This question has bothered me as a Christian for a while. We believe that God gave us the sex drive. It is a biological imperative for the continuing of the human race. If God gave it to us, then it can't be a sin. The Bible clearly states that lust is a sin. So, what is the difference? Some have told me that the sex drive becomes lust when sexual desires are felt before marriage. This is preposterous to me. The idea that the biological drive that kicks in when we're 12 can't be active until we're married is ignorant. I'm not saying that we're animals and monogamy and abstinence before marriage are unrealistic. I'm saying that the idea that we can "turn off" one of our basic human needs until we sign a marriage license is unrealistic. So if lust is wrong, where is the line between sex drive and sin?
2007-04-08 04:21:39 · 13 answers · asked by Jennie V 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The difference is what you do with it. It is normal and healthy to have a sex drive. It is abnormal and unhealthy to indulge it before its time.
When you have sex, you become "one flesh" with that other person. There is a bond that is created.
Sex can be likened to adhesive tape. When it is stuck to the right item, it holds well. When it isn't, you pull it off, and reapply it. The more you do that, the less holding power it has. Eventually, it won't stick anymore.
The more people one has sex with, the less likely they will be satisfied with a life-partner, and infidelity becomes an issue. We are not animals. We have the ability to control our passions. We can say "No."
2007-04-08 04:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Christian Definition Of Lust
2016-12-10 17:34:49 · answer #2 · answered by loffelbein 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex drive is what makes you want to have sex. lust is when you want to have sex with someone in particular. Sex drive isn't a bad thing-it brings enjoyment and leads to replenishing the planet. The "biological drive" can be inactive until we are married. it is called self control and if you are a christian you should ask God to help you with this. by human standards maybe it is impossible but God makes the impossible possible.
2007-04-08 04:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by chr1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the wrong definition of lust. You can lust after money. Are you wanting to have a sexual relationship with money? You can lust after a car. Lust is a strong desire that can be for just about anything. Humans are sinners, everyday, and we can't help it. What we can do is ask Jesus for forgiveness for our sins, make ourselves more aware of our sins, and work on not repeating them. WORK on not repeating them. We'll always sin.
2007-04-08 04:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by Angel G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
christian definition difference lust sex drive
2016-02-01 05:46:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lust is the desire for something you cannot and should not have.
sex drive can be used for good, when you have a spouse and desire for your spouse.
having a desire for sin comes naturally. turning from that desire is the challenge indeed. the Apostle Paul urged us to only marry if we burn for each other. Marriage is the outlet for your burning desire for sex. I would say that sex is by far, the biggest challenge for any of us to master. We want it but there is only one proper way to have it, marriage. For the most part, our desires are fueled by our minds, so to keep our minds focused on what is good and right, will make it easier to ward off the thoughts that lead to sin.
Read James Chapter one.
2007-04-08 04:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I might be allowed to translate, I believe the answer is "keep your legs crossed and think nice thoughts, dear." Good luck with that.
2007-04-08 04:38:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex drive is what God gave us to consummate with our spouse after marriage, it is provided it is governed by love.
Love has the desire to give of Himself.
1 Corinthians v. 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Lust desires insatiably to gratify of itself.. sex drive not governed by God who is Himself love, is lust. where it begins ? generically through the windows of our soul, our eyes. Jesus said if you look at a woman lustfully with your eyes, you have already committed adultery. God looks at the heart and the heart is deceitful above all things and is beyond cure, Even the man after God's heart fell when it began with his eyes looking at Bathsheba bathing, premeditation led to the execution of his gratification.
the line where most would love to draw would be in the sand, Based on personal conviction that sex can only be consummated after marriage, and that the preceding courtship by itself is governed by Godly principles, and a surrendered emotion and sex drive.
mark your line in stone
2007-04-08 05:09:01 · answer #8 · answered by schwarzeneggerchia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is one of God's greatest gifts to us. And God gave us sex, not just for procreation, but for a husband and wife to enjoy. As for lust, this is what Jesus says: "You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Matthew 5:27). Don't confuse lust, which Jesus condemns, with sexual desires. Lust can be defined as "I would if I could." You are right. Sexual desires are God-given; but we need to yield to God and ask Him to help us control our thoughts.
You may not be able to control your thoughts, but God can—and He wants to, because evil or immoral thoughts will only lead you astray. The Bible says, "The Lord detests the thoughts of the wicked, but those of the pure are pleasing to him" (Proverbs 15:26).
This is why the first step I urge you to take is to commit your whole life—including your mind—to Jesus Christ. God loves you and wants to remake you from within—but it can't happen as long as you are separated from Him. By faith ask Christ to come into your life today, to forgive your past and help you live the way you should(if you are not already saved).
Then ask God to cleanse your mind and fill it with good thoughts instead of bad. Simply trying to empty your mind of bad thoughts won't help you; your old thoughts will just keep coming back. But when your mind is filled with Christ and His Word, old ways of thinking get pushed out. The Bible says, "Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind" (Romans 12:2). This will happen as you read God's Word and turn to Him in prayer.
When bad thoughts come, learn to practice what I call the "three R's." First, realize they are there, and that they aren't pleasing to God. Second, repent of them, asking God to cleanse you and take them away. Finally, replace them with good thoughts, by deliberately turning your heart and mind to Christ.
2007-04-08 04:56:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
lust directed at a man or woman that isn't your spouse is a sin - according to biblical literalists.
lust for your husband or wife is accepted and celebrated.
(but I agree with you. sexuality is a gift)
2007-04-08 04:25:18 · answer #10 · answered by mesquitemachine 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋