Is it wrong to date a mixed person?

Question

i am dating a have black and haf white guy my mom says its wrong that if god meant for all of us to be the same he would have made us the same color too.i dont see anything wrong with it. i mean he has nice parents.he is sweet and doesnt act like sumthing hes not and he loves he for who i am not for how i look and he told me that to.i dont know why she thinks its so wrong.whose knows what race everyone is. i dont care what color he is pink,black,brown,orange. but if you really think about it black ppl arent really black they are just dark and us white ppl arent really white we are light skinned. can any help me explain to her she isnt the way she thinks he is cuz she doesnt even know him and i just dont know what to do cuz we have been dating for 4 months now and i dont want to let him go.do you think its wrong?

Answer 1

This world is made up of so many difference races. You ask your mom what she is. She is probably French, Italian, Irish.... No one is just "Black" or "White". You need to find a person who you love and who loves you in return. The color of someones skin shouldn't matter. It is their heart that you should be focusing on. You love whoever you want to love. Your mom is sooo wrong on this one!

Answer 2

The world would be quite boring if everyone looked the same. Your mom is crazy. Sorry to talk about your mom that way, but that is a stupid thing to say. It doesn't make any sense. It would be totally different if he was an alien, but he's not. He is a human being. There is documented evidence that first sign of human life was found on the continent of Africa. So you know what that means? If people would treat people like people then dumb things like what your mom said would not be said. Like I always say, If you shoot a white person in the head he/she will more than likely die. If you shoot a black person in the head he/she will more than likely die. What is the difference between two dead people? Nothing!

Answer 3

No it's not wrong. Biblically either. You might want to get all scientific on her and say that the only reason that there are different colors of skin is due to the persons place of origin. People whos heritage stems from places close to the equator have dark skin pigmentation to to protect them from sun. Those who originated from places farther away, their skin was lighter cuz it did not need that extra protection. And then I'd tell her that you want her to meet him because you really like him and that you are planning on seeing him anyway and would like for it to be a good situation with her.

Answer 4

Absolutely not!!!! It is not wrong to date a mixed person a black person, asian, latino, native american or any of the numerous other races there are in the world. Your mother could say it's wrong beacuse she was hurt by a mixed person years ago or it could have been what she was taught when she was your age. Tell your mom what you just said that he doesn't try to be something he's not, that he loves you for who YOU really are, I think that's what every woman really wants hopefully your mom will understand but if she doesn't ask her if there is something she knows about him that you don't. There could be another reason that she thinks it wrong for you to date him. If she can't or won't give you a reason tell her that you love her and respect her opinions but it's your turn to make your own decision and your own mistakes (if he is one he might not be)
Good Luck

Answer 5

You are more mature and balanced than your mother is. What you have written is absolutely right. There are MILLIONS of people of mixed race that are together without any negative side-effects except an enrichment of their own culture.

Can you get your mum to meet him and get to know him? Often if you 'force' her to get used to him, she'll come to accept him and then often become a big supporter of your relationship. Ultimately, she probably just wants to make sure that you're safe and happy.

You stick to your guns, girl. If this relationship ends because things just didn't work out between you both as people, that's one thing. But your mother has some really outdated bigoted attitudes at the moment.

Answer 6

Absolutely not. I don't see skin color any more. I think of
"black" and "white" more as personalities. In most of my classes I'm the "blackest" kid in the class, and I'm from Asia but it's not awkward or fake because It's how I really feel inside. Don't think of this guy as half black and half white, think of him as the guy you're dating. And if that's too simple for you, make up a new race for him to be.

Answer 7

I hope not. I'm a mixed race! Your mom is probably just wanting you to have the life she had. Apparently she liked her life growing up and her husband. Life is usually simpler for people of the same race when they date as long as people continue to be, unaccepting of each other. Anyway, tell her to judge him by the content of his character, if he's a decent man she should jump up down and sing that you found a decent man.

Answer 8

No, it's not. Who you date is your own business, not your moms, assuming you're over 18, and even then, she has no fair ground to prohibit you from dating a "sweet" guy, who does nothing wrong except look different. A lot of people like to stick their noses where it doesn't concern them.

Answer 9

Dont listen to your mother, or any of the bigots leaving answers saying that you shouldnt date outside your race. If you love someone, who cares what color they are? Ask your mother why she wants you to be racist, and isnt he a person, just like you are? It bothers me that people are SO hung up on something as stupid as skin color, that they'd want someone to deny true love over it.

Answer 10

no it is deffinatley NOT wrong! You should be able to date the person you love! If she has a problem with this guy maybe you should talk with her and explain that you don't care about race or color, bucause in my opinion she is being a tad bit racist.