Why am I so skinny? (I'm a guy by the way)?

Question

Ok, I have to know. I feel like this really held me back socially for a lot of years now, and i am tired of it. I know a lot of you are saying, "What you are crazy, i would kill to have this problem". And i guess for a lot of people that is the case. But what you don't understand is that in this society, this day and age a man should be somewhat muscular, but i am like a god damn skeleton. And I eat a ton. Is there any medication out there that can increase my appetite even more. Should i really be worried about this problem or should i just find someone who accepts me for who i am? Because girls are the only reason i am interested in gainin weight so i can gain my self confidence back

Answer 1

I can understand your problem. I dated a guy for a long time who was rail thin. We started dating in high school, but the kicker was that it took him half of a school year to get up the nerve to ask me out because he knew I had a crush on a football player, and everytime he saw me hanging out with guys, they were bigger guys. I admit that I hung out with bigger guys, but that's because I like my men to be around 6 ft. tall, and in high school, that pretty much meant the athletes. I couldn't care less if they were thick or thin, I just wanted to be able to look up ;) He and I went out for a long time, and though the relationship ended badly, we did have a lot of good times in the beginning. The main thing is that his size was never an issue for me. I didn't love him for his ribs, I loved him for his mind, his sense of humor, and the funny sketches he passed me during boring lectures.

I am now married to a man who is built like a lineman. But I didn't marry him because of his body, either. I married him for his insides, and I am not talking about his pancreas or his appendix, either.

One thing that I think you may be experiencing is that you are meeting women who have body issues they need to resolve. I have talked often with girls who are deathly afraid of dating thin men because they feel they are too heavy and they want a man who is bigger than they are. They don't want to look "fat", even if they are thin, just because their man happens to be thinner that they are. Let me tell you honestly that you are better off without those girls.

I guess what I would like you to know is that you should not be worried. I am not in any way dismissing your concerns, but the truth of the matter is that if a woman won't date you because you are thin, then she isn't really worth dating in the first place.

Just hang in there, and wait for a woman who accepts you for who you are. I guarantee you will be happier in the end if you do that. The body is ephemeral, and changes, and we all end up old and saggy. You are much better off with someone who loves you for who you are inside.

If you want to gain weight for yourself, because YOU want to see a bigger you in the mirror, then I suggest weights. Weightlifting is the only thing I have ever seen that really bulked a guy up permanently. You don't want to just calorie load, because while that will up your weight, it won't necessarily be good weight. It will just be fat. You are better off going for muscle. You will need to eat properly while you are working out, but if you do it correctly, you should be able to put on weight and bulk without putting on a lot of just fat padding.

And trust me on waiting for the girl. The right one will like you for you.

Answer 2

How old are you? what do you eat? are you always active? If your under 25 don't worry it will catch up with you one day. try eating more proten, and starch in your diet. that can add some weight. If your always on the go, you may be burning the calories that you eat. But you shouldn't put a lot of worry in to this. trust me it better to have that side of the problem. I was 125-135 til I was about 23, got out of the service and started working jobs where it wasn't as physical and slowly put on weight. over that last 4 years I have lost 50 pounds, but have yo-yo with 30 of them back and forth. My goal is to reach 180, and I miss those days where I just was hoping I could get to 150. Learn to eat right is the biggest thing, When I was 127 pounds with 28 inch waist, I ate all I wanted to and then some, and never learn to eat the right food, so when I got big, it is hard to change to cut out, and stop getting seconds. Good luck.

Answer 3

omg! i totally understand! my boyfriend is very skinny as well. He is beautiful. I don't give a rats a double s what society thinks. He is still even self conscious now because I'm curvy and he hates staring. You should find someone who likes you the way you are. I know in my case I am so attracted to him physically along with emotionally. Its just something you have to get over because sometimes girls see guys being shy as guys being exclusive, and you don't seem like you have that "holier than thou" attitude at all. I met my guy at a pub and he was scared and super shy. The key is to make the effort to go for what you want. Forget society and stereotypes. I'm sure you look great.

Best of luck.

Answer 4

GNC carries some weight gain formulations that you mix into a milk shake, but before you do anything like that, I'd suggest talking to a doctor to see if there are any problems, such as parasites, first.

Answer 5

i have the same problem i can eat forever and not gain a pound, i started tacking weight gain formula and creatine tables you an get them from most health shops, and start lifting weights, for size lift the heaviest weights you can i train everyother day and its really working, at first it seems to take forever to get any results but after a few months you can really see the difference

Answer 6

Hey man. I'd suggest having a consult with a dietician. Because my best guess is that none of us on Yahoo answers is one. Are you young? Cause I was a skinny mo foe all through school and then it finally cought up with me. So yeah - call a dietician and ask them things you can do. Good luck.

Answer 7

in case you prefer to get muscular do no longer play basketball. that doesn't get you very muscular. attempt swimming. i used to be a form of skinny adult men yet when I swam competitively i began getting numerous muscle. yet some skinny adult men are ok.

Answer 8

Your metabolism is higher than normal, so that your body burns energy faster than normal. Try to do a lot of exercise and drink protein shake.

Answer 9

Eat sh!t loads of junk food, drink protein shakes, and start lifting weights.

Answer 10

Go to the local GNC! They have all kinds of weight supplements there!