Has a parent ever hit you?

Question

I dont mean like spank, I mean hit you like in the arm or something. Cuz once my mom hit me with a wooden clothes hanger on my side, and it actually left a bruise. And this other time, she hit my across my face (I think that's what I remember I could be wrong) and another, it was on my arm. It was cuz she said I got an attitude, but should parents hit you about it, or is that just abuse? And I refuse to tell because we still love eachother and she told me she has a problem with controlling her anger.

Answer 1

Your moms not abusing you. You wouldnt be able to list each of the times that she hit you if she was.

Stop worrying about HER anger problem and start working on your attitude problem. It seems that you are disrespectful to her at times, and its not going to help you in the long run.

Your mother is there to take care of you the best that she knows how, and even though she loses her temper and snaps every once in a while, it is not continual abuse and at any rate shes your mother so she deserves respect.

BTW - Nats mother really does sound abusive both verbally and physically. Thats a totally different situation.

Answer 2

I come from a different generation than you so, yes, I was more than "spanked" when I was a kid.

Moving, on.....There is a line between punishment/discipline and abuse. These days, everyone you talk to will have their own idea about it. But, none of us can know your exact situation, you're going to have to make that decision yourself. But think about the future and the consequences if you do, because if you open that door, there's no way to shut it. I know because my brother is a cop, and he has been called to many houses where kids have called the police on their parents or the boyfriends/girlfriends of a parent because they were emotional or angry at the time. The first thing that happens is social services removes the child from the house. He said the kids are mostly shocked because they did not expect that, they just thought the cops were going to take away the parent or other adult. But the welfare of the child is first.

Please note that I am talking about older kids, not toddlers or babies who cannot think for themselves.

Answer 3

it's abuse. like it or not, you need to report her so that she gets the help that she needs. first, it might be a slap in the face, then it's a wooden hanger. what's next. a punch to the stomach? a kick to the stomach? unless she seeks some help or you get her help, it's only going to get worse.

do you know anything about abusive relationships? a man might slap his wife the first time. she doesn't do anything, so the next time, he slaps her again, only harder. she doesn't report him. if the slapping doesn't do it, then he might punch her. still no report, he might strangle her; he might stab her; he might shoot her, etc. see the trend?

aren't you seeing the same pattern here? first it was a slap, then it gets worse, a wooden hanger. what's going to happen the next time she gets angry?

there's a difference between punishment and abuse. punishment is telling you to go to your room or giving you spanking. causing bruises is abuse. for all those that don't think it's abuse, what if a man did the same thing to a woman? would it be considered punishment? no. it's abuse. so why shouldn't the same thing apply to little kids?

Answer 4

They spank you when you are born into this world to breathe.
As long as they do not spank you with your there hands. You will remember what you did wrong when you got spank for it.
The state is trying to control everything like slavery. Your parent loves you. Between the age of birth - 3 yrs old are the most important. After you get to big you should have learned how to act.

Answer 5

my opp
spanking is fine and only with the hand nothing else.

a child should never be hit in the face

eating soap for saying bad words, i think is a good idea, i don't swear till this day because of it :) no sense in it anyway.

iv'e been spanked with those paddles that had the rubber balls and elastic. that wasn't bad.
tied to the bed because i wouldn't stay in it.
put in the basement to sleep and told there were rats down there. in school ate soap and had rulers slapped on me.

none of this bothered me and probably made me a better person, but my sister still has nightmares about the basement.

Answer 6

i couldn't even list all the times my parents have hit me really bad. and still, my bro calls me spoiled, cuz he's never there. and he wont ever know how i feel. it is very wrong. too wrong. just about an hour ago, my mom took something away from me for no apparent reason. i tried to get it back. she yelled at me. hit me. she did the same stuff with my older sister. but unlike my sister, i dont stand here and let her do it. i try to get away. she says I have anger problems. if i were you, i would get help. it's not fair that some parents hit their kids. cuz some dont. the kids who were unlucky to have parents that did dont deserve it. my mom always says i have attitude problems. she hits me. then says if i dont get a better attitude, she'll leave. like it's my fault. but it's not. and it's not yours. get help.

Answer 7

Yes my dad has hit me---in the face or in the arm. My dad is very mean. I'm 32 years old with 3 kids.....he grabbed my son by the neck and threw him outside like a dog for no reason....I hate my dad and am on no speaking terms with the loser!

Answer 8

Are you kidding? My mom beat the sh*t out of me and my siblings all the time. She is an awful sick person who needs help. And no, a parent should never ever hit you, that is abuse. Especially if she bruised you.

Answer 9

idk cuz ive seen my friends get some beatens like w/ sticks w/ flipp-flops w/ hangers w/ hands and they was actual hits but some parents jus do it its like u kno if a friend did something and u hit them as a reflex some parents do do that now so u kno it happens but some is abuse and some not

Answer 10

every friday night. My father comes home drunk, and finds a reason to get pissed off at me. My school still thinks I get into fights on weekends.
I think it's bullsh*t and it's just low to hit your kids. When I'm a father I will spoil them so much.