Desperately need advice?

Question

I'm putting this question up again because I only got 1 response and I need different people's opinions on this.
After a long time I saw this girl again at my friends house and things were going ok. So now I've been talking to her online, and again everything seems to be going well and she seems to have some interest in me.
I haven't said anything to her about going out or anything yet. I wanna do it exactly right. This girl is really cocky she has turned down every guy that I know.

1- What should I do? Should I tell her to go out with me in a cocky manner? Should I wait?

2- I'm leaving the country in 3 weeks but will be back in 2-3 months. Is there a way to keep her interested in me until I come back?

I understand the people that say don't bother just talk to her in 3 months. But the thing is I think I got something here, howeversmall, it's better than nothing. I don't want to lose that.

Answer 1

Don't ask her out directly yet. Drop a hint like I'm going away for a few months. It would be nice to keep in contact with you while I'm gone. Maybe when I get back we can get together and you can catch me up on what's been happening around here? Act funny and say something like are you gonna miss me while I'm gone? That's just a thought you'll figure something to say. Just keep things light and don't pressure her to go out before you leave You'll have e-mail where you are going? e-mail her and tease her a lot. Make her laugh! Girls like guys who can make them feel happy and make them smile. When you get back then casually bring up the thing about getting together to catch up on gossip. Keep it simple. I hope you get your girl and there's a happy ending to your sweet story!!

Answer 2

Hi You dont say what your salary will be after the couple of years struggling on £14,000, but assuming you will get a hefty pay rise and you are really keen on moving out then........ You could look into self assessment mortgages, this is where the lender is more interested in your ability to pay then how much you earn. The interest rates are sometimes a little higher but you can often borrow more than through the normal route. The Cheshire Building Society is a reputable company to approach for this and you can complete all the paperwork on line. As others have said you must consider the other costs incurred and then account for the on-going costs of bills and living!!! Although if you can afford a two bedroom place you can take in a lodger to help the finances. If you are dead set on it though, follow your dreams and if it goes belly up at least you tried, just go into it with your eyes wide open. Good luck Dean

Answer 3

1. keep getting to know her better and warm up to her so you become one of her friends. don't be cocky. i believe the sincere way is the way to go and she will feel it. there is a reason why people act cocky and it's usually because they're insecure inside. it's a defense mechanism. you should wait if you're going away for 3 months!
2. just call her now and then, email her jokes, include her in your friendly emailing list and find out what interests her first before you take off so you know what to talk about or bring her back a gift for. just keep doing what you would do to keep up a friend and a friendship!

good luck!

Answer 4

Hmmmm... I dated a cocky girl once. Most of them are deeply insecure and use the cocky act as a front. Anyways, the best way to approach a cocky girl is to show her that your not impressed or intimitated by her. The girl I dated was very cocky at first so I just made fun of her about being cocky as if I was not impressed by her. Soon she wasn't so cocky anymore...hahaha

My advice is to just ignore it... show her that your not intimidated by her and that her cockness doesn't impress you or scare you. I think cocky girls are the most fun to go after! They are usually soft as cotton on the inside.

to answer question 2: Just talk to her now and tell her your gonna leave for a while, but don't act like you are pressed to see her when you come back. Cocky girls are use to lots of attention from guys. You will stand out if you give her LESS attention. Talk to her then back off....It will drive her crazy...

Answer 5

Do #1 but not in a cocky manner, a determined manner. No, don't wait, she needs something to keep in mind while you're gone.
#2 Ask her to keep in touch with you while you are gone via the internet. If she does this, hold her interest by describing
where you are and ask her if she would like you to bring her back something from places where you were.

Answer 6

UM....

Leaving the country and want to keep her interested in you.

You will want to ask before you go.
If not...while you are gone she will go out with some cocky guy who found her yes button.

If not part two...while you are away you will go mad thinking about what you could have done before going.

Come up with your plan to ax her out and do so. Get it over with. Ask a few more times. What is it that she wants that the other guys did not have? Do you and can you have it?

I usually need an act of Congress to occur before asking. Recently a lady smiled at me repeatedly every time I smiled at her.

Does your lady return your smiles sincerely?

How did all the other guys ask her out?

Good Luck.

Answer 7

Don't ask her out before you go. Maybe get her address and send her a postcard.

If I were her I'd appreciate that no matter what. And I'd enjoy an attempt to convince me to take a trip abroad as well and then meet up somewhere. She could consider that sketchy if she's not in college, but it's most likely she'd find it romantic whether or not she wanted to date you. As long as you don't suggest it in such a light.

And when you get back... I don't know, but good luck.
(Maybe the reason you're hearing that she turns down every guy is because she wants you to know she has a thing for you.)

Answer 8

OK, let's look at this for what it's worth:
1) This girl is a player and she likes to shoot guys down
2) You're leaving the country in three weeks for three months

WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO EVEN BOTHER?

Spend your last three weeks with people that you can have some real fun with and drop the challenge-match with this....well, never mind.

Do yourself a favor. Don't ask her out now or in three months. There are many women out there that are nice. Date them.

Answer 9

1- no way dont ever speak to a girl like that. have some respect man. wait until the right moment. you will know when that moment is.

2- call her all the time. if calling is too expensive, write her letters. keeping in touch will give her something to look forward to every week which will keep her hooked.

good luck honey
~* Much ♥ *~

Answer 10

just ask her to go out with you in a non-serious way. don't be cocky with it, that may turn her off. since your leaving ask her for a good bye/see you soon casual outing.