He's over reacting!!?

Question

Ok so i'm 14 and 6 weeks pregnant!! I know i'm way 2 young but i messed up!! n i'm dealing with it.....me and my boyfriend told my parents....they just cryed and told me they were so disapointed but they'd help!! I have an older brother he's 17...when my parents and me told him he freaked out n started like screaming n sayin he was gonna kick my boyfriends a** ....there in the same year in highschool and go to the same school!! I'm really nervous incase they fight...whys he being like this?? is there anything i could say 2 make him calm down?? or things better?? please please help!!!!

Answer 1

Hun, first of all, HE IS ACTING JUST HOW A BIG BROTHER WHO CARES SHOULD ACT!!!!!!!!!

That boyfriend of yours stepped over the line,,,,
He will have to learn to deal with this on his own,,,

As long as your boyfriend plans to take care of
you and that baby and make an honest woman
out of you, then I doubt your brother will push him
too much for too long......

You are in a situation that I can say I would be rather
upset with if my daughter came home and said those things to me!!!!! I understand them,,,,but why did you not protect yourself hun? Such a grown up decision to make for such a grown up act-I worry about kids wanting to grow up too soon these days,,,,why do things have to move so quickly nowadays?

I recommend writing your brother a letter and explaining to him that his yelling and screaming isnt helping matters, and won't change the fact that you are pregnant, or who you are pregnant by,,,,ask him if he could please support you,
and stop yelling-it upsets you, in turn will upset the baby....
You need no stress at this point....remember that,,,,

I cannot say he will change his attitude,,,my oldest sons
would not be any different if they found out a fellow classmate had gotten their sister pregnant,,,,
They would defend her, and her honor,,,,
when you understand his reaction,
he may later try to understand your reasoning.....

Goodluck hun,,
I wish you the best of luck,
patience, and understanding,
Love and light to you and yours~

Answer 2

He loves you and may be angry at your boyfriend for taking advantage of you. At 14 you cannot make sound adult decisions. There is a difference between 14 and 17. Now given you decided to keep your baby, the burden lies with the female in this culture. I'm concerned because you are considered a high risk patient because of the complications associated with mothers whose bodies are not ready for childbirth. Follow your doctor's recommendations religiously. Your brother will find acceptance in his own time. Be prepared for rejection from your boyfriend. It's sad but common. Take very good care of yourself. This is going to be very difficult and the outcome may not be positive. Your family need to rally in for love and support. Give your brother time and tell him you love him. Things will work out.

Answer 3

well he probably is acting like that because he loves you and is sad that you wont have the life you deserved because you got pregnant at an early age and he wanted better for you.but he is probably going to calm down with time...tell him that you understand that he is angry and he has a right to be but you dont want him to do something to make the situation worse and you appreciate the fact that he cares so much about you. also tell him that its not all your boyfriends fault, you two are in this together and if he is upset then he needs to sort it out with BOTH of you not just your boyfriend

Answer 4

A big brother feels like he is supposed to protect his sister, and when something happens to his sister, he feels the need to do something about it. Give him a chance to cool off, and then talk to him and explain how he's not gonna make the situation any better by fighting with your boyfriend. Hopefully he'll come around.

Answer 5

It's absolutely normal for your brother to feel that way. Brothers are often protective and want to make sure their little sisters are safe. You need to talk to your brother and calm him down. Tell him that you understand he cares about what your boyfriend has gotten you into and that he should let you and your boyfriend (and your parents) figure out what you will do.

Answer 6

Your older brother is very proud of you and is understandably disappointed. Your Mom and Dad too are upset but are realistic and are trying to cope. You on the other hand seem to think very casually by thinking you CAN deal it with it ,on your own. You will need help and will most certainly affect the lives of your family.Comfort your Mom and Dad by showing them that you have changed for the better and help them to cope with their day to day practical problems.

Answer 7

Be lucky that you have a brother that cares. I'm not trying to tell you what to do but if i were you I'd either have the baby and give it up for adoption or get an abortion now!!! If you have this baby and keep it you will be in misery forever!

Answer 8

He is just trying to protect you, so just remind him that the situation in 50% your fault as well. He should be upset with both of you. He will calm down eventually and will be a great uncle.

Answer 9

An older brother is protective of his little sister. That is because he loves you. He hates the thought that someone his age would take advantage of his little sister especially considering your age. It is normal behavior. Give him time to cool down.

Answer 10

Your big brother is being protective of his little sister. They probably won't fight. But this has probably drastically changed their friendship.

You might tell him to please try to accept what has happened so everyone involved can deal with the real issue your health and that of your baby.

Bless your parents for being their for you...