I just recently cheated on my boyfriend who I have a good relationship with. I cheated on him this evening actually. With a guy who has a girlfriend, but is in love with me.
I have never cheated on my boyfriend before, I love him more than anything. I am just really bored! I miss the spark... anyway... right now ( 2 hours later) I'm feeling confident in myself, and happy. I know that soon feelings of guilt are going to set in... What am I to expect in terms of the guilt?
I don't want to cheat again, that one quick fling satisfied me. General advice appreciated
2007-04-08 17:20:50 · 16 answers · asked by thankgodformaryjane 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Break it off with your boyfriend. You are bored with him, you miss the spark, and you cheated on him. Sounds like that relationship has run it's course. He doesn't deserve to have a gf who cheats on him. The guilt you feel will depend on how wrong you think you were. You might not feel much at all or it may eat at you for a long time.
2007-04-08 17:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cheat because you're bored?
WARNING TO ALL MEN WHO DATE THIS GIRL IN THE FUTURE: make sure she doesn't get bored because she'll cheat on you and maybe give you an SDT because she got bored.
Lady, if you really like or even love someone you don't cheat on them. All you woman out there saying you cheat because there isn't any "spark" left in your relationship like when you first started dating are total bubble heads. How the hell would you feel if it was flipped around? He cheated on your and gave you the same reason : He was bored of your ***? I think you need to "take a break" from him and see where you are with your feelings with him. People who really care about there partner don't cheat. They don't go and share spit with someone else and then go home to there long term relationship. Take a break from him. Figure things out. I would even go as far as saying to tell him but I'm willing to bet anything that you're not the type of girl to tell him your error.... What happens next time you get "bored"? What happens when the guy you hook up with starts getting feelings for you or starts telling his friends that you're a "sports f@ck"? Yeah....if you really care about this man like you claim you do you wouldn't be cheating in the first place. Get a sex toy next time.
2007-04-09 00:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by platinum_civic 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You made a conscious decision to cheat, and in the process you might have helped destroy not only your relationship but the guys you slept with as well. Other than the fact that you made the bed that you must now sleep in, I will offer no advice. Good luck dealing with the guilt.
2007-04-09 00:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont have to tell you but if it get s back to your bf it could be the end of your relationship is that moment of satisfaction worth the loss of your relationship ? That spark you miss can come back if you talk with your bf and disscuse it with him. but i dont envy you because if your bf is a good guy you just hurt someone you care about for a little bit of pleasure,.I know you know all this but comunication is the key , if you dont communicate then what lead up too you cheating will happen again , sounds like this other guy pays you a ton of attention and wants you , that can be very addicting , but tell your guy the way you feel , that is if you want to stay with him .
2007-04-09 00:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by ted75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard many a time that sometimes the best thing to happen to a stagnent relationship is to have a meaningless "fling" Don't tell anyone who might spill the beans. Just go and give your BF the same kind of excitement!!
2007-04-09 00:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by not for now 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you should've NEVER done that because I have recently been cheated on and I didn't like the feeling.That was the worst feeling that I ever had. Me and my boyfriend had a good relationship like you and your boyfriend and all of a sudden, his friends told me that he was cheating on me and his friends took me to his house and I caught him and that girl at his house. And when that happened, I said "**** you, It's over"!!!! (Don't cheat again because it hurts BAD!!)
2007-04-09 00:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by ~Army Girlfriend~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but you dont love him becuz if you did that thought wouldnt even cross your mind. you are not even taking his feelings into consideration. look im not going to lie i didnt once and thats why we are no longer together, i felt like a slut and i couldnt even forgive myself so i told him and he was going to take me back but i couldnt live with myself knowing that i did that to him so i had to let it go. but you , you have no remorse for **** and that is so selfish of you. if you are bored or so you say, then dont be with with but dont cheat on him. you wouldnt like it if he was cheating on you and definately wouldnt give him another chance so get real wit yourself and solve your problems,before you go off and mess up sumones elses life. and he has the right to know and if you love him like you CLAIM you do then have some type of respect for him atlease and tell him cuz we already know you got no respect for yourself if you doin that.
2007-04-09 00:35:21 · answer #7 · answered by *Gelli* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw the guilt have fun while your still young,you don't want to look back on your life and say,hm mm I have only been with 2 or3 guys I really haven't had that much fun in my life.You will be so sorry if you don't go out and have fun.
2007-04-09 00:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
in this case,u r guilty,but smetimes we dont need to be honestly,i mean u dont need to tell him what have you done to your bf cos smetimes honesty will make u lose what u love..if you think that you dont want to cheat anymore,then prove it...n about the spark in relationship,u shouldnt wait n just let the spark come itself,u have to work on it...do smething diff with your bf
2007-04-09 00:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me if you truly love him then you would not have cheated
on him. sound like you have some issues to deal iwth if you
cheated because you bored. then next time you get bored
it will happen again. you need to be honest with yourself
and fiqure out what you want. time to handle your business
or time to get out. he deserve to be with someone that is
honest and true. you not right now.
2007-04-09 00:26:45 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋