this is the expansion of my other question. i hate it. my girlfriend is probably thinking that i'm controlling her life too much when i'm not. i just want her to cut all connections with her ex-boyfriend. that's all i want.
2007-04-07 23:58:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sry i forgot to add that her ex still loves her. and she still keep touch with him. i really hate it. ARRGHH!!!!! i really want her to cut all connections with her.
2007-04-08 00:18:20 · update #1
You can't control her...she's a big girl..and she can talk to whoever she pleases.
There IS such a thing as being JUST FRIENDS with your ex. I think you need to get over your insecurities and trust her a little bit more.
You say you dont want to control her life..yet you're asking her to "cut ALL connections with her ex"...Sweetie..that's controlling.
She wants to keep in touch with her ex..they obviously didn't leave on bad terms. So just TRUST.
2007-04-08 00:02:12 · answer #1 · answered by iHEARTPiCKLES 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer to a simple question - get out of the relationship. And to the other answerers here - it's nothing to do with trusting her, or what she is entitled to do, etc. If she can't leave her ex altogether, then she can't be dedicated to the present relationship. She's trying to have the best of both worlds, and that is not going to work, plain and simple. So leave her, and find someone more sincere. Go well, and God Bless!
2007-04-08 00:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by Scabius Fretful 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't do that. She can talk to whoever she wants. Even if you forbid her to talk to her ex, chances are she's still going to keep talking to him. If she should avoid him, she'd only feel guilty about it, and she'll blame your for those feelings. Just tell her how you feel and trust her. The more you try to control a person, the greater the chance that she will turn against you.
2007-04-08 00:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by eissy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry this guy has positioned you in this occasion!! you would be feeling poor.. individually, i think of you may tell him, gently, that if he could evaluate snoozing with somebody else then he's no longer somebody you prefer to be with. Say which you're no longer comfortable with him persevering with to be in touch along with his ex, and if he says you merely could have confidence him then flat out say it is not merely him you do no longer have confidence, that's her. If he continues to be performing this form, i could bypass away him. If he does not understand how fortunate he's, he does not deserve you. i'm hoping this helped!! :)
2016-10-21 08:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what the problem is that she feels the need to keep in touch with her ex boyfriend. Ask her if she wants you to keep in touch with your ex girl friend. If she says she doesn't care start calling your ex girl friend whenever you and your current girl friend are together. Tilt Tilt It don't work both ways.
2007-04-08 00:04:44 · answer #5 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not willing to understand that it is unacceptable to you.. it is time for you to move on, because she obviously cant..
Telling her what she can't or is not allowed to do is a blatent attempt to control her. And scoping the internet looking for methods and suggestions to go out of your way to keep her from talking to an ex.. hmmm .. definitely time to move on.
I see trouble in your future, with her name written all over it.
2007-04-08 00:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by lost_but_not_hopeless 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you can't prevent it if that is what she wants to do theres probably nothing you can do to stop her even if you told her not to she will do it without you knowing. You can either deal with it or leave her. This will just eat you up inside until you break up.
2007-04-08 00:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by KungFu Ninja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But that is controlling her life. She has a right to talk to anyone she chooses. What's wrong with her being friends with him if she loves you? Really, try to be less insecure. It's a great way to lose her altogether.
2007-04-08 00:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by Alice K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, my boyfriend had the same problem
he just talked to me about it
he asked me if i still had feelings for my ex and why i kept in touch with him...i dont have any feelings for my ex whatsoever and now i really dont know why i ever kept in touch with him
you just have to talk to your girlfriend about it and why you dont like it thats all :)
2007-04-08 00:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that her ex-boyfriend is great and make yourself silly.
If she really loves you she will correct your statement other wise you should leave her with his ex-boyfriend and hope for the best.
2007-04-08 00:14:54 · answer #10 · answered by Geek Don 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋