how should i tell my parent?

Question

Hi, i'm a 23 yo girl. Since i was a teen (And all my friends already had boyfriends) my parent always seems to disagree with any boys with all different wierd reason. (He's to fat, he got short neck, he don't stand straight etc).

However i've been in a relationship 3 time. The f irst time i was 17 and i think my parent don't know. The second time, i was in uni, i didn't tell them, but they found out. My dad said that he's too fat, and fat die young, and etc2. However we was in this on and off relationship for about 4 years.

Currently i'm in a relationship with a guy older than me, he's 34 but he really2 love me, and is a very loving guy. He's not the most handsome guy in the world nor is he the smartest or richest guy. He's just an average guy, with average salary. I really tired of this backstreet things, but i'm so affraid to tell my parent that i'm in a relationship. Because they never really talk about relationships.

ps. My dad is a bit old fashion, he's turning 70.

Answer 1

Listen Sweetheart......what ur mom and dad r doing, its not like that-they dont want to let u go for any relationship. They did that from there extreem love for u-------they wanted to have the best guy for u, so perfect, looking like hero. Parents r always like that.....they dont go for logics or, they dont try to feel that having a boy friend according to their girl's choce is very mych important part of her. But, i dont really blame them...its only their blind love.

I am so happy that finally u got a man...and, u only saw his love for u, not his money or smartness.I appriciate. remember, money, smartness nothing can bring true satisfaction. So, be with him, my hope and wish r always with u.

now, u r big enough......u go and tell ur mom-dad about him, and also tell them politely, "dad, i m big enough, dont worry about me...i have learnt from u to identify what is good and what is bad. so, this time i have choosen the best......dont reject him for look or money, just seriously think about my happiness"------i guess, this time they wont reject. try to make them realize very nicely that u become big now...u r no more their small little inmature (what they used to consider u; its natural, for some parents their kids r always small and inmature) girl...u can choose from good and bad now.

All the best. but, remeber dont hurt ur parents....just, try to feel their warmness for u....and, side by side let them feel u r big now!

Answer 2

I didnt tell my parents any info on my life due to their criticism. And when they found out, I simply said, I didnt tell you because you behave the way you do, and i would rather exclude the negative from my life so I can be happy. Its up to you if you want to be a part of my life or not. I'm happy, and if you dont accept that, than I cannot force you.

Answer 3

i have the same problem with my parents. if it is serious, tell them. and you should have a talk with them before they meet him and tell them that the most important thing is that he makes you happy, which he seems to. There just has to be a point sometimes though, where you have to get over being afraid of your parents and just be yourselves around them. Your parents may be traditional, but they have also raised you and they should know you enough to know those things don't matter to you.

best of luck.

Answer 4

Give your parents something to ***** about whether you know it or not its the highlight of their lives right now, if its not him its someone else... thats how old people are.. So stop being scared because you might even hurt this guys feelings and just tell them, you cant avoid this your whole life.

Answer 5

23 and still worried about mom and dads opinion of your boys.

Tell them as an adult you can make up your own mindon who to date.

Remind them that they did a good job of teaching you how to make wise decisions, to weigh the pros and cons of all issues before making a decision,and to live with the decisions you do make.

If they do not like him without knowing him, then they are just narrow minded haters and your sorry but you will be with him and that you will miss them.

Woman up girl.

Answer 6

you're 23. problem solved. do what you want. if your parent's can't respect your boundaries and that you make your OWN decisions now that for 5 WHOLE years you have been an adult, then maybe you should discuss with them the fact that you need to live your own life, and they should not try to live vicariously through you.

Answer 7

if i'm in your situation i will tell it to my parents.
parents are always protective to their children specially having a bf is a big issue for them.
but i think if you explain to them that you really love him and he's really nice to you i think they will understand. if they see you that your happy with him, i know they will accept him.
other thing you can do is invite this guy to meet your parents, so they can speak with each other. maybe your parents will realize that you are old enough to chose a boy friend.

Answer 8

Yes, i think is good to tell your dad rather than u kana caught by him... must have faith in yourself... since u r already in the relationship with him already, why dont tell your parents?

Tell them how u feels abt this relationship and hows u feels...

Answer 9

dont tell them anything since they keep putting your guys down. they are still trying to control you, and they are succeeding! you are an adult. ignore your parents on this topic as much as possible because arguing with them about it is not going to get anyone anywhere. they should want you to be happy with whoever you decide to be with, and since they are not , there is something wrong with them.

Answer 10

You're 23 for goodness sake stand up for yourself