i am only 17 and my boyfriend has just died of cancer what do u think i should do?

Question

my boyfriend just died in jan 07 of cancer i watched him die in bed i love him very much and miss him so muchi just wana go and join him up there i say i am ok to every 1 and never cry around people i hold it all in and i no every day passes i no i am getting closer to cing him again he was only27

Answer 1

you dont have to pretend that you are ok, it's good to grieve. If you need to be around people, call them up or if you need to be alone, do it. i'm sure he's appreciating how much you love him from up there. he would want you to be happy, and eventually you will be, and you can look back at the happy times you had together. it doesn't all have to be about loss. you found each other, even for a short time. that is special. I hope that you find peace, and i'm sure he loves you very much too.

Answer 2

You are suffering from intense grief right now. Everyone experiences grief in a different way and we all grieve over loss of someone we love or care about. Its natural and a very personal experience. We all experience the pain of loss differently.
I just recently lost my dad and was walking thru a department store when a song came on called "One more Day", and started crying in the store. I took a few minutes and re composed and wiped my eyes.
I think you should remember the times you and he shared together and he was not sick. Think of the good times and keep the memories with you, so you can go on. It doesnt mean you forgot him, it just means you are here and will be fine. He would have wanted it that way.

Answer 3

I am so sorry for your loss.
There is no harm in letting folk see you are upset and heartbroken. You need their support and comfort at this time. I also think you should ask for some bereavement counselling.
Your boyfriend would want you to eventually pick up the pieces and carry on with life.
At the moment you can only do this by taking things day by day. Your family will (I@M sure) want to help and support you at this time.
it does take time to come to terms with the loss of a loved one. I lost my boyfriend when he was 19 (I was 16) in a motorcycle accident. I felt as you do now that life was too much and i wanted to join him. I plodded on for months but was distraught. Time did heal.
I'm 39 now but still think of him but the pain of his loss has healed.
Could you perhaps plant a tree or a shrub as a tribute to him in your garden?

Answer 4

Don't give up, the grieving process can be a long one but it will get easier in time. Try not to keep too much to yourself, if you have one or two close friends don't be afraid to cry in front of them. This also goes for a close family member - they will understand more than you think. You don't have to appear brave all the time.

If you are at school or college, ask a teacher you trust to put you in contact with a counsellor, or give you details of Cruse Bereavement in your area. You can talk to them about anything you want, without them judging you. Alternatively you can contact Cruse through the Internet, as they are there for anyone who has suffered bereavement - old or young.

Once you get over the grieving stage, however long it takes, you can live your life to the full in his memory. He would want you to do that.

Answer 5

oh sweety,im so sorry you have had to ge through this sort of thing so early in your life. losing someone you love is always heart renching,but im sure he would not want you to take your own life. i was actually diagnosed with cervical cancer last month and waiting for my treatment so i know how scarey all of it must have been for you both. all i can say is time is a healer,even though it might not feel like it right now. he would want you to remember all the good things you did together and how much you loved each other. take good care sweety xx

Answer 6

First of all I am sorry about your loss.Ok my brother died from cancer in Feb 04. I was with him whn he died also and I miss him everyday. This has taken quite a toll on my mom and the rest of my family. My mom said that she would have already taken her life but since the bible tells her that if she were to kill herself she will not go to heaven. Then she will never see my brother again!! Anyway time will help you and never forget him. He would want you to be happy.

Answer 7

you poor thing that is a lot to deal with at any age but to go through it at 17 must be so hard but dont think of ending your life im sure that is not what hed want speak to your doctor ask for councillin ring samaritans they are a great help and can put you in touch with some really useful organisasions speak to mutual friends allow yourself time to grieve remember and cherish the time you had together you were lucky to have had him in your life only the good go young it may not seem fair but at least he is not in pain any more and thats the main thing remember the good times you shared he will be watchin you and the most important thing is the time you had it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all! seek help dont try to deal with this on your own its a major thing
god luck

it will get better

xxxx

Answer 8

Oh honey, its going to be okay. I know you are hurting but you have your whole life ahead of you. He wouldn't want to see you hurt this way. You need to go on. Maybe start something to tell people the importance of prevention. What you experence. Listen to the song by nickel back if everyone cared better see the video it only takes 1 person to make things happen and I'm sure your and his family and friends would love to help you, God Bless You honey your in my prayers!

Answer 9

u poor girl x anyone who loose someone they love feels just like u do now. so sad u cant begin to see your future, dont think of giving in, think of the people who love u..they would feel just like u do now, im sure your boyfriend would not want u to do anything silly, life is sometimes so cruel. in days to come when u r feeling so sad, think of all the things that make u happy, in time u will be able to accept the reasons 4 your boyfriends passing. and go forward. u deserve to live a long and happy life, as i am sure your boyfriend would want xxxxx

Answer 10

you sound as thought you really loved him.my husband has been wonderful to me i was diagnosed with colon cancer a year ago but i am cancer free now but what i wanted to tell you it is hard to see someone die that you love so much if you have any childern by him buried your self in loveing them they will get you throught it and if not find a cause to help other like you to get over this it will help you or start a foundation to rase money for his cancer cause don't ever think you need to burie yourself in sorrow because if you are truly saved and he was too you will see him again later you will find someone to love again but it will never be like the love you had for him. find someone to talk to you done have to tell anyone you are doing this if you are going to be embarresed help yourself before you go and help others.you can do it because it sounds like you have a very loving heart just get up and go live your life to the fullest.