i moved to england from a different country nearly 5 years ago (i'm 15).
on fri i contacted one of my old classmates who used to like me, and he asked me to phone him when i next visit (hopefully this summer) and said that he wants to see me 'after so many years'
the problem is that when i asked him about his life he said that he is a scum (dreg?) - and many people dont like him, because apparently he makes out of himself what he is really not.
so i dont know whether phoning him is a good idea, because i dont know what i'm getting involved with. although he is very nice to me, which makes everything even more confusing
2007-04-08
05:52:40
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he just annoys people,
2007-04-08
06:01:57 ·
update #1
in our conversation i mentioned that i dont think he's a scum (only politeness) and i hope that doesnt change.
in response he said that he hopes so too
2007-04-08
06:10:03 ·
update #2
you say that you knew him years ago. but people change so for your own protection if you do meet him please meet him in a public place like a resturant or pub. even better if you take a friend. please don't go back to his place or invite him back to your place. these are the safety guides that everyone follows when meeting a stranger. i know you knew him but to be frank you have to treat him like a stranger because its been years since you have seen him. when you phone him try to conceal your number and don't give out personal details like your address etc. Try to get to know him over the phone first before you meet him. I hope your meeting with him is a success. take care and all the best!!
2007-04-08 06:20:03
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answered by b1uecee 4
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well...i think you should meet him...not alone ..go with a freind...it has been years...and he did not hide that he is a scum...probably..he might be joking..and even if he is not ...theres no harm in meeting an old freind if done so takin safe measures...
If you want to meet him at any cost....go ahead..but be careful and meet at a safe place....
you also have the option of not meeting him...you havent met the guy for years ..you dont know how this guy's reputation is...
just be sure that you are comfortable with whatever decision you make...after all its upto you if you want to meet him or not...
2007-04-08 06:11:37
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answered by dimple 2
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We have people of different canibals,choice and hobbies.Others hate him does not mean you will hate him too,and mind you that not all likes you,call him as you have made up your mind but be careful and monitor his ways to find out whether what they are saying is true,if yes,don't give up because you may be the one to stop him from the whole mess once love is involves.
2007-04-08 06:02:52
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answered by arthur n 2
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Maybe he told you that cos he really doesn't want to see you. Maybe he's pulling your leg, or maybe he's just a bit self absorbed. Maybe he's embarrassed of what he looks like now and doesn't want you to see him. Last you saw each other you were 10, people change a lot from 10 to 15. Don't sweat it, it's not like you're taking a march to the guillotine.
2007-04-08 06:40:48
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answered by Hot Coco Puff 7
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Darling, we were all fifteen year old girls at one time. Lots of men are scumbags, but there are many out there called that, who are really sweet. Meet him only if you liked him when you were at school, but make it a brief meeting for liunch or coffee. See if you can discover why he thinks so low of himself, and if you fancy doing so, then start working on his self esteem, but always with caution. Good luck.
2007-04-08 06:13:21
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answered by caroline 1
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Why would you want to meet with someone that calls themselves scum? Such a person obviously has some self respect issues. Anyone that doesn't respect themselves can never have respect for others. So, my advice is to respect yourself, and not get involved with losers.
2007-04-08 06:02:33
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answered by Jess 2
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I wouldn't get involved if you think it is the right thing to do. If you think about it you are not really going to know him as well as you used to. People may not like him, but sometimes you should care less what other people think and care only about what you think.
2007-04-08 06:00:16
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answered by Bethy 4
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how nice that you have got back in touch. I would meet him and see what you think for yourself. You can ask him questions and get the answers from him rather than other people. Im sure you will konw if he is being genuine or not
2007-04-08 06:22:25
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answered by mudfish 6
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He has already told you what he is,what else do you want to hear?Every one appears nice from a distance it is only when you get close to them that you know how nice they really are. Just be careful you may end up getting hurt.
2007-04-08 07:03:04
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answered by Sunshine 4
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I think you answered your own question with the doubts you are having.Go with your intuition.It is "usually" right.
If you do meet him take some with you just to be on the safe side. Better be safe and wrong about him than sorry.
2007-04-08 06:00:55
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answered by tea cup 5
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