i have been with my boyfried for 2years, we live together and i thought we were close and could tell each other everything. now i have thought about it i feel like i have told him everything about me but i dont really no much about him, his sister told me on friday that he was engaged to his ex girlfried so he doesnt want to rush things this time which i understand but it just makes me feel like, i no his ex treat him badly so is he with me to get one over on her or does he really love me? i really wish he had been honest from the start, i dont really have all that many friends i can confide how i feel to so thats why im looking for advice on here.
2007-04-08 08:51:56 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the past is the past, everyone has one and it cant be changed, i have been with my boyfriend for 9.5yrs we are getting married in july, he has never asked me squat about my past, he is only interested in the present and future and i think that is a good way to be, did you feel insecure before his sister told you about his ex?, if you are comfortable to talking to him, which you obviously are if you have told him your life story then just ask him how he feels for you and if he sees you in his future x good luck hun get it off your chest!
2007-04-08 09:01:52 · answer #1 · answered by pu55y perfect 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think 2 years living with someone is rushing it. Have a nice candle light dinner and look him in the eye and tell him how you see your future in the next 5 years. Then ask him what he sees in his future in the next 5 years. If it doesn't include you, find your own place to live and ditch him...he's not going to marry you anyway. You're just wasting your own time. Sometimes the truth is hard to hear, but I feel like you're questioning the relationship already. Open your eyes and see things as they really are. Godloveyaboth.
2007-04-08 15:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's been with you for 2years then I doubt very much that he's using to you get back at her / to get over her. That would be a little extreme especially as your living together. It wasn't his sister's place to say something unless you putting pressure on him to get married/have children etc. How come you dont know much about him thou if you've been together so long?! Thats bit odd. Talk to him, dont listen to others. He might have felt like that at the start but maybe he's changed his mind, either way - you need to talk
2007-04-08 15:58:50 · answer #3 · answered by keeley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him! Why did the sister tell you this, has he been telling her how much she likes you but how he is frightened to commit again, or is she just meddling and trying to stir. Is she trying to keep you going because she is frightened you will leave him?
Better speak to him, tell him she has said this and watch the fireworks - you'll learn a lot! Then take from that what you need to know!
2007-04-08 16:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by rachel.cox4@btopenworld.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, there is a reason you don't want to tell him anything. Look deep inside of you. Is there something you are embarrased or ashamed of. Did he do something to hurt you? Do you think he is cheating? I know you don't know if he really likes you, but the only way to find out is to talk to him one on one. Share your feelings, it will help figure things out. Good Luck and have a fantastic Easter! â¥
2007-04-08 16:06:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
saying you were engaged before can make a person look really bad. maybe he didnt want to talk about it or possibly hurt you so he didnt bring it up. to be with you for two years, shows that he does care for you in some way. dont confront him about it. within time he should open up. also, why dont you know much about him!? havent you been asking questions to him?
2007-04-08 15:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by cellie_mania 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to ask him. Perhaps you feel that he was being dishonest by not saying anything about his ex, but most likely HE feels it was a total non-entity and didn't even bear mentioning. Men are funny that way.
2007-04-08 15:56:21 · answer #7 · answered by Audania 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT? You live with your "boyfriend" and he is now engaged to someone else? Hon, the only person in this relationship is you. Move on, he's not dating you in his mind, sounds like you are just a roommate to split the bills with.
2007-04-08 15:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the 2 of you need to sit down and have a good talk, its not your fault his ex treated him badly he needs to forget about the past and move on with you!!! Good luck :-)
2007-04-08 16:00:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is a good relationship. You sound very doubtful and unsure. Not the best things for true love.
2007-04-08 15:56:14 · answer #10 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋