I only attract men in one way...Physical attraction. I haven't had a serious relationship for about 4 months now. I have "hooked up with 3 men and other guys have had physical attraction and wanted to hook up with me but i want more. What do i do to give off a more serious vibe. So guys know i want more than just a one night stand?
2007-04-07 20:57:17 · 18 answers · asked by DKC36 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I only attract men in one way...Physical attraction. I haven't had a serious relationship for about 4 months now. I have "hooked up with 3 men and other guys have had physical attraction and wanted to hook up with me but i want more. Honestly i don't dress "innapropriatley" and nothing hangs out. I guess i give off that sort of vibe. What do i do to give off a more serious vibe. So guys know i want more than just a one night stand?
2007-04-07 21:08:42 · update #1
make em wait for sex until you knwo they take you serious.
2007-04-07 21:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by lady26 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may seem pretty obvious, but if you've had 3 one night stands in the past 4 months, then you obviously don't wait very long before you get physical with a guy. Maybe the problem is not that you only attract men physically, but that *you* are only attracted to guys for physical reasons. If you're hooking up that frequently, then you can't possibly know the guy very well beforehand, so you can't really know what his motivations are. He can't know what your motivations are, either, but based on your actions, he's probably assuming that you're just in it for the sex.
Try forcing yourself into a dry spell for a while. Turn down offers from men and think about what you really want out of a relationship. When you start dating again, set yourself some sort of limit and stick to it (for example, "I'm not going to sleep with him until we've been on at least 5 dates" or "I'm not going to sleep with him until we've been seeing each other for at least a month"). The guys who are looking for a one-night stand and nothing else will get bored before that limit is reached.
2007-04-07 21:04:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous Coward 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become someone else on the first few dates... You give off physical attraction without even saying anything, so they are attracted to you and they won't help it... so the next thing you can do is be a bit reserved while talking, nasty like if they joke about something, you don't have to laugh, if they get all touchy like hand on your waist while escorting you to your seat at a restaurant, remove their hand... that way they get hit in the face with your initial "inviting" vibe and concentrate more on the person they are looking at and dealing with rather than anything else.
In the end, to them, even if you are not an easy person in their eyes the first few dates they will stay regardless, because they like the physical/sexual vibe they get out of you- so they will get 2-in-one if they play it right. Mind and Body.
Good Luck!
2007-04-07 21:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by Blabbermouthknowitall 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe it has a lot to do with dressing. Try dressing a little bit more conservative (not like a nun!!) but but maybe don't wear the clothes that asks for it. Also, you could try and stay away from places which have seedy characters, that should keep them out of your life.
You're getting physical attention coz you're obviously a gorgeous girl, but maybe try not to get too comfy with the guys on the first date. Make them wait for it... If they're not willing to wait and get to know you before doing anything serious with them, then you can be sure that they're not wrth it!
Good luck, hope this hepls!
2007-04-07 21:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by Smartie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want a relationship, don't settle for less. If a guy ask you out fine go, but don't go home with him. and if a guy sticks around for a month are longer, then they are wanting more then sex. Treat your self with respect and you will normally get it back. also look at the way you dress, if it looks like it is on sale, you get the guys looking for something cheap. Ewww, that sounds bad to me too, but it is true.
2007-04-07 21:04:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cover up the breasts, i'm betting you have them slung all over the place. and stop hooking up with guys, or the word gets around that you're easy......which apparently you are if you've hooked up with 3 guys in the last 4 months. tidy yourself up, and have some respect for yourself, or guys have absolutely NO reason to have respect for you.
2007-04-07 21:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, don't have a one night stand with them. That'll sort out the ones who want the sex from the ones who want something more.
In fact, hold out on sex for several months. That will really sort them out.
2007-04-07 21:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by z_o_r_r_o 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not having sex with them on the first night, if you are a one night stand it is because you are allowing them to sleep with you, if you gave your number at the end of the evening instead, it would make it easier to decide who is worthwhile and who is not!!!
2007-04-07 21:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by ballarinababyz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you fall for the guys who like you just for the way you look. its your fault you are choosing these guys. make guys who are interested in you actually get to know you before you do anything sexual with them, this means more than one night. it could probably take 5 or 6 dates or even more before you will even find out if he really likes you for you or if he's just trying to get in your pants. and dont let him think that just going on some dates means that he's going to get to hit it. if he's constantly buggin you for sex on your dates, you know what kind of guy you are dealing with, the kind of guy you are not looking for.
2007-04-07 21:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask them if they have a job,
Ask them where they want to be in 10 years.
Ask them if they had a child, what university would they send them too.
That would cut out 90% of they people you meet.
The other 10% its up to you
2007-04-07 21:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by skulty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop hookin up with men. Where you find these guys also makes a statement of what type you are attracting.
2007-04-07 21:02:02 · answer #11 · answered by Laurellamags 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋