My parents are awesome people and truly love God but in some ways they were not honest about how the real world was going to be. My parents were always affectionate finacially stable when they have their large family which I am proud to be a part of? The lifestyle my parents were given was not the lifestyle I received when I got married and for years my husband and I struggled and we are doing well but it took 13 years of marraige and moving 2500 miles form home to have a quality of life. My parents were born in the 30s and in that generation growing up it was a hush hush generations about sex, trials, tribualtions, and obstacles. My question is this although I dont have children how can I help the nieces and nephews in my life when they get married and find it is a lot harder than they thought and help them when they find out life is not fair? What were some things you impressed on your children so they could grow and face real life? Thank you for your answers and God bless you.
2007-04-08 15:59:25 · 8 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
We hear, "Life isn't fair" around here all the time. When my children ask me questions, I always answer honestly. They know that people and things die, that life involves hard work, that we have to wait and save up for things that we want and that disappointment happens. Have honest conversations with them and tell them specifically (if they care to hear) how they can prepare for the bumps in the road that they will face - or how to handle them when they do come along.
2007-04-09 01:30:34 · answer #1 · answered by mennyd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The human brain develops until about the age of 25 or 26 and until that age we do not understand many things very well.. even if we are taught and we THINK we understand...
Think of a very small child that has a dime and you offer this child a nickel for the dime.. they will often trade because for some reason their brain tells them that the nickel is larger and therefore worth more.. even if they have been repeatedly told by their parents that it is not.. they stop trading more because they get into trouble than any other reason (that's why I only made about $1000 off of my nieces and nephews!! Hahahahaahahahaa)...
Children don't observe very well and they certainly don't listen to what older people tell them that life will be like.. they always think that it will be different in the future...
How many times did you see your parents go off to work? and how long did they work? did you never wonder what they did or why they worked so long of hours? probably not.. you were a kid and kids don't worry about such things...
Kids in school don't even listen to teachers when they say that everyone today needs a good education.. kids don't BELIEVE that they need an education, they think they can get rich like Bill Gates without having a degree or they can play professional sports and make LOTS of money!!...
And then, young adults fall in love and believe they need to get married and start a family when they are not ready to do so with any stability, even when people around them are saying that they are too young.. and then they have their first child and everything falls apart.
2007-04-08 23:20:42 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Tom♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't have a large family, I've got 2 girls, but I come from an extremely large, extremely old family. I teach my girls that they should treat each other with the utmost respect and love, above all others. I do this because one day my husband and I will be gone and all they will have immediate family-wise will be each other.
I also teach my girls how to handle a budget, the importance of education, how to cook, clean, do laundry and struggle along just like we do now ... I do it by example and a lot of yelling and screaming lol (j/k)
2007-04-08 23:06:21 · answer #3 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Accept atheism into your life and all this nonsense will just go away.
Then, do your very best to live this one and only life you will ever get to the best of your ability, sriving to improve the situation of your immediate family and spreading outward from there if you can.
Family is important but if they are loving, despite differences of opinion, then your adopted lifestyle will be acceptable.
It's just like admitting to your parents that you are gay - what a shock to their system - but they will get over it. Hey - I didn't mean to imply that you were gay, just a hypothetical example.
God does not bless me, as it is imaginary. That's where you must start.
2007-04-08 23:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The sure foundation... Jesus Christ<>< <>< <>< I have older friends. 70's and 80's and I just love the fellowship I have with them. Some are in nursing homes others are still at home. They are such a blessing to me. I love there stories of the old days. God bless you.<>< <>< <><
2007-04-08 23:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have five children, and now five grand children. I have always let them know they can ask me about anything, and I never candy coated life. Now they tell me more than I want to know, and they are all mentally healthy adults, and one very healthy 16 year old daughter.
2007-04-08 23:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by white_water_nut 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be candid ask the children's parents first. They may not want you to point out hardships to their children.
You can do what you want with your own but if you step over the boundaries you may never see those kids again.
2007-04-08 23:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pray for them!.
and tell them about life.
and be there for them, cuz when something's hard, it's good to have someone to tell about it.
2007-04-08 23:05:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋