its a question for adults?(kids can answer to i dont care but its mostly aimed for adults)?

Question

ok my uncle he grew up with me and my brother and hes only like 5 years older than me and well he's in prison and hes just like an hour away cause he got transferred and he wants me and my brother to go see hime but my mom is leary to let us go what do you think plz be honest

Answer 1

OK,, So I think u are old enough to go see him. As long as u are ready for what u are going to see. Its kinda freaky. Tell your mom that u are old enough to go , That you Miss him and that u obviously know what he did was wrong and so does he , but that keeping u from seeing him is not right. That he means alot to you. Tell her also that u are not going to make this a all the time thing , but u don't see why u can't visit with him every once in awhile. Tell her (and this will be what pushers her to say yes ) that u are glad that u have her in your life to protect you, but this is something that u feel like u need to do.
Also ask him if he would like anything when u go, check on line u can problem find what is acceptable to take to him. Sometimes he can use money to buy things. I hope u get to see him, I understand how hard it must be for u. good luck

Answer 2

How old are you and your brother? If you are under 16 I would suggest you NOT go. I've been there to visit a family friend when I was that age and it was more of a shock to me than anything. It was very hard to be in the middle of all of that and it's just not something that I think is good for a kid your age. If you are older than that but your brother isn't then I would consider going with a parent. Why would he want you to come and visit without a parent? It does sound a little suspicious but consider your age and what it may be like for you emotionally.

Answer 3

How old are you? I feel like it's mom's opinion that needs to be taken if you are living at home. You will be exposed to a lot of riff raff and it may not be too good for you....if you feel super strong about it, ask her to go with you. If she won't there must be a reason and she may know more than you think. Ask her why? Then send a letter and some money or cookies or other things he may need. He did the crime, which you didn't say what that was either. So, being a mother I would advise you to listen to mom. she has your best intrest at heart.

Answer 4

Mate - this is a really difficult question to answer - too many unknowns - however - depending what he is in for - like rape or child abuse or something like that - def keep away - and this is important - really try to go with mums instincts - she may know more about unk than you do and this is really important ( as a dad of 2 boys and a girl I speak from some experience) although you may not think it sometimes - she really does have your best interests in mind. - having said all that - how old are you - what are your gut feelings in this matter???? whatever decision you make - be careful - pppl are in prisons for reasons.
Hope this helped.
Dave

Answer 5

Im 30 yrs old , when i was 13 and my sister was 17 she went to jail , my mom took me there to see her for Christmas that yr and it was a real eye opener to what she realy had put herself through to me. I never wanted to make the choices she made in fear of going through the same thing. Sometimes it can be a positive to see someone in jail and sometimes not , maybe mom knows more about this guy then you do and thinks it isnt a good idea , go with moms instincts they are usualy never wrong.

Answer 6

You need to ask yourself if your mom has reason to be leery of letting you visit him. For instance, if he is in for being a pedophile, then I wouldn't let you go either.

Perhaps she is worried you and your brother will try to emmulate (act like) him and do some stupid thing to land YOURself in prison. Or maybe its not that she doesn't want you to see him, just that she doesn't want you to see him in the prison setting.

She could have any number of valid reasons... ask her specifically WHY she doesn't want you and your bro to visit your uncle. Only she can give you the best answer you're looking for.

Answer 7

Family is family, but depending on your age would depend on my answer. Prison is not a place for a young person - BUT it would be good to see it so you'd see what could happen if you screw up in your life - prison isn't meant to be a party. I'd say if you are over 12/13 then you should be allowed to visit occasionally and write him letters, but thats up to your parents to decide.....

Answer 8

since you did not give your ages, I am guessing you are old enough to decide. you did not mentioned why he is in prison. if he did not harm you and ur bro, then maybe your mom is trying to protect you from whatever he did do. the bottom line is that even though he is in prison, he misses and loves you all, prison is a lonely place to be and he needs your company. sit with ur mom and talk to her about why you want to go but also listen to why she doesn't want you to go. but most of all, don't get in a big fight over it, so respect, maybe your mom can work something out with you so you can go. good luck.

Answer 9

Decide what is best for you and allow your brother and mum to do the same. If you miss your uncle and want to see him then that is what you should do. Remember that your mum is only concerned about you and that she wants you to grow up surrounded by positive role models.

Make your own decision. I visited my dad in prison when he was caught in possession of cannabis. I didn't like it, but I'm glad I went!

Answer 10

If visitors of your age allowed, you should try to go, but only with an adult. If he grew up with you, then your mom was around ,too, right? I would think she would want to offer him moral support, too. He needs you all right now. The best protection against re-offending is having a supportive family back home. that is if he wants to turn his life around when he gets out.