How do I get him to chase me like he used to?

Question

My boyfriend have been together for 7 months. We've been fighting for the past month. I spoke to him, telling him I'm trying to hard to make him happy etc. It ended with me trying not to cry, saying "I just don't know what to do anymore".At that moment, he told me, “I love you so much. I care about you more then anything. But, I don't want to." Then I bursted into tears. Him, seeing me cry, started crying himself, and held me tight. He looked me in the eyes, and told me, holding the necklace I gave him within the first week of going out, (When I gave it to him, he told me the day he takes it off, is the day he'll stop loving me.) "No matter what happens, I'm never taking this off." Ever since then, it's been almost two weeks, and we haven't been happier. We aren't fighting, and things seem better then ever. It now seems, I'm chasing him. It seems as if I'm putting out all the effort for us to see each other.
How do I get him to Chase me like he used to?

Answer 1

Make him want you... dont answer his phone call all the time.. dont tell him where you are going.. make him wonder what you are doing(but not to the point where he thinks u are cheating) ... but make sure when you are with him that you still show him that you love him.. but make him put some effort into... by having him call you... when you talk on the phone tell him you have to go and have him call you back in 10 mins.

Answer 2

I could be wrong but it seems like you are making this guy your everything and that is a no-no. You should definitely take some "ME" time and chill with your friends/loved ones and not smother him. Stop chasing him and worrying about him so much. Let him chill with his boys and do his thing, give him some space. Once he notices that you aren't all in his face,calling him all the time etc... he may start to wonder hey what's up? and come chasing after you for a change. Plus no guy wants a girl no other guy would date so let him see that other guys are interested in you and he will definitely come around more often.

Answer 3

I'm gonna tell you the truth girl. Relationships have tons of problems because their partner didn't live up to their expectaions. People go thru relationships trying to live up to the other persons expections, and when they can't do it anymore, their true self comes out and that is why there are so many disappointments. Let him be him and let you be you, and then you will never be disappointed girl. "Newness" always wears off, but the value always appreciates. He may not chase you like he used to, but I'm sure his love for you is ever stronger. Tell him how you feel, and you HAVE to believe whatever he tells you. Don't keep driving yourself crazy with thoughts that he never even said. When someone does that it drives their partner away. Love him, trust him, and he will in turn do the same. Good luck chikee!!!!

Answer 4

You said that you haven't been happier and things are better than ever. You related a story about how affectionate and heartfelt he is. Are you looking for problems? Why aren't you just enjoying your relationship instead of studying who does what? Relationships change and evolve... nothing will remain exactly the same as the first day or week or month. Enjoy what you have and quit thinking so hard.

Answer 5

Well I think the fact that you guys are comfortable and happy is the greatest thing you can get out of a relationship. But he should be doing nice things for you every now and then, just be genuinely nice to him, not to expect things in return, and hopefully he'll do the same, and if not, then let him know you need a little attention, everyone can be a little oblvious at times.

Good luck!

Answer 6

Sounds to me like you are being unreasonable, or are a teenager. After 7 months, the chasing stops. He has you, now start building a relationship, stop playing games! It sounds to me like you have a good thing going. The chasing is the fun part, but building something together is unbelievable. If we had to spend all our time chasing, we would kick you to the curb. I hate to say it, but you seem like a high maintenance pain in the butt. Get over yourself

Answer 7

You can't make him chase you, & you can't change him either. Life is life. You can just be yourself & not focus so much on your problems or what happens between you two, focus on yourself & other stuff for awhile & see what happens, if it doesn't change then things arn't going to work out & maybe you should start window shopping, you may not want to or don't think you'll find someone out there that's right for you...but, there is someone out there for everyone, don't hurt yourself trying to find him, love will find you, don't search for love.
Good luck!

Answer 8

That would just be playing a game, is that what you want to do with him? You claim the two of you are happy now, why do you want to change things. I have a feeling you are a bit high maintenance emotionally, maybe he made the wrong choice...

Answer 9

simple - play hard to get - even though you guys are madly in love, just keep it light - don't get too serious before the magic fades and you guys turn into an odd married old couple - that's one of the things couples do to keep the fire alive - just be fun, playful! You can still be like this and still be loyal and devoted to each other ;)

Answer 10

One thing to do is pin for him as you are for a few weeks, that way hes used to having you around. Then stop calling and let him call. He will miss you and come running back. Show him what hes missing and dont be to obbsessed. Good Luck