Have you ever thought about suicide, what stopped you?

Question

I think about how my mother will react, which pulls me back.

Sometimes I feel like a coward thinking of suicide and sometimes I feel like a coward not actually doing it.

I love this girl, 4 years and going. We wanted to get married in December, but at the last minute she couldn't make it. She thinks it is a sign, that it was never meant to be. She refuses to even pick up the phone.

She has a son, who is my world too. I love the both of them more than the whole world. It is impossible to not think about them. It is as if my home was broken even before it started.

Every morning I wake up wishing I did not. I just dont know ...

Answer 1

Sweetie, my heart aches for you.......

All that I can say is, if it is truly meant to be, you will find your way back to each other, I believe that with all of my heart,,,true love has its ways,,,,

However,,,there has to be a reason why she would take this "sign" as a bad omen-
does she have trust issues? Or any reason why she would
say that that had to be a sign it wasn't meant to be?

I am sorry for your pain,
but It will subside over time,,,
you will learn to adapt-
you were able to live before you met her,
you adapted to her situation, and her child (bravo for that)
you will be able to live again,
but you have to learn to adapt-once again.

My children are what keep me going every day,,,
they are troubled enough without me doing that to them,,,,
they would never understand, and I could not bear
breaking their hearts, or making them cry...
My love for them, that is what keeps me going....

Is there a third party you can go through to try to set up a
luncheon or something, to just talk?
Tell her you are interested in hearing why she feels so
strongly about this,,,,,and how she really feels for you,,,,
You may learn alot,,,,,you may even understand...
But dont push her, that will only drive her further away.....

I wish you love and luck my Friend,,,
Tomorrow is a new day,,,
You WILL be OK.......

Answer 2

I would not wish a broken heart on my worst enemy! My heart goes out to you.

I too have thought of suicide. I just could not do that to my four boys who desire so much more than that. When I had them it was a contract with God to raise them to the best of my ability and I need to honor that.

My favorite scripture is "And this too shall pass"

You have to get your self together before you can give yourself to anyone. Get your heart mind and soul together. Stabilized on anti-depressants or mood stabilizers and maybe some therapy.

Give her some time. Don't call for 4-5 days. If she still will not answer than give her a week or more. Then try sending a card. But she needs space and time to breath. If you guys were talking marriage then she cares for you also and she problem just needs to sort out what is going on in her own head.

My husband and I actually separated for about a month or more before our wedding. Now we have been married a year and the separation was the BEST thing for us. I made us see how much we loved each other.

Answer 3

A lot of people who tried to commit suicide and lived to tell the story say that the moment they, swallowed the pill or cut their wrists...., instantly regretted it. Like you said with remembering your mother, think of the people around you who will miss you when you're gone. And even if you think there won't be any, there will. :)

Keep fighting! I personally think that the hardest experiences in life are the most memorable. Just keep moving forward, and when you move past it and settle down and live a happy life, you'll be able to look back, laugh, and say that you were able to battle through it. Don't give up hope. If you were that close to getting married, it's definitely within your reach. Good luck.

Answer 4

why dosent she want to talk to you any more? If you commit suicide she will never know how much you love her she will think that you have given up on her so she will forget about you. tell her that you love her and her son very much tell her that she's the only one you want to be with.It's not a sign that she missed your wedding day it's just god's way of saying not right now . but that does not mean thjat you can not be togethar in the future i'm so sorry for5 this but the only thing for you to do is tell her you could not possibly live without her. Tell her you will wait for you forever.

Answer 5

What stopped me was 2 things - 1, my loved ones and how they would be affected, and 2, the risk of it not being absolutely successful. It is not as easy as you think to make sure it happens. The incidence of people being discovered in progress, or just screwing up and living (with God knows what horrible physical condition) is very high.

And it's a good thing I did stop that line of thinking. My life turned around completely in my admitting complete defeat and surrender to the way things were. I don't mean I laid down and quit in surrender. I mean total acceptance and willingness to bear the ciricumstances.

It will get better. Just give it time.

Answer 6

I am so sorry for your situation. Suicide is the coward's way out. Think of how many people's lives will be affected.

Yes, I too, contemplated suicide but I thought of how horrible it would be for my kids to grow up thinking, perhaps, that they were responsible for my giving up.

Life will get better for you. Work through your problems and find a way to deal with the pain. Maybe you should go to therapy. Deep inside, I think you know the right thing to do. Have faith in the future and please, please, step up and be a man and help yourself out of this emotional quagmire.

Answer 7

You're still living. You still have many years to live. Make plans. Try to achieve your goals. Do what you always want to do. If you fail to achieve what you really wanted then try again or go for a different dream. Don't give up now.
Think about the ones who love you. The ones who don't want you to leave them behind. I bet your mother would never forgive you if you did something stupid like that.

Answer 8

i presumed-approximately it a pair of situations yet then i presumed approximately all the those that i could harm.no longer basically myself. and that i could desire to show anybody incorrect through retaining on and practising whats bugging me and giving me innovations approximately suicide.. yet in any different case i can evade innovations of suicide is doing social issues like perchance connect a volleyball group.. If u at the instant are not a social guy or woman then create somebody interest or with in simple terms one extra guy or woman.Now to on the present time i'm nonetheless in social communities and that they help keep me busy so i've got not got any time to think of of all the undesirable issues in my life...besides, i wish i helped and u in simple terms remember there is no could desire to dedicate suicide while god thinks ur suffering incredibly undesirable and u cant cope with it then he will take u himself...

Answer 9

i don't agree with u about suicide and u should also consider where will u go when u do this horrible thing,
this is a type of escaping away from ur problems but u should face it, u know it's like going to bed when u have loads of work or problems.
face ur problems and be sure u can solve it and at the worst case u can restart from the begining

Answer 10

Dude...it sounds like you need some serious counseling. Sounds like you are addicted to the thought of being with this woman...and,she doesn't want anything to do with someone who is taking on a desperate stalker-like attitude. If its meant to be...let her go and she will come back to you. If she doesn't come back... it was never meant as part of Gods will. Take care and learn to love yourself before you take on a relationship which requires tenderness, love, respect, self-sacrifice and selfless acts.