why does my x boyfriend still want to be with me when********?

Question

why does my xboyfriend still want to be with me...all he does is call me names....and fight with me....he has kicked two doors off there hinges....
i told him i don't want to know...but he calls when i'm out demanding to know where i'am....shouting and screaming on the phone...turning up at my mates house....
he says he loves me ..but this is not love.... i need him to move on with his life and leave me alone... i can not bring any one back to my house in case he is watching the house....he said he wil batter any one i'm seen with...when will this stop....

Answer 1

Your ex boyfriend wants a conrolling situation. I am not sure but it sounds as though when you were involved with your ex he had knowledge of where you were, what you were doing, etc. Now that he does not have that, it is threathening to him, especially when someone else may have his control. This control is setttled in his mind. Know that he is not only harming you but placing other people in danger.
If you are continuing having conversations on the phone, you are welcoming his abuse. he knows you will hold the phone and listen to what he has to say, because he uses the phone to control you.
If he broke the door down, did you call the police if not he will be back to break it down again, you have just said to him, it is okay break it down you are in control of me, my home, my life, my friends, etc.
I went though something similar, my ex jumped on my car and would not get off, so I drove down the street straight up into the police station, and got a court ordered protection. Contact your family and let them know about what is going on. Put burglar bars up at the door, the next time he kicks the door down, he will be limping back with the police. If you cannot aford burglar bars go somewhere like home depot and talk with the manager about the situation and ask for a donation, they can write if off believe me, they have done it before.
This is not not not love, but control. Always let someone know that you are have dated someone who is violent, believe me a man will try hard to scare a woman but facing another man is different. There are a number of items you can buy to protect yourself, there is mace, a dog with big teeth, stun gun, etc. Notify his family of the abuse, get their help.
If you need him to move on with his life, than take steps to protect yourself, and break the control he has over you. it is up to you now, letters typed on this computer cannot help if you do not help yourself. Lisa marie

Answer 2

what you need to be is strong. He cannot bully you forever. All he is trying to do is try to intimidate you but he is weak. He is the sort of person who will move on to someone else and then still give you a hard time. call the Police and have him locked up if he gives you grief. Unfortunately in my experience some woman prefer his type and will keep going back for more. I hope you are not that person.

Answer 3

If you don't have children one thing is simple, change your phone number - home and mobile. DO NOT answer the phone to him - he can't demand to know where you are when he can't talk to you can he? Any sign of him hanging around the house or threatening anyone else needs to be reported to the police - for your own and your innocent next boyfriend.

Answer 4

he will stop when he realizes you dont want him my ex was like this i got rid an havent been bk he got me to the point that i thought him calling me names was normal we split an 4 year on he still threatens lads if he sees me talkin to them yet goes on about it being me that cant move on an that im jelous it ruined my self esteem plz dont let him do the same to u!!!!!! im only just gettin back to the happy go lucky lass i used to be,, if u cant handle it no more seek a solicitor go to the police but please dont put up with it because slowly it will eat at you he is a bully an he doesnt want you 2 be with anyone else if he loved you he would let you go thats what u need to say

Answer 5

Change your number, move(if u can), and go out late at night or early in the day(whenever he is not around, he has to sleep sometime) If that doesnt work go to your local sheriff or police dept or court house and file for a restraining order against him.

Answer 6

you need to tell the police.
he seems obsessed with you and a bit controlling.
you are right not to want anything to do with him.
change your number and your locks. if you can move house.
if it get really bad there are safe houses for women where you can stay for a while.

this is serious you could be in danger.
you and your friends need to tell the police what he is doing.
get a restraining order document the threats he gives you.

Answer 7

Stop answering the phone when he calls. If you have no kids together, then why answer? Change your phone number. Don't let him make you a prisoner in your own home. You want to bring a guy home and he shows up, then call the police.

Answer 8

If he has made threats then you can go to a judge, without going to court, and have a protective order put against him...they last for 2 years and then you can just go and have them continued. If he comes around you at all....your home, in public, anything you can have him arrested. You have to carry the order on you all of the time, but it is only a piece of paper.
If you feel threatened and can't live your life...do this.

be cool...

Answer 9

get 1 of the peices of paper from the police what makes him have to stay like 20 metres away at all times or more then he cant buf u and if he does get close to u he will be breakin the law an be sent to jail and can u help out wid my question plz

Answer 10

It will stop when you call the police on him. He is dangerous, consider moving or getting a restraining order.

Next time pick a good guy for a boyfriend.