Is Thier Any One Else Who Has Lost A Child To Unsecured Furniture?

Question

On March 18th of 2007 We Lost Our 4 Yr Old Daughter after some research we found out this happens a lot we are looking for people to talk to who have lived throught this for some help

well any furniture over 4 ft tall is a potential hazzard for falling i checked everything around my house and just by opening the drawer of her dresser caused it to be unstable enough to fall over

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear about your baby girl but know she is in a better place but check under yahoo support groups i use them for my son who has a very rare condition

Answer 2

I didn't lose mine, but when my son was three he used his drawers to climb up on top of his dresser The Dresser fell on top of him, but luckily the bed stopped it from crushing him.

I know how lucky I was believe me now I have nothing in their rooms with legs and every thing is bolted right to the wall.

I am so sorry for your loss hun I wish there was something I could say that would help but knowing the pain of losing a child I know that there isn't. I lost my first born in July of 1985 and I tell ya, you never get over it, you just learn to live with it.

Really any support groups can help, a loss is a loss you have the same feelings and emotions no matter how it happened. The guilt the anger the depression the flat out I don't want to face another day is all the same.

The most important thing is to talk to some one get out the anger even if you have go chop wood or punch a punch bag

I would also like to say thank you for bringing this question forward it not only helps you in a way of hopefully learning to cope, but your words may have just saved another child from haveing this happen to them and another parent from feeling that loss.

That is another way that you can help your self through your greif, set up work shops and offer information to teach furniture safety. It is a real problem and millions of kids have close calls every day.

Infact my nephew just had a television fall on him because he was climbing on the entertainment center trying to reach the remote. He is 5 years old got a goose egg on the back of his head and a broken arm. We all know that could have been much worse.

God Bless you and I will keep you always in my prayers.

Answer 3

I am sorry to hear about your loss... Although, I can not begin to imagine. I can relate with the unsecured furniture thing. I bought a dresser from Ikea and it almost fell on my daughter.

For other parents, there are straps that you can secure to the wall in order to prevent these types of accidents.

For you, I am not sure of any specific groups; however, this may be a good time for you to start one. Not only will you be touching on a subject that is not well known but you will be able to do some thing positive in your daughter's memory.

Starting a non-profit may be a great way to start...

God Bless You and my prayers are with you and your family!!!

Answer 4

I am so sorry for your loss.Perhaps you can find some small comfort in the fact your question will make parents of small children aware of this danger in the home.I'm certain some pieces of furniture could be anchored to the wall .I must confess I would never have thought about it either when my daughters were growing up. When my sister was little she opened the drawer of a small china cabinet and climbed on the drawer.The weight of her body upset the cabinet.Fortunately the door swung open and stopped the cabinet from falling completely on her.My sister was really frightened and so were my parents. It only took seconds to happen .On behalf of all parents (and grandparents) may I express my thanks to you for being so kind in asking this very painful question.You will help to make the lives of some children more safe. Bless you.

Answer 5

I am so sorry about your daughter. That is a terrible loss for any parent to have to live through. Can you try contacting a local church or parish? They might be able to point you in the direction of some support groups nearby. Also you could try calling a mental health clinic, because they often hold support groups there, as well, and they might know of some other people who have experienced what you have. Good luck to you and your family.

Answer 6

I saw on the news a couple of months ago where these people from pekin, illinois had a two year old die from a tv cart tipping over and the tv fell and child. So sorry, this is a tragic accident, especially when it concerns a little child. God bless you, and remember even the best parent in the world could have had the same misfortune.

Answer 7

Sweetie, I'm sorry for your loss. I really am. I couldn't even imagine putting myself in your place. I'm sure you've heard about counseling and family group therepy. It's worth a try. I am glad to see that you are trying to find others who have went through the same thing as you. I think it will help. Accidents do happen and to tell you the truth, I wouldn't have even thought of our furniture being a potential hazard. Thanks for pointing this out for me. I will be checking everything now, just to be safe. I'm sure if you had known about this, you would have done the same. Good luck to you hun, and keep informing everyone out there. Maybe you will save a potential life of a child. Thanks again. @-->--

Answer 8

I'm sorry, I don't know of anyone who has lost a child in this way. I just wanted to pass on my condolences and I will pray that you find the help that you are looking for to give you the strength to get through this.

Answer 9

my condolences to you and your family. it's a huge heartbreaking to lose a family member, whoever it may be. going through it is hard. i remember my grandmother who also past away 6 years ago, she said that losing a child is harder to bear than losing any member of the family. that's in her own experience. however, losing someone in the family is hard to take. Be strong, and keep yourself busy with her memories when your baby was still alive. and always askfor God's guidance and give you strength in this time. God Bless You.

Answer 10

I'm so sory :(
From my religion I belive that every child goes to heaven, so I'm sure she's realy happy spending time with Jesus.
I would suggest checking in yahoo groups, theres realy good, were in a couplew of animal ones.