My GF's stepdad told me her past!?
Ive dated my GF for about 4 years its always been a long distance relationship, but some how we managed to fall in love. In the past 4.5 months we've been having problems. she is currently in WA im in CA. So ive been talking to her stepdad since he is a councelor and yesterday he told me about her past something she's never told me. ( it hurt me so much ). He told me that she was married before and divorced. (WHAT, how, why, ??) It was her stupid moms fault. Married at 15 common...she was married for about 3 months... how do i deal with this. I love her i told her im behind her 100% and that i dont love her any less. but since we've been having problems she wants to take time off. I really dont know what to do. I dont want to loose her. but she wont lisent to me. AAAHHHHHh her past has done mental damage to her and her family.... i dont know what to do. she wont speak with me.
2007-04-08 11:22:50 · 4 answers · asked by henry_o01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is what happens when you shake the history tee and skeletons fallout. This i why people say be careful of the answer you may find when one seeks out the past. Youve gone where angels fear to tread. Now you have a problem compounded by the fact you found out from someone other than her herself. Theres not enough apology cards nor forgive me flowers in the world to undo this one. Shes really pissed but at whom? Maybe everyone here. This will definitely take some time and lots of it. Shes feeling betrayed by her stepdad in releasing this information and you for talking to him. Wheher he released this information accidentally or unintentionally here really doesnt matter as much as it has happened. Tru maybe she should have told you before something like this happened but for whatever reason she didnt so shes probably feeling regrets for not doing so and embarrassed for you finding out the hard way. Whose to blame here doesnt matter either. Will time get her over this?Only time itselfcan tell but whatever way shes looking at this has definitely done some major damage to your relationship probably to the point I think you my just want to move on and forget her. Theres nothing you can do here except wait and God willing, she may show up again. Sorry. Next time be absolutely sure you want to know the truth and remember this
2007-04-08 11:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For her stepfather to divulge personal information about her is a violation of her privacy. If I were in her shoes, I'd feel angry and embarassed. This may be why she feels she needs some space. She may also feel that you and her stepdad are "taking sides" or "ganging up on" her. It's a sure bet her stepfather does NOT have her best interests, or yours, in mind. Whatever you and your gf decide to do, keep it between the two of you and leave her stepdad out of it. In the meantime, take time to evaluate & understand your own feelings about her former marriage and her concealing it from you. That way if you are able to get together again, you will bring a clear head and no baggage to the relationship. Best of luck to you both.
2007-04-08 18:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by Mother Amethyst 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i'm sorry about what happened to her. the only thing that you can do is tell her its ok and show her you care let her you will not leave her just for something like hat remind her how much you love her. tell her how she is the only one for you you need to comfort her. Is there anyway you can go see her because that would be the best way to tell her that way she would no that you cared.
2007-04-08 18:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by stephanie2good4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is let her go.If she really loved you she would've told you this herself.
2007-04-08 18:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by mosrider2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋