am i being used?

Question

Ok this girl and me have ben really close friends for awhile.. friday night we were flirting and then finally we went up to my room and just cuddled and made out. The next day she asked me to go out to eat with her.. we did and then we went to pickup one of her friends and she kept talking about her ex.. and then later that night pulled out her camera and started crying.. then when she was taking me to my car that night i was just giving her my input and what she would do and shes like i love your advice will you come over? i was like of course. then we got there and she just layed against me and stared at me with this grin on her face and she even said something like "wow you remind me of him so much its scary" then like just hits me but in a joking way.. i dont know what any of this means like is she using me for a bridge to get over him? or what

Answer 1

It seems like she is not over her ex and is trying to move on by distracting herself by spending time with you which is clearly backfiring since the ex is all she thinks about. I think you should be there for her but for now as a friend. She needs to get over the other one before giving you 110%, dont you think? She likes you because you remind her of her ex this is a good thing and a bad thing. its up to you to decide what your going to do but you have to protect yourself. Good Luck

Answer 2

It sounds like you may be rebound man. You want to have a serious talk with her, ask her what she wants out of the relationship and let her know how you feel and what you want. If you're willing to be a friend to her as she gets over the ex, that's up to you. If you want more from her, you need to know exactly where she stands. You will only know that by asking her.

Answer 3

I don't know if she's deliberately using you...but it's not a great situation to be in. Obviously, she's not over this guy yet. Going through a breakup is a horrible, confusing thing. Don't settle for being the rebound guy, because you'll just get hurt. Wait it out, be a good friend, and see if she's really over him before you give her your heart.

You sound like a good guy...best of luck to you! :)

Answer 4

I think you are being used. But I have to disagree with u on she wants to get over him. I think because you look like her ex, she doesn't want to let go of him. And she's using u as a replacment for all th meomories she had with her ex. I would advice you to find out what really happen with her ex and talk to her about him. but don't make it to obvious that it s creeping for you or something like that.

Answer 5

She may not realize that you don't want to hear things like that. Sounds like she must be young and immature. Or just immature. Tell her how it makes you feel. It could be that she chose you because you remind her of her ex. In that case, maybe you should send her on her way.

Answer 6

serioulsy i have no idea she needs to get over him and see you shes strange you cant use people top get over sum1 and she needs to know its a fact of life . Ask her if she still likes hik a nd tell her that your not just a pillow to cry on your a human .. good luck x

Answer 7

I don't know if you're being used, but it sounds like she's not over her ex yet. She needs to deal with that before you two start anything.

Answer 8

You are right she is using you to get over him. You are "transitional man" except that guy usually gets sex, you can't even seem to do that. She will be over you soon and moving on. Hope a broken heart isn't in your future.

Answer 9

I don't think you are being used. I think she enjoys spending time with you and she is comfortable being around you. This might turn into romance, or it might not.

Answer 10

stay awat from her
she is using you