what to I do? I don't know who my baby's father is!?

Question

Okay here is the situation. I am not the type of woman who sleeps around but I found myself with this dilema anyway. I already have a beautiful 2yr old daughter and her father and I get along pretty well. I moved away to Arizona after we were evicted from our home. I ended up meeting this guy and things really moved fast with him before I knew it we were living together. I soon found out that he was abusive and moved back to stay with my mother. Me and my daughters father started seeing each other again almost immed. but then he informed me that we could not pick up where we left off. Now I am pregnant and I dont know who the father is. Since then I have moved back to Arizona and he (abusive man) knows that I am pregnant and believes the baby is his but I DON'T know? I dont know what to do!

I already know about maury so... there is no need to be sarcastic. I am just having difficulty trying to make it through the pregnancy. and I really dont want either one of them there... It's just kinda hard not knowing. Who do I get to help with buying the crib and stuff.... I just can't stop thinking about it... I even dream about it at least 3 nights a week.... and suggestions?

Answer 1

The best thing to do is to be honest with both men about the situation. You also need to tell your doctor this as well. There is a paternity test that they can do while you are pregnant. I don't remember exactly what it is called, you will have to talk to your doctor. It has very small risk to the baby. I think that this is best because you don't have to wait for the baby to be born to find out. This will take stress off of you and stress off of both of the guys. I want to say that I really applaud you for being honest about your situation. It says more about you as a person. I hope that for your sake, that the father of this baby is the same as the father of the two year old. I wouldn't want your baby to have an abusive father. Better to have an absent father than an abusive father. Hope this helped you. Good luck. Take care.
Don't expect either one of these guys to start buying baby stuff. After all, they don't know for a fact if they are the father, so they are not going to buy anything. You are going to have to buy everything that you need on your own unless someone throws you a baby shower. But don't expect that either. The baby will be here before you know it, so I suggest that you start buying stuff now or putting it on lay-a-way. I am not trying to be rude. Just don't get your hopes up and expect any help from these two men. You are on your own. Good luck again.

Answer 2

first of all relocate away from arizona you or children shouldn't be subject to abuse! wrong enviroment for anyone
have the first baby's daddy take a dna test if he's not the father then forget about mr arizona. sometimes it's better to raise our kids alone. being alone is not so bad it you've two men another will come along who will love your children just like their his. god will provide all of your needs all baby's don't have cribs that is minor. having a healty you and baby is more important.

Answer 3

I am very sorry, but for the child sake and yours you have to get a DNA test done, I hope both guys would be sensible to allow the test. You can also just use your daughter´s DNA to fine out. And do some eliminations.

Answer 4

A ordinary in any childs existence is substantial. regardless of the undeniable fact that, if he breaks your "ordinary" there is not any longer something you're able to do approximately it. in need of having a courtroom order pointing out precisely what the childs ordinary is and that he could persist with it - which you will no longer have, because of the fact courtroom's won't subject such orders, as they do no longer seem to be accessible to maintain. you may positioned somewhat faith and have confidence in it, and , if he breaks it, that's sooner or later a week, and could no longer influence your baby that lots. merely attempt to describe to him as much as you may - yet you besides would could be conscious that as a verify, he has rights too, and, because of the fact the courtroom has no longer revoked his parental duty, it is likewise as much as him on the day he has your baby as to how he will improve her regrettably. i'm questioning why get entry to is being supervised by potential of somebody in his relatives which you assert your baby does not understand -- i could individually telephone CAFCASS and ask for a social worker to be recent while you're worried, yet they won't do alot for you in basic terms for a broken ordinary, as I say, as a father, he nevertheless has parental duty. that's probable superb to purpose to be wonderful and refer to him approximately it particularly than threats of courtroom lower back etc, which A:won't get you everywhere B:Will value you greater money C:Will reason much greater animosity and he will do what he prefer's greater effective than ever to spite you - it rather is a hundred% against what's superb on your kiddie. attempt to debate it, yet regrettably if he breaks it, that's form of no longer common fairly.x

Answer 5

Get a blood test to determine who the baby's father is. But whoever persons it is, stay away from that abusive relationship. It will damage your kids forever and yourself.

Answer 6

Take the baby(when it's born), the abusive guy, and the daughter's father, all for a DNA testing.

Answer 7

It doesn't matter at this point who the father of your child is. What about the life of both your kids? I beg you for yours and your children's sake. Get away from that abusive man! He may kill you or your kids. Frankly, I wouldn't tell the abusive man when the child was born. I would run. I'd hide for ever!

Answer 8

Fess up to both men. Have a DNA test done. It is the right thing to do. Or you can tell either man it is their baby. Your call.

Answer 9

This is not good. If you were already married or aready have a doughter. You shjoudnt go to a man you just met and ding dong w/ him. If he is threatning you to have "his" baby w/ him than tell the police so he can get off your back. If i were you i would keep the baby w/ my first husband or get the baby a DNA check w/ oermission!

Answer 10

Get a DNA test asap, don't allow the abuse SH#^** to have any control over your life people like never change they get worse, he's no good as afather figure to any child.