What do children learn from getting a spanking as a form of punishment?

Question

Hello am writing a paper on how spanking a child is a good form of punishment, because it teaches children respect, values, and discipline was wondering if you could give me some examples of why spanking a child is a good form of discipline. thanks

Answer 1

wow, I love those people who claim spanking is abuse.It just makes my day to see someone talk out of their a** in public.

Spanking works because it is embarassing. Kids are very self-concious and the last thing they want is to be embarassed. Therefore, as a last resort, one firm smack on the bottom can punish the child in the way they like it the least.
Ever notice how kids don't like to making their beds and doing their chores and try to avoid doing them? Its because its not fun. Spanking is not fun. They will try their damndest to avoid getting a spanking!
I am not talking about winding up and knocking your kids lights out.THAT is abuse. I am talking about one or two firm smacks on the bum.

Answer 2

As a mother of two, I only spank as a last resort. Verbal discipline (DISCIPLINE, not abuse) and talking are what we try first. If it gets to a point where they just don't listen and we can't get the point across with words, a spanking brings it to an end. But only as a last resort and only a spanking, not an all-out beating!! I think what they learn is essentially that words are better than the spanking. After only a few spankings, they've begun to listen better and we're ALL happy about that.....after all, what normal parent wants to hurt their child??

Answer 3

As a Student nurse, yes, its true that spanking a child is a form of discipline. But a parent should also explain what that child did, why he/she did was wrong and why spanking is needed. It is also a form of understanding that a child must understand what he or she did is wrong. Let them realise that you are there for support after the spanking session.

But children nowadays consider spanking as an abuse. It is for the parents choice to continue the traditional spanking or the modern spoiling.

Answer 4

I think to a certain age it is ok. I rember when I was little I use to get a spanking but I would still cry afterwards...even if my butt didn't hurt. Because I felt ashamed about what I did. I thought if I did something bad enough to get a spanking then it was pretty bad. But when I was a little bit older I relized...Hey.. ok my butt isn't hurting anymore...so I would get over it really quick. so it would be like *spank* *me thinking "wow that didn't hurt"* So when they get a little bit older maybe start taking away the phone or no favorite toy for a while. Good luck. Hope your paper turns out great!!! <3

Answer 5

Its a bit like sticking ur finger into a powerpoint - u only do it once!

Spanking is a negative response to doing something you shouldnt have done in the first place - however, unlike being electocuted, spaking teaches the child there is a negative reaction to doing something wrong without seriously hurting the child.

(and I am a strong believer in spanking having guidelines - no hits to the head or stomach and ONLY with an open hand. Only backside and hands - anywhere else is child abuse!)

Answer 6

I read alot that states its not helpful The parent has to work hardat other methods of discipline
You need to do a search on"spanking children" yahoo or google You will need to pick a few to read more thoroughly Ask doctors if you know any Ask nursery school/other school daycare providers for their opinion and training. ASk parents of other kids and record those answers Ask you parents. Older people often rememebr spankings as being the norm. Now i t can be still used but also there is the fear of child abuse...a very broad subject you have chosen

Answer 7

i use to be against spanking, but when I had my own child I quickly found out that spanking works for me. i actually alternate punishments.... corner, to spanking sometimes spanking is just not affective, so i will switch to corner time when that stops working i switch back to spanking. i think it all depends on how the child reacts. i think the spare the rod spoil the child leans more to dicipline your child... what works for you is what you should do. if a child is not disciplined properly then they can get lost to this world. which is why it says "hate the child" love them enough to raise them with proper dicipline and love, and they are more likely to follow the ways of the Bible, and also raise obedient children themselves. children are only products of the parents raising.

Answer 8

yes as a scare tactic. I think I was spanked once in my life as a child that I remember. It didnt damage me, it didnt hurt me permanently. But I still remember it as clear as day, as does my sister. Now its something we laugh about and make fun of my ultra docile father for doing saying he used to be really mean with his "beatings" all one time in our lives he did it. But you know, it worked. It was more effective as any other punishment, time out or stern talking to. My sis and I both remember every moment of what we were doing and why we got in trouble, cause we could have seriously hurt ourselves doing it. It worked great and I am of a strong belief if I screw up now, its nothing to do with any punishment or spanking I got when I was a child, but because im screwing up by my choice. I whole heartedly recommend a good whuppin! hehe It is effective as long as it is not used as the only alternative to punishment.

Answer 9

If only used when a child has crossed a line from "misbehaving" to dangerous or destructive behavior, a spanking can serve as notification that there are boundaries that Must Not Be Crossed. Crossing those boundaries means suffering physical pain AND humiliation.

In the mind of a child, physical pain and humiliation can be extremely strong motivators.

I am not talking about spanking a child for spilling milk and I am not talking about whipping a child to leave welts or bruises.

Answer 10

A spanking lets the child know that he/she is being punished for doing something they were not supposed to do. It makes them think twice before doing it again. I believe that spanking is ok to a certain point. Children should not be spanked for everything they do wrong and I believe the spanking should be followed by a talk explaining why they were spanked and what they did wrong and why it was wrong.