I am almost 15 and have never had a boyfriend before or been kissed. I don't really feel ready to start dating yet because I am kinda shy. I am really into boys though. I do have a few crushes at school and on some famous guys too. But, it seems like I don't feel comfortable talking about boys to my parents. It seems like I am so different from my brother. Whenever my brother sees a girl on tv he always says "Wow, she is hot." But, whenever I see a hot guy on tv, I keep it to myself. The only people I talk about guys to are my friends. So, my parents think that I am not interested in guys, which I am. I just don't want my parents to think that I am a lesbian or something when I am NOT! My brother is only 10 and he will share his feelings about girls aloud but I don't feel comfortable sharing my feelings about guys out loud to my parents. Is there something wrong with me? Sorry this is so long.
2007-04-08 13:52:42 · 24 answers · asked by ~ ♥ ~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing wrong with you. You are 15. Everyone does things in their own time, their own way. Don't worry about what others think or might think. Your time will come when the time is right. Some are more open about how they feel or what they think. It doesn't make them any more ready for relationships than another.
2007-04-08 13:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by general.veers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nah, there is nothing wrong with you. People sprout at different times. I knew girls/guys who had crushes and boyfriends/girlfriends (as much as you can be) in the 6th grade. By the time middle school rolls around, a few more get going. High school there are even more, and by the time college age hits, most people are socializing and dating pretty well.
I was always a "crush" girl. I had a crush in the 6th grade (Vincent) and the 7-8th grades (Steve) and a 4 year long crush in HS (Paul). Although I dated a bit, I never truly got into a serious relationship (longer than a month) until my 2nd year of college. I was too busy with life - studying, playing in band/choir, and sports.
Just wait...you will blossom. And there is no need to push it. There will be plenty of time.
2007-04-08 13:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by CG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dont worry I'm almost 15 too and I still dont like talking to my mom and dad about my personal feelings. I see a lot of girls that I really like and want to get to know everyday, but I feel very uncomtable going up to them and saying hello or something. Nothing is wrong with you, many people feel the same way. I think as time goes by you will feel much for comfortable around boys and even your mom and dad. So please dont get to down on yourself. Ask again if you need any help.
2007-04-08 14:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's perfectly normal. I'm exactly the same way as you...I'm almost 16 and have never had a boyfriend. (sad) Before this year I never talked to my parents about guys but lately I just talk to my mom about guys that I think are good looking (never using the word "hot"), and of course I always talk to my friends about guys.
2007-04-08 13:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥♥♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. I felt the same way around my parents. You are only 15 so take it slow. When I finally talked to my mom about liking guys I was in the kitchen with her and told her I thought a guy was cute. After that she loved talking to me about boys.
2007-04-08 13:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. You're uncomfortable sharing private thoughts and feelings with your parents and thats normal.
You're only 15, its fine if you haven't had a boyfriend or been kissed. You should have your first boyfriend and kiss whenever you feel you're truly ready.
2007-04-08 13:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by Beautiful♥Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be very proud of yourself that you don't just follow the crowd. You don't have to express you feelings to everyone. Its really nobodys business except yours. You are old enough to decide how you feel. When you find the right person you will slowly share more, because you wont be able to contain your happiness!!. And even if you don't its for you to enjoy not anyone else.
Your parents should respect your space and your feelings
Be patient
2007-04-08 14:04:42 · answer #7 · answered by softmouse1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your only 15 - who cares. who are you comparing yourself to that you feel you need any of those things? if you don't feel the need to date, that's fine, it's a very mature decission. many will go out just so they can say they aren't a virgin, a show off point. but most people wished they waited.
it sounds like your introverted, you can look that up on a test, look for MBTI (it sometimes helps to know other's are like you). but no, there isn't anything wrong with you. lot's of people are like you, and selectivity is a good thing. and chances are - your brother has no idea what HOT is yet.
2007-04-08 13:58:20 · answer #8 · answered by mike s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats just like me and I am about your age. My parents don't want me to date and i keep quite about it unless its to my friends. There is nothing wrong with you. Maybe if you try to talk about it with your parents they will accept that you aren't lesbian and let you feel comfortable going out with a guy with them knowing.
2007-04-08 13:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by Mღღks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello
i just red your mail and let me tell you something there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
everyone is different and react different if your brother express easily his feeling good for him but he is still quiet young he might change as well by getting older.
anyway the only problem is just the fact that you think you should be another way.
don't worry and don't try to be someone you are not.
good luck
2007-04-08 14:02:32 · answer #10 · answered by lena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋