I am in love with my best friend's boyfriend. And he told me that he loved me too. And then he told me that him and my best friend is so over. So, we have been seeing each other in secret. But then my friend found out that I have been seeing him. So she wasn't my friend anymore. Sooner or later, I find out that he is seeing this other girl. But I love him. So I didn't want to break up with him. I don't know what to do.
2007-04-08 14:39:59 · 20 answers · asked by gakuen_alice_roxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
find out wats more important, a guy or your best friend. there are plenty more fish in the sea
2007-04-08 14:44:20 · answer #1 · answered by Nathan "Batman" Scott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, yes?
Love is a powerful thing. But, you should always have a standard for yourself to not stick with a guy who seeing other people. I mean it's best to cut it out now before it gets more serious. I mean what if you stick with him and you guys end up having a child together or getting married? His behavior won't change, but it will be even harder to let go.
Go tell your friend you are sorry and that you made a foolish mistake. And, never put a "guy" above your friendship ever again. She's much more important than this stupid guy. Good guys don't talk in secret with their girl friend's friends... much less best friends.
2007-04-08 21:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetseve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He says he loves you but is seeing another girl, too? And there may be a question if your best friend and him had broken up before you started two started dating (why a secret if there wasn't someone who shouldn't have known)?
He is playing you like he played your former friend. Now you have a cheater as a boyfriend and your best friend won't talk with you.
There is something wrong with this picture.....and it is that guy. But as long as he can find girls he can play, then he'll have his fun, no matter how it ruins other people's lives.
2007-04-08 21:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, honey. The guy is a loser. It's hard to admit it to yourself, but he's a guy out to have a good time and not to be settled on one girl. If you stay with him, it'll be one girl after another... You should either decide to stay with the guy and be okay with him and other women, or break it off and move on. Best of luck to you.
Edit: I saw all the postings about him being a player - LOL... Once I knew a player (knew he played other women, wouldn't give him a chance because I know what he was) - He told me very smugly - you can't have a player without having someone wanting to be played. Think strongly about what signals you are sending - we teach people how to treat us - are you teaching him this is okay?
2007-04-08 21:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too close to the problem and became part of it.. There is an old saying "you can't see the forest for the trees.
It's time you backed off and curbed you're emotions for a spell and let some of this work itself out . Sometimes doing nothing is actually doing something, the right thing at the time.
2007-04-08 21:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jackolantern 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't mind being cheated on time and time again, then by all means, stay. The reason I say time and time again is because you're not leaving him. You're letting him get away with cheating on you. He'll keep doing it because he thinks you won't break up with him, therefore, he'll think you're OK with it. There are more fish in the sea, and unless you're like 50, you have plenty of time to find your true love. Hope this was helpfull...
2007-04-08 21:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by Peter S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, i think that u should break up w/ him. But if u really feel like this is true love, then sometime, follow him when he goes somewhere w/ his other girlfriend & then walk up to him right while hes making-out or something w/ her. Then come up to them, gasp, and turn around & cry. Basically just put on a big act. Itll make him feel REALLY bad. (srry he did it)
2007-04-08 21:52:45 · answer #7 · answered by Blondi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a player. Don't trust him. Get rid of him and talk to your best friend and get your friendship back on track. Guys are a dime a dozen. Close friends are hard to find.
2007-04-08 21:45:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl he is being a playa/pimp, i don't think you should be in love with him and then he is or was your best friend boyfriend you don't do nothing like that, that's wrong, but he could be using you to end your friendship with your best friend, but i don't think you should be in love with him.
2007-04-08 21:45:41 · answer #9 · answered by "T.I.'s Wifey" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks, but you gotta get rid of him. You are so infactuated with him that you don't see the way he treated you and your friend. He cheated on you both, and that's just plain wrong. How can you love someone that cares so little about you?
2007-04-08 21:43:37 · answer #10 · answered by wanderingphotographer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋