I have been dating this woman for seven years now. I started seeing her when i was 20 and she was 29. We make a perfect match because everything is in common between us. I love her a lot and she loves me the same. Life is great right? Here is the problem, She just will not marry me. I wanted to get married and have children long time ago but for some reason she does not want to commit to it. Her reasoning have been every possible excuse she could find. Recently i gave up being around her anymore and moved to a different country. She promised that she will move with me by april end (dunno how , she has not showed any sign she will). She is also giving me a hard time for moving, blaming me for taking her away from her health coverage and her mom. I promised her a great health coverage as i know she needs it with some health problems she has. What should i do from here? I have spent all my years loving her and have never cheated on her. She has done the same. Should i end it after april ?
2007-04-07 21:22:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do you have a brother?
just asking.
2007-04-07 21:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by jables 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a problem with ultimate committment and you should know why. You have every right to ask, but you know this situation better than anyone, and chances are, you can answer this question better than anyone. While she may be faithful to you physically, she may be cheating on you in regards to the investment in the relationship.
It sounds to me like she wants to enjoy the benefits you have to offer, without committing herself to you 100%.
She may be too involved in her own family and career to allow this to happen, but still needs some benefits you bring to the table. If this is the case, she will never make you happy if your long term goal is to be married to her.
I would confront her on what her vision is, of your relationship for the future.
I would be very interested to see how she would react if she found out you could no longer provide insurance and other benefits for her. Would she stay or bail out on you?
You need to answer those questions before you marry her.
Will this person stick by you...FOR BETTER OR WORSE?
Its a good question to ask.
2007-04-07 21:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by Dan The Answer Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you love her and she loves you, you should continue to hang in there....why did you move away? I mean if the only problem is that she is not ready for marriage...some people take a little bit more time with those types of situations than others....just because she isn't ready to get married, does that make you love her any less? Does that make her any less of the wonderful woman you love and loves you back? Some people search all their lives for their life mates and it seems like you have already found yours....
2007-04-07 21:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by Blissfulness.... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her what she wants exactly. if she does not give you an answer (or if she says she doesn't know) after all those years one has to know,
then the decision is already take and you will (unfortunatly) not even have to end it, because then it'd actually over already...
...but maybe you did not listen carefully to what she needs she claimed also...
that's the bitter side of life: sometimes it's love for sure
but we still can only life it up to a certain extend...
good luck to the two of you
2007-04-07 21:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by Lucas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, you know what you want. YOu want her to marry you and she has said no. What does that tell you? Does that seem like you will be happy being unmarried and dedicating yourself a few more years. i dont think so. I kn wo it may be hard becuase you have established a long relationship with this woman but you have to think about you. What do you want.? It sounds to me like it is marriaage. And this isnt the one who is going to give it to. You know waht tthat meeans right. Unhappiness because your wishes arent going to be fulfuilled. Go aafter waht you want. Even if it isnt with her. You must. I cnat tell you waht to do but I do think it is time for you to move on. Its time for you to find someone that is going to fufill your wishes. Love is about sacrifice as well. I dont think this woman really loves you dear. its obvious. so do what it is your nheart. That is all i can tell you.
2007-04-07 21:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by pinkgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think you can let her go after all this time.That might be the only way to find out just how she feels about you,but if you do this you can't ever call her again.She needs to feel you are gone forever.If she loves you she will come to you.
2007-04-07 21:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there. do not run away. Make a stand and carry your own. persist with the job, and circulate on. paintings out. circulate out. Get a sparkling lady it is extra relaxing and extra appropriate finding for revenge.
2016-10-02 08:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by durrell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, let her go and move on
2007-04-07 21:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you want m8 but just cuz she wont marry you doesnt mean she doesnt love you
2007-04-07 21:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by Lee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Let her go!
2007-04-07 21:25:33 · answer #10 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋