I have never encountered this problem! I know Im good in bed and take care of my body, but my bf n I never have sex! I have needs and only see him on the weekends, I am ALWAYS the one to initiate, and that gets old really fast. I want to feel...wanted. What can I do? I think he might have a low sex drive and that sucks but if theres any advice to give please do! I need some good hot lovin lol Im only 21!!
2007-04-08 16:59:57 · 17 answers · asked by allykat21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's time to have a talk with your boyfriend. You have to get him to tell you why he hasn't been initiating. Tell him what has been upsetting you. Unless he knows what's wrong he won't be able to fix it.
You'll have to be firm on this. Don't let him get away with his usual routine. Nor should you initiate the next sexual encounter. By initiating sex, you might be discouraging him from initiating.
If he does have a low sex drive, you should recommend that he see his doctor. There are treatments for a low sex drive for men.
Finally, you should be prepared to break up with him. Frankly, if you're not happy with your sex life now, you're going to be more upset when you're older.
I wish you the best of luck.
2007-04-08 17:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by stedh1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any chance he is seeing someone else? How old is he? Does he smoke (weed or cigs)? Does he have a high stress job? Does he take care of his body? There are alot of things that can cause a guy to have a decreased libido or become impotent. talk to him! If you are dating him and having sex with him (when he will) then you should be able to ask him if he still finds you attractive or if there is somehting you can do to get him in the mood. You might be surprised at his long list, lol.
2007-04-09 00:05:13 · answer #2 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I used to have the same problem! Even though my boyfriend has gotten a little better, we still don't have sex as much as I would think that any couple should. I actually agree with what some of the men have said- he's getting it somewhere else! I mean, you can confront him about it all you want, we know that men don't tell the truth if they want to keep you around. So, face it just like I had to. He's getting his fill somewhere else and your getting the leftovers! I'm going through it too, girl!!! It may be time for us to move on to because we're tired of just getting scraps!!!!!!
2007-04-09 00:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh, you poor thing. that really sucks!! i cant imagine. you should just ask him what the deal is.... maybe ask what his biggest fantasy is and do it, or dont ask just try and figure it out, ya know, like the star wars bikini one..... but maybe he doesnt feel comfortable with it??? i dont know. i dont want you to go and try to do something and him totally panic and freak out and say no... i cant imagine what guy would.... but ive never met a guy with a low sex drive either. you pooor girl. i sympathize with you.
with me, it's a deal breaker, i just couldnt hang. so maybe its better that you find out this earlier in the relationship rather than later... i would really sit and talk to him, thats if he will talk about it.. maybe sex was considered and shown that it was a bad thing or something to be ashamed of when he was growing up... ? But then again, with me, that would make it even better!!! lol! goood luck honey!~you need it, dont settle.
2007-04-09 00:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him whats the problem, cause believe me sweetheart i have the EXACT same problem, and im 19 and hes 24 and we both take care of our bodys, and he has a low sex drive to, im confused also, but i would ask.
2007-04-09 00:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by Kathryn E 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone that wants sex and needs to feel needed usually has big self esteem issues, you should speak to mature adult about it. When you feel good about yourself,you don't need to get laid all the time, but you actually get laid more because it's a turn on when you act like you don't need it and then explode in lustful pleasure.
2007-04-09 00:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Sex drives don't match sometimes, and that sucks. You can either keep initiaing and accept him as he is, or find a manimal who is a little more your speed. Best to you!
2007-04-09 00:04:54 · answer #7 · answered by Artemisia G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy some nice pretty lace cloths and make him want some.
If that doesn't work then sit down with him and talk to him, communication is a great tool.
2007-04-09 00:04:35 · answer #8 · answered by Chris H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Advice: Get Married.
2007-04-09 00:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by Phlow 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Geez, if he has no drive now, imagine 10 years from now. Find a man with a libido, and enjoy yourself.
2007-04-09 00:04:31 · answer #10 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋