What do I do?

Question

I had a baby 8 mths ago n i gaines 33 pds im not huge just chunky or thick but my fiance has been really cruel w/telling me about my wieght like u look pregnant whys r u sticking out ur stomach like that recently it was ur stomach looks saggy and that 1 made me cry he compared me to this 300 pd lady that wrks @ wmart i mean i only wiegh 170 but he says this is how it starts and im letting myself go i mean yea i havnt lost wt since the baby but i still look good im like if im ok w/how i look isnt that good enuf 4 u n hes like i want u to look good 4 me im like ok but its wahts inside that matters shouldnt that b enuf if you really love me u would just care about the fact that im happy n hes like u know how i am i dont like fat girls im like im not that fat god!hes like i know but this is how it starts n im like thats wrong to judge like that it doesnt matter about appearance its about whats inside and if you dont like im sorry im not gonna change so am i wrong how can i lose wieght?

Answer 1

Good for you with being okay with your body. Concentrate on being healthy. Don't lose weight For Him. That is terrible to hear from someone you love and care about and value their opinion, and who is supposed to be supportive.
If you want to get healthy and drop some sluggish fat try detox, it really works for almost every problem a person could change with eating. It only lasts two weeks or more or less depending on which plan you try. The main goal to clean out all the crap and give your body, mainly liver, a break and let it catch up. Our livers are our filters, and we get a lot of crap from the environment and our food.

Anyways, I hope things get better for you whether or not you lose weight. Keep staying happy with yourself and positive about your image. Hopefully your hubby will realize that he is being the oposite of supportive and loving. Unless of course he is just thinking it will motivate you, guys can be so lame sometimes. That still isn't a good excuse for saying any of all that.

Answer 2

Actually I think your fiance was just being honest with you about how he feels, but he had a very bad way to deliver his message to you. He's trying to tell you if you don't lose weight, he'll stop feeling attracted to you. Being overweight is more than an appearance issue. It is a health issue. And it is easy to keep on gaining more weight if you're not careful. So you should lose weight for your own health. Eat smaller portions every 3 hours, and stop eating after 6 pm. Drink lots of water. Watch what you eat. Eat more whole grains and lean meat as well as fruits and veggies. Exercise, especially cardios. Do at least 45 mins of cardios to burn off fat 5 days a week. Do weight training for 20 minutes 2 to 3 times a week.

Remember that men are visual creatures. They like things that are beautiful. Since your fiance likes slim women and he was attracted to you when you were slim, if you love him, you should stay the way you were when you first got together. Don't change on him, or his feelings for you will also change. He's trying to give you a fair warning. You can't change how he feels. But if you don't want to change yourself even for your own health, then it seems you and he aren't right for each other. Good luck.

Answer 3

find calorie/fitness calculator on the net, enter your stats, take 300-400 calories off that number and that's how much you need to lose weight.
5-8servings of fruit and veggies a day
8 glasses of water a day
5-6 small meals instead of 3 big ones (breakfast is the most important - make sure to get complex carbs like whole wheat bread, oatmeal, fruit etc)
4-6 times a week cardio for 30-50min, light weight training, many reps
no junk food, no sodas, no alcohol, no white flour (cakes, cookies, white bread, pasta etc.), nothing high in sugar (ice cream)

Answer 4

i visit comprehend if he's dissatisfied because you do not reply, yet in case you assert that you're busy, then he desires to comprehend that, only, you're busy. that's only how that's. you won't be able to emphasise your self to make time with someone once you've previous engagements. i imagine that you are able to inform him no longer to get so pushy once you won't be able to carry out and he desires to comprehend that no longer each little thing revolves round him. Sorry, notwithstanding that's actual because he's really getting mad at you for no longer being waiting to verify him, which isn't honest, in any respect. yet you do not might want to assert it like that. only stand your floor and let him comprehend that you truthfully were busy. And only tell him the way you sense about him and about the relationship that you're fascinated by with him. attempt to come back to an contract on an afternoon that you'll carry out. putting dates to loiter round continually works somewhat than someone asking: "hi, wanna carry out?" on the finest minute.

Answer 5

i don't think you are wrong at all..one of my friends was talking to this guy over the phone and when they went to meet he said he thought she was nice but he didn't dig fat chicks..and of course she's not that big i know a lot bigger..it devestated her..it's one thing to tell you you need to do something about your weight for health reasons but for his viewing pleasure would be absolutley unecessary..start out with execisesing..if losing weight is what you want...then after u get used to that start watching what you eat...don't do it because he said too men can be so male shovinist..