my boyfriend gets jealous alot. i no he cares but he also drinks, ive tried to get him to stop but wont. he never answers when i call. he barley ever calls me. he might have already cheated on me. he does bad things and i try to get him to quit, he wont listen. but i love him and i cant just leave him like that. i see spending the rest of my life with him. just with everything he does i worry to much and then he doesnt answer the phone.. i have no clue what he is doing. i love him i just dont no what to do with him. ??
2007-04-08 07:00:50 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump him, get over it & move on. You'll be SORRY later if you don't!
2007-04-08 07:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by Husker41 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will be spending the rest of your life with him the way he is. He isn't going to change, or get better. In fact it's wrong for you to try to change him no matter how much you don't like what he does. He has the right to be the way he wishes, you don't have the right to change him.
This is your life in the future with him, except it will probably be worse. You are a fool to love him, in fact you probably don't. You are a "Florance Nightingale" trying to fix a bad person. Get over yourself and seek professional help...for yourself.
Leave this loser, move on and don't look back.
2007-04-08 14:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and you see yourself spending the rest of your life like this? WOndering what he is doing, who he might be doing, drinking. You want the father of your children to be in this type of environment, where the mother is miserable and cant give them the attention they need and a positive father figure. How old are you? You say he does not listen to you? You want to be with someone who does not listen to your needs, come on grow up get some confidence and find someone that is clean!!!
2007-04-08 14:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by dazzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell out of there before he will start beating you.
He has absolutely no respect for you. I just hope you don't plan to have any children with him.
He needs some biker's ***** to do all his drinking an all that "bad things" with him. But more than that he needs some serious professional help.
You obviously love him and he treats you like a whore. Are you?
I didn't think so.
You surely can find someone who you deserve and who deserves you. It surely ain't your current boyfriend.
2007-04-08 14:16:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you have to to get over him, know it will be hard but it will be better in the long run. he may change but he will always return to the well for a drink of water if you understand what im telling you. if he truly cared then he would not let sit and worry, he would call and he would spend his time with you. all i really got from your question for sure is you have a one sided relationship and one like that is doomed from the word go. save yourself and give up and minimize the pain
2007-04-08 14:10:09 · answer #5 · answered by outg426 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a similar problem. By bf doesn't drink but he doesn't pick up the fone when i call sometimess or he does things that he doesn't know hurts me or things could be cheating or flurting. it kills me to. I love him but i don't know if i should he with him or not. What i would do is talk to him, tell him how u feel. And be like i love you but its killing me inside to know what your doing, really hurts me. Also be like i want u 2 realize that i can't keep doing this. Waiting for u 2 call, if u love me than y is it so hard to call or answer.
Now that im writting this i thnk i might have to have a long talk with my bf.
hope this helps you cause i think you helpd me in a way.
2007-04-08 14:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by ashley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think you already know the answer to you're own question you unsure to go because you have such a strong love and care for him very deeply,just won't let you. You have to decide for yourself if he's worthy enough for you, cause honestly to treat you like that he's shallow and you deserve better than to be treated like that, you're an human being not his slave that there when he remember he needs you.Just don't settle for less
2007-04-08 14:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres always an answer maybe hes got things on his mine at the moment but he should always have time for you . he may be havin doubts so confront him ... about the drinkin tell him your unsure wethter hes drinkin to much and you think he should try to cut down and make sure you say your tellin him this because you love hik and you hope he still loves you the same but dont say of you love me dont drink coz that ends up backfiring . i think you should stick with him he may change for you but if he dont the daryln hes not worth it ! x good luck x
2007-04-08 14:07:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. He could be headed for alcoholism and you do not want to be with an alcoholic. I know I am a recovering alcoholic. Maybe someday if he gets help you could then develop a relationship then. Sounds like he does not care.
2007-04-08 14:06:02 · answer #9 · answered by Gidget 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please...don't sell yourself short. Get away from him. He apparently doesn't see how important being with you is. Besides, someday, you'll meet someone else that is so worth your time and love and you'll wonder what you ever saw in this guy.
2007-04-08 14:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by sweet_trixie_1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all howold r u?
I dont think this guy has the same feelings for u. Is obvious he prefers his bad habits over you. I dont think u love him you arer just used to this guy and maybe afraid to move on. You need to get rid of that loser.
2007-04-08 14:09:22 · answer #11 · answered by Jo,jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋