be within the family! Don't just follow the trend--Every person is unique and has his own perception to look at things!! However I can feel how excited you must be for this occasion!
2007-04-08 17:47:55 · answer #6 · answered by nkskl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a high school student...
he obviously would rather not make a big deal about it, sure it is important and stuff but think about his wishes... what will you accomplish by giving him something he doesn't really want?
maybe you could just have a close family only party?
2007-04-08 17:28:21 · answer #7 · answered by M to the ATT 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being that your Son is almost of adult age, I would definitely say to respect his wishes. A lot of people are not social butterflies and feel uncomfortable being the center of attention. Don't put your Son through something that is going to make him feel uncomfortable.
For now, I would suggest to pray and maybe check back with your Son next week to see if his feelings have changed. I'm a firm believer in power of prayer.
Good luck to you,
~Mom of a teenager and tween-ager
2007-04-08 17:38:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even you still want to recognize him, maybe offer to do something special for him instead of having a party. Maybe help him buy a new car or a computer for college. This way he still feels special but doesn't have to be recognized publicly.
2007-04-08 17:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you know most graduation parties have-booze, at least the cool-parties do.maybe he already knows your ideas on that and he doesn't want to be the one who has anon liqueur party.maybe hes afraid to be uncool cool?but as you know booze has no right to be at a high school graduation?id say, your proud of him aand want his family nd family friends to share in your happiness, go ahead, and let him invite what friends he wants, but these parties help with last minute needed college money or new car money?it will help him get started on his new life. just tell him your proud and you want to show him off, one last time, congratulations and god bless
2007-04-08 17:40:00 · answer #10 · answered by debbie d 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋