I currently have two bridemaids, two jr. bridesmaids, and two flower girls, but they're all under 18 and I don't really have any female friends or relatives (of age) that I'm close to. My closest, best friend for the past 12 years is the groom. All of my cousins are either really young, or much older and I hardly know them. My fiance has five groomsmen (including BM)and a jr. groomsman. I don't want to look like a loser with no friends, but I don't want to just pick anyone for the MOH. What should I do?
2007-04-08 06:11:34 · 16 answers · asked by BostonBabe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I was just thinking what Penguins said.....pick whomever your closest too. I'd pick my mom, or my closest friend...if you are not super close with any of your friends, pick someone you love and that you know will support you through this whole process....Good luck.
2007-04-08 06:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by greenbuddha03 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel - my friends are all in another state and can't make it.. only one might be able to come. My other bridesmaid is my fiance's sister and my other bridesmaid is my fiance's best friends girlfriend.. I hardly know her but since her bf is the best man and we started going on alot of double dates I had my fiance ask her (they all work together) and she said yes..
1 - You could still pick someone under 18 for the MOH .. that doesn't matter
2 - Does your fiance have a sister? I'm close to my fiance's sister and if my other friend can't make it she will be my maid of honor - she's already my bridesmaid - she's 14 and I don't mind
3 - You could pick someone like I did that is close to the groom and /or the Best Man
Good luck I know how you feel. .I felt like such a loser too
2007-04-08 07:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Today there is very little tradition that isnt broken. Either have one of your bridesmaids be maid of honor or not. Do not worry what your fiance has. He may be not as discerning as you. Just do whatever feels right and if that means no maid of honor, so be it. ( a bridesmaid can be the witness and sign which is the only reason you need anyone really)
2007-04-08 09:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask an aunt of yours or your fiances, or another relative of your fiance's. I asked my cousins wife, my brother's GF, and my future sister in law to be bridesmaids and I asked a friend I have known since I was 7 to be my matron of honor. We arent super close but she is the only one whom I have stayed friends with for 20 years.
Aunts, cousins, sister in laws, etc are great people to ask. Ask his side of the family if you dont have any aunts, older cousins, or sister in laws.
2007-04-08 08:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by Educated 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because someone Set a Tradition in Place doesn't mean everyone has to follow it...just as Brides now don't always wear white. Who will be helping you the most during the wedding - Mom, Auntie, even a Best Guy friend....don't spend your celebration of your marriage catering to old traditions or others....do what feels right to you.
2007-04-08 06:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by Bard Noir 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
nicely you may have began already!!! Get a flow on do no longer wait till the final minute for stuff like this or you finally end up hating all of the recommendations you may have. The gown and bridesmaids outfits are the biggest ingredient of maximum weddings then the ceremony and reception section and the cake and flower preparations. heavily grab your mom or perhaps destiny mom in-regulation certainly one of your bridesmaids and in line with risk the Maid of Honer and get to a gown save NOW!!!. undergo in recommendations one element enable the bridesmaids %. out the outfits they are going to be wearing in case you prefer them to have a good day besides fairly maximum woman do no longer prefer to positioned on sea foam green or a salmon rose gown or something coated in bows. it rather is your day however so make valuable your gown will completely blow their's out of the water. additionally schedule a cake tasting for you and your destiny mate ASAP and get him to commence observing tux leases. Oops almost forgot optimistically you have booked a church or different place for the amenities and located a minister or reserved a magistrate. Then someplace for reception afterwards and of direction catering for the form and then do no longer forget approximately the flower woman for the Bride's Bouquet, table centres, boutinears for the adult men etc. undergo in recommendations roses are very costly in the journey that your on the cheap evaluate Lilies and Carnations they are attractive and likewise make a attractive bouquet for the bride with somewhat inflow of infants breath. P.S. decide the cheap inclusive of your fiance and relatives in the event that they are helping with the fees earlier stepping out the door. evaluate additionally a typical gown for after the marriage amenities for something somewhat greater casual for in a while interior the night. additionally do no longer forget approximately to get an outstanding undies upward push up for the super wedding ceremony night you guy will probable anticipate this like a a boustier, garter belt stockings you realize what I propose in case you bypass to a respectable undies save and ask for the call of bridal gadgets they could be waiting to show you interior the excellent direction. God Bless and superb needs. Congratulations.
2016-10-21 08:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my mother as my MOH. Don't pay too much attention to age. It is about the support the person has shown you in life, not about being within a certain age range.
2007-04-12 03:59:38 · answer #7 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who said it has to be a female to be a matron of honor. i'll gladly do it. i already got the dress since i served as a bridesmaid before. just have to remind myself not to wear ballhuggers. so many men trying to look up my dress. do you live in the boston area because i live in the boston area.
2007-04-08 08:31:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to pick anyone & you won't look like a loser. We had no wedding party at all. Everyone complimented our wedding, no one felt bad for our seemingly lack of friends.
2007-04-09 06:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by layla983 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like the choice of using your mom, or other female close to you.
There is also the choice of having no MOH. It is not required.
2007-04-08 06:45:22 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋