well i am 16 and about to have baby :) well my boyfriend is kind of an alcoholic and i'm sure it can hurt the baby some kind of way if its either wehen we kiss and have intemisy ? please help me !!!!
2007-04-08 16:11:59 · 17 answers · asked by ? 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well check this out he is 18 but that dont matter i love him and hes yas hes going to quit and he has for two weeks but i'm still afraid
2007-04-09 11:47:51 · update #1
Oh honey, the only way his alcoholism can hurt you or the baby, is by hindering you to succeed. Your gonna have two people to prepare for adult life, you and your child. If I were you, I'd put him on the back burner for a while. Focus on bettering yourself and your situation right now. Soon it will be everything that's best for your child. You will get so much further in less time if your not carrying an alcoholic. Please be safe, and I wish you the best.
2007-04-08 16:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by jeni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, first off I'm going to be very blunt and straight forward. Please excuse me if I come off rude. There is no such thing as a "kind of an alcoholic." Either you are or your not. If he drinks a lot, that can cause serious problems. Would you be willing to let your boyfriend get trashed and take care of the baby, and possibly risk something bad happening to your child? It sounds like he needs to get his priorities straight before this baby is born.
Now, as far as your question, as long as YOU don't drink, the alcohol is not passed from kissing.
Seriously, take my advice. I was in a very nasty abusive relationship with a man who was an alcoholic and it is NOTHING to mess with. Especially at 16. You are about to bring a child in the world and the both of you need to step up to the plate and mature quite a bit before this baby is born. Alcoholics can and do have the ability to become physically, mentally, and emotionally abusive if they are drunk enough and get upset. Either tell him to quit his drinking and be a responsible father or get the h.e.l.l. out of that relationship before something tragic could happen to the child.
Alcohol and babies are NOT a good mix.
2007-04-08 23:20:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can have an effect on the baby if either of you were drinking during the time you concieved. Now him drinking won't do anything to the baby but you shouldn't put yourself or your unborn child in that type of situation. Get and stay away from him if he isn't willing to do what is best for you, the baby and himself. Taking care of a baby is a lot of hard work and you don't need the extra stress of having a drunk to deal with too. I wish you the best and take care of yourself.
2007-04-08 23:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by fruitylil'me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No It will not hurt your baby. I would like to make a suggestion if you are open to it!. I recommend you getting a few books at the library, like what to expect when you are expecting, or the pregnancy bible, or even the girlfriends guide to pregnancy. These are all excellent books and will give you a lot of answers. Also I would suggest making sure that since he does drink he is not abusive to you in the least... not verbally, not emotionally and not physically. A new baby puts a lot of stress on people and could send him over the edge. If he is abusive he needs treatment now. :) Good luck with your pregnancy.
2007-04-08 23:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by AJ 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A mother drinking just a little bit of alcohol can do permanent brain damage to a baby. But not the father.
2007-04-08 23:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are not an alcoholic your baby will be fine.
If he is serious about being a father then he needs to receive help with his problem immediately, before the baby comes.
I have witnessed children growing up with one or both parents that have an alcohol or drug problem.. and those children suffer hardships through childhood that most of the time affects their adult lives.
2007-04-08 23:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest talking to a counselor or a trusted adult about his problem. Him drinking alcohol will not affect the baby physically in the womb, but the emotional effects of alcohol in a relationship can often be just as bad if not worse than physical effects.
2007-04-08 23:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by luv_bug62982 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Actually during pregnancy, the only way another person can hurt the baby is physically. If he gets rough in a physical way, he doesn't necessarily have to be beating you, but if he even plays with you roughly you need to tell him to stop.
2007-04-08 23:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your baby will be okay as long as your not drinking any. but i would say that once the baby is born its going to be more of is he responsible enough to take care of the baby or is he going to just let it cry its self sick so he can drink
2007-04-08 23:16:34 · answer #9 · answered by ʚϊɞ Krysti ʚϊɞ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
stay away from that man. you are a child yourself. someone that drinks that much is over 21 and has no business touching you since you a minor. and no the alcohol he ingests only hurts him not you its not like second hand smoke from smoking
2007-04-08 23:16:51 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋