Ok i met a guy this year and we spend alot of time together. I ask him if he had a girlfriend and he replied with a i have a baby mama. He says that he'll never get back with her but of course they'll always have a relationship because they have a child together. Im a jealous person... and a friend told me dont do it because guys always go back to their baby mamas... I really like him and we spend so much time together... I just dont know what to do with this situation.. Plz Help... Thanks
2007-04-08 08:05:52 · 6 answers · asked by shanicea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, they don't always go back with their ex-girlfriends/wives. That's ridiculous.
My ex-boyfriend had children from previous relationships and we were together for almost 7 years. The only issue with the baby mamas was when the one would decide that she couldn't deal and would just randomly drop the kid off and we'd have to find child care because we lived 40 minutes away from his day care center.
The main reason why I broke up with him after all that time was because he wasn't living up to his responsibility as a father to his second child, and I could not condone that. So the baby mama wasn't the issue there -- the baby daddy's immaturity was.
2007-04-08 09:11:39 · answer #1 · answered by HearKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I use to not want to date a guy that had a baby mama, but when me and my boyfriend got together his ex girlfriend was pregnant but she had cheated that's why they broke up and he didn't no if the baby was his well the baby did end up being his and I didn't leave him because I no that their relationship is completely over. I was jealous and a little upset when I found out the baby was his because I always wanted to be the 1st to have a baby with a guy, but he's amazing in every other area which is really whats important. So I wouldn't give up on him just because he has a baby mama, good guys are hard to find and I wouldn't hold that against him. Find out why things didn't work out with them and why wouldn't he consider getting back with her and from his answers you should be more confident in your decision, so follow your heart in never leads you astray.
2007-04-08 15:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by GoodGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are willing to accept that he will have to have a relationship with the mother of his child and if you think that you can trust that it is not more than that, go for it. It is natural to be jealous to a certain extent, but as long as you know that his child does come first, i say go for it. Only if you are willing to accept the child, it seems like you like him, so i say try it out for a while and see how it goes.
2007-04-08 15:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by Latoya G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, they don't always go back to their baby mamas...But if you can handle drama, go right ahead! Yes, there's always drama with that type of relationships. I would not get too involved...
Good Luck!
2007-04-08 15:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by sillygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very careful with my heart in a situation like this.
If he has gotten a woman pregnant and then left her on her own once, there is nothing to stop him from doing it to you.
I think you deserve better. A real man, who knows how to stand by the woman he loves. Not just a sperm donor.
It looks like you are a smart woman...use your brains and watch out for guys like him.
2007-04-08 15:12:38 · answer #5 · answered by krinkn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ALSO HAVE A BABY MOMMA, I WILL ALWAYS LOVE HER BEUZ SHE IS THE MOTHER OF OUR DAUGHTER BUT I DONT PLAN ON GOING BACK THAT ROUTE. BEST THING TO DO IS JUST ASK HIM HOW HE FEELS ABOUT HER. YOU ARE GONNA RARELY FIND A GUY WHO DOESNT HAVE A BABY MOMMA THESE DAYS....GOOD LUCK
2007-04-08 15:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by mr gogetit 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋