i haven no kids and am in a relationship with a woman with kids.?

Question

is it normal to be possessive of my gf when her kids are around? is it normal to be jealous of attention given to them?

Answer 1

Well, first I'm confused. Are you a woman in a relationship with another woman. No judging here at all, doesn't really matter one way or the other. You just don't hear many women asking these types of questions.

But I don't think you should be jealous at all. Those are her kids and she is supposed to pay attention to them. But if she is continually walking away from you to pay attention to them then you may need to question the relationship you have with her. While kids are very important, so is the relationship you have with your partner and there needs to be time spent with your partner, alone time.

Answer 2

sadly, it is normal to be jealous of kids in a relationship. My gf had to face this problem when she first met my 2 sons, 9 years ago. She had to deal with them always coming first, no matter what. I constantly reassured her that my love for her was still as strong and committed, and I'd always include her in activities my sons and I did, even the little things. In fact, my sons (especially my youngest) were very jealous of her being in my life. I made every effort not to push too hard for closeness, I let it happen gradually and over time when they all saw that momma had enough love for all involved and no one had to compete for my affection, the jealousy stopped. Now I am so happy to say that my sons are as close to her as they are to me. They even started calling her "momma 2" and she loves them as if they were her own. They've learned so much from each other and all I can tell you is please do your best to get to know her children. Don't be childish and exclude yourself from their lives in order to prove a point. Give it your best effort and I guarantee it will pay off big time and you'll have the best of her as your partner and as the mother of the children you both share.

Answer 3

No it's not normal to be possessive against her kids, yes it is normal to be jealous. You need to change your attitude about this (if you can) otherwise she will reject you as unsuitable.

Dating someone with kids is hard, are you sure you want to do this. It's a lot of work and it subjugates you life to theirs when they aren't even your kids.

Answer 4

it is kind of normal, not entirely normal. You knew she had kids before you start the relationship, yes? Now it is up to you to move on or to quit. You can not be upset because of this. Her children do matter to her as you too but both are different types of love.

Answer 5

Well when you decided to get involved with a woman who has children you should have prepared yourself for the attention being divided between you and them. Just think of it like this, you are only a boyfriend those children are her flesh and blood, of coarse she is going to give them lots of attention. If you are willing to stick it out for the long run you will get used to it.

Answer 6

Are you a lesbian? It sounds like it. And you should not be jealous of her, because they are her kids. Kids do get a lot of attention and need it like animals too. So, don't worry about it, just love her and cherish it and express love to her and she will greatly appreciate it.

Answer 7

Hell no and if you are, you should be ashamed of yourself. When you started dating her, the kids were part of the package. If that's not your bit, move on. The kids need their mother and since you're dating her, someone that's understanding of the trials, tribulations and mostly the joys of having children.

Answer 8

By the way, are you a woman or a man? P`se unswer me.
There is nothing wrong with that as long as you love the kids.

Answer 9

Normal yes. But you need to accept the fact that the kids are her priority first and foremost.

Answer 10

i don't think you should be jealous. . . if you are serious about her then you are gonna have to leanr to share her with her children, after all they came before you are and will always be with her even when she is old, she doesn't kno if you will always be there, you could dump her or divorce her. you have to share . . . who knows you may be a great father figure in there lives . .. you wouldn't want to take this chance away from them cuase you are jealous.



good luck!