This is very important to me so please A honestly. Okay so this is the case: recently I broke-up with my boyfriend because I'm ALMOST sure that he has cheated on me + with more than 1 girl! I got mad but not very because I don't kno 4 sure that this happened. He is denying it all the way + even worse is making me feel guilty
4 not believing him! its been a week sense we broke-up + yesterday, we kept acting more and more like friends. IT REALLY BOTHERS ME! i wonder if he's just using me because he thinks that i still like him. just a month ago my close girlfriend had the same thing happen to her! a+ she now KNOWS that her boyfriend did cheat! R ALL GUYS LIKE THIS?!! were all in high school if youre wondering the age. the thing that im wondering about the monst is whether or not i should be friends with him! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!
2007-04-08 16:37:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, I can TOTALLY RELATE. Basically, I'm a guy who was dating a girl a few years younger and still in high school...I was ALMOST sure my g/f was cheating on me with her ex (who she was still friends with) and this other guy who lived out of state. Anytime I brought up my feelings and unhappiness....she denied it, always had an excuse, and made ME feel guilty for not trusting her! At the time, I had tried to break up with her like you did, but she convinced me to make it a break and the next day, she kept talking to me like NOTHING HAPPENED...saying she missed me, loved me, asking if I wanted to chill, DROVE ME NUTS!. So...while you're not sure he was cheating, HIS BEHAVIOR WAS OBVIOUSLY SKETCHY ENOUGH FOR YOU TO THINK SO and you did a good thing getting out. NOT ALL GUYS ARE LIKE THIS...but A LOT ARE and are good at manipulating. BE STRONG and don't fall for his ****...if he's acting like friends the day after you broke up...then he BELIEVES HE HAS CONTROL OVER YOU and he's gonna USE YOUR FEELINGS FOR HIM AGAINST YOU...my ex did the same thing and I got back with her twice! gave up my pride and dignity both times because I was weak...but eventually I GOT OUT. As for BEING HIS FRIEND: If you don't have feelings for him anymore AT ALL...you can try, but sounds like he's gonna try and remind you why you liked him and try to get you back. I think you should TAKE TIME APART...actually feel the breakup...and when you feel like you finally moved to a place where you can have a platonic friendship...then go for it...but BE CAUTIOUS...guys are tricky.
2007-04-08 17:05:47 · answer #1 · answered by Mr.Optimist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think he's been cheating on you because your girlfriend had a similar experience? A high school tends to be a small world. If he was cheating, it will come out somehow. You can trust your instincts or you can trust him. But then there's always the option of finding someone who is just very trustworthy and dating that person instead. You'll probably be happier.
2007-04-08 23:41:11 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that maybe you made a mistake? Just because he is a guy doesn't mean he cheated, girl cheat just as much as men.
You are probably wrong and now you screwed up. Oh well live and learn. Maybe next time you will be sure before you claim someone did something.
2007-04-08 23:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you suspect he cheated on you than he probably did. Always trust your gut and if he did than someone who does that doesn't respect or care about you. So if he doesn't care enough about you in a relationship than he won't care about you in a friendship. He's just trying to ease his guilty conscience and think he did nothing wrong. typical jerk move. I wouldn't be friends with him. Because to be brutally honest he doesn't care about you one lick and you'll just be wasting your time and energy. Sorry it happened. No one deserves that
2007-04-08 23:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by blessed mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a three ring circus. If I were you, I wouldn't have anything to do with anybody until you're out of high school. That's the problem. Forget about him. Be strong and move forward.
2007-04-08 23:43:02 · answer #5 · answered by All That Glitters isn't Gold 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same thing happend to nme once but he didnt cheat on me. but similar. but he always acts like my friend one time then tells me stuff then hella plays me. my best things to tell you is to just not talk to him adn just get him out of your life. it only causes more problems. you will find some one way better and will treat you like you should be treated. and yeah 95 % of guys are like that. there jerks. :)
2007-04-08 23:42:47 · answer #6 · answered by peace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u kno wat.. u shudnt b friends with him like the "trusting, tell stuff to, hang out all the time" kind of friends.. u shud play it cool. u got angry with him, thats fine. let him deny. w/e. u shud juss act like it duznt even bother u.. dont let him know that ur stressin about ur frendship.. make it look like ur the cool chick that can keep her cool in bad situations.. that never lets the guy get the best of her.. most of all.. keep him at a distance, but make him think like ur rele cool with him at the same time. he'll realize wat hes missin out on. and he'll b sprry if he did cheat. and if he didnt, he'll say u treated him kinda fairly cuz u didnt flip out on him and cut him out of ur ife.
hope this helped !
2007-04-08 23:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by LiLxLadie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋