I have five woman at work trying to get me to go out with them, they are buying me gifts and writing little love notes all day long. What can I do to let them know I am not interested at the moment...?
2007-04-08 06:47:32 · 28 answers · asked by EW 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some nice input and some not so nice...
My dilema is, I don't want to get the whole "woman scorned" thing going on...
By the way, I am not all that. That's why I'm confused...
2007-04-08 07:47:08 · update #1
explain to them that you think interwork relationships are not high up there on your need to do list...tell them you are flattered and be sure to work in somehow that you don't hate them or think they are ugly but that you just want to work without being caught up in the mess that can be caused by jumping so quickly into something and that you would really appreaciate it if they stoped with all the gifts and so forth and just treated the situation on a work related playing field and not delve into the whole concept of being in love...
hope that helps just talk to them individually might be better but get your point out there and be heard otherwise they might never stop and it could get out of hand
2007-04-08 06:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by Lauren H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These women are co-workers so say the magic words--"sexual harassment".
Note: I didn't say file a complaint. Don't file a complaint until AFTER you have made the following remarks:
"The fact that you are sending me love notes and gifts is making me uncomfortable. I am not interested in dating or sleeping with you. I don't like the idea of getting you in trouble but I will file a sexual harassment case if you continue to do this."
This should embarrass your harassers enough to make them back off but if not be prepared to follow through. File a complaint with your supervisor or a Human Resources representative. Also find out where the local office of the EEOC is. Good luck, buddy.
2007-04-08 06:54:11 · answer #2 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being this is at work they most likely don't know what you are doing on your free leisure time. Tell them that you are currently talking to someone or just got out of a long relationship and that you are flattered for the gifts and the notes, but not interested at the moment. You don't want to burn bridges with coworkers and leaves the gate open if later you would want to ask one of them out. If you have email at work I would just send them an email, or leave a note on their desk, or talk to them in person. Be polite as can be you don't want to be known as the jerk who broke their hearts. Best of luck!
2007-04-08 06:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by Kiki 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What a stud you are! Seriously thou, tell ALL of them you are not interested at this time. I think ignoring them would help as well. If they all still persist, I would report them to a higher supervisor as sexual harassment and it is interfering with your work performance and ability. Don't be afraid to speak up for yourself and your rights in the workplace. You shouldn't have to take that kind of BS, even if it maybe flattering to you.
2007-04-08 07:02:51 · answer #4 · answered by 3000gthottie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them on the notes that I am not currently interested and that could we just be friends. Let them off and if they keep on insisting then be a little more harsh with your message.
2007-04-08 06:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by Indira B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them all. They will get the hint sooner or later. Put the gifts and notes on their desks, with a note saying no thank you. Dating people that you work with is always trouble.
2007-04-08 06:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by karenhar 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This all depends on what kind of women they are. Some breakdown, and some shrug it off. Just tell them you're not interested and, if worst comes to worst, tell them to go away. It may be cruel, but at least they'll appreciate you're honesty.
2007-04-08 06:54:21 · answer #7 · answered by Dezii 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them you are not ready for this kind of commitment yet. Tell them you do not want hurt their feelings but you are not ready or interested. Just be honest. Do not string them along any longer someones feelings could get hurt. They could become attached to you the longer they are around you.
2007-04-08 06:53:37 · answer #8 · answered by Gidget 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell them you aren't interested. if you tell them and then follow through with what you said (by not paying them much attention more than what's required for work) they'll get the picture and move on to the next lucky guy.
2007-04-08 06:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put your mouth and voice into action and tell them you are not interested. Go a bit further and mention stalking and sexual harassment and you will probably never hear from them again.
2007-04-08 06:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by emt_me911 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋