I believe in Jesus and...?

Question

I believe in Jesus and I believe he died for us and so that we could be saved.

BUT even knowing this I can't stop from sinning. I don't hurt others, all my sins are private.

The problem is that I don't see them as sins because they don't hurt anyone else.

I don't steal, or kill, or lie, or stuff like that. I do like sex. (I am not a****)

I do not have sex with just anyone anytime but I just don't see why this is wrong. I am serious so please no mean answers. I wouldlike to know why its wrong. Not just cuz the bible says it is. does it say why its wrong? or is it just cuz we should save it for our future husband/wife?

I am very safe, have never had a disease or pregnancy. I just don't get why its not right.

Thanks.

Answer 1

How could I disagree with your logic? Sex is fun so why make it a sin? You sound responsible and mature. Keep in mind that at the time that prudishness was cast in concrete, people got married very shortly after the women started having periods. There was not 10 or 15 year gap (a LIFETIME) of letting the passions of youth cool so you could make a more reasoned choice. The proscriptions on sex do not make sense today and they may not have made all that much sense 2000 years ago. But all you need to worry about is today and I see no problem with your approach.

Good luck, great question.

Answer 2

I am not trying to be mean about what I am saying, But the whole point of Jesus dying for us is that we might be free from sin. The scriptures are quite clear, it says, "Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord must depart from iniquity". It sounds like the devil has deceived you, so you can keep the area of your life open to sin. The problem with defining your own concept of what sin is, is that it will be judged by God. Galatians 6 says, "That whatsoever a man soweth that shall he reap" What I am trying to say if that if you believe your life style is okay in God's eyes, then it will be tested by fire. Sex outside marriage is covered under Col 3:5. The word "fornication" describes immoral acts including sex outside marriage. "Fornication" comes from a root word which means that which is "foreign" or "foreign to God". The Lord does not identify with sex outside marriage as holy, but sin. And yes, you mentioned it in the later part of your question. Sex is to be for your marriage partner. There is always an example in the bible of what happens to those who are sexually immoral. Read about Sodom and Gomorrah and when the Moabites seduce Israel into sexually immorality. They all suffered from destruction and plagues.

Answer 3

I've thought about this too because I'm only 17 and everyone around me is sleeping around; kinda makes me feel like I'm missing out. There are lots of reasons I choose not too though; mostly because I was raised this way. No matter how hard you try and whatever you do you can never be 100% safe, I'm not taking a risk. Also I dont want my future husband to sleep around with anyone, if I do how can I expect him not too. We are the bride of Christ; white stands for purity (wedding dresses usually white). Saving yourself shows that you care enough about your future. I actually want to know what other people say. My answers just an opinion. I know there are lots of books on this.

Answer 4

Gal. 5:16- But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not carry out the desire of the flesh
Gal. 5:19 Now, the effects of the corrupt nature are obvious: illicit sex, perversion, promiscuity
Gal. 5:21 envying, drunkenness, carousing, and things like these, of which I forewarn you, just as I have forewarned you, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

Adultry, premarital sex is wrong because it is against God's law. Sex was made for a married man and woman, and everytime someone has sex before marriage, it fillls the soul with serious sin, which seperates us from God. Fornication badly hurts the individual's soul, even if you aren't hurting others. We all have sinned, and we all need to turn to Jesus for forgiveness.

Answer 5

It is very hard to obey all the rules.God knew we would break them.That is why He sent us Jesus.
When Jesus lives in your heart.You are taking Him every where you go.When I ask Jesus into my heart .I didn't know all the rules,but my heart just knew what was wrong.Like taking Jesus into a bar.
Your body is also now the temple of the Holy Ghost.Do you want the Holy Ghost,to be subject to lust?
Sex is one sin ,we have to put some taught into.Married or single.
Honey pray ,God will open the Bible to you and show you the harm.<><

Answer 6

Remember when Paul said "Oh wicked man that I am!Who will deliver me from this body of death?"
He knew we have a new nature but the old nature constantly rules us,the new nature has no power at all.We need to let Jesus live through us that's the power.I John 1 :9 says "He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins"....I take that to heart.He knows how weak we are.Don't be too hard on yourself,we get stronger as we get older and more mature in the Lord if we stay Faithful!

Answer 7

Well first of all, good job on getting this far. Most people don't.

(Catholic church's views-I can't speak for others)

God created sex as a way for married people to express love for one another. It is the most powerful way for two people to show that they love each other. They grow closer spiritually and mentally. It is a precious gift from God, something to be treasured. It is wrong to sleep around because you aren't showing respect for the great gift God has given us. Think about it: if you sleep with every guy you date, what makes the one you marry any different?
It is also a sin because you are using sex in a way it wasn't intended to be used. It was meant to show love for your spouse by giving yourself to them physically and spiritually; people who sleep around are using it for their own benefit, just to feel good.
The Catholic Church is actually very pro-sex; they feel that it is something precious, that it must be treasured and not wasted on every guy a girl meets.

Answer 8

It's about purity and living the way God would want you too. It's normal to struggle but as a Christian your saying to the world I'm better than that..I don't need to satisfy my flesh to be happy. If it becomes more of a want than a need then feed your spirit. The bible says you have two sides fighting for dominance in your body. Your spirit and your flesh. Which ever side you feed will be the side that rules. Staying pure is hard, but the reward is great.

PS: This is yahoo answers...don't count on not getting mean answers and don't count on the un-saved giving you good advice...they are of the world...your not.

And thank you for posting this. I was falling under temptation myself. Perfect time for a reflection for me. Thanks and God Bless

Answer 9

Yes, everyone sins..but the problem is when we deliberately sin.....having sex out of marriage is a sin..a deliberate sin.

Sexual sin is destructive, even when the effects are not immediately apparent.
I Corinthians 6:18, TLB. "That is why I say to run from sex sin. No other sin affects the body as this one does. When you sin this sin it is against your own body."

The seventh commandment forbids adultery.
Exodus 20:14, "You shall not commit adultery."

Matthew 5:28, TLB. "But I say: Anyone who even looks at a woman with lust in his eye has already committed adultery with her in his heart."

To keep from hurting ourselves, sexual desires and activities must be placed under Christ's control.
I Thessalonians 4:3-5, TLB. "For God wants you to be holy and pure and to keep clear of all sexual sin so that each of you will marry in holiness and honor—not in lustful passion as the heathen do, in their ignorance of God and his ways."

God designed sex as part of the unique relationship of marriage.
Sex is a gift God gives to married people for their mutual enjoyment.
Proverbs 5:18-19, TLB. "Let your manhood be a blessing; rejoice in the wife of your youth. Let her charms and tender embrace satisfy you. Let her love alone fill you with delight."

I hope this may help.
God Bless.

Answer 10

Its great that you have accepted Jesus as your savior however what is and isn't a sin isn't up to you. It does hurt someone. It hurts your relationship with God. There is nothing evil or sinful about sex when it is within the confines of marriage. However, if you aren't married it is a sin and an offense to God.