What do you do do when the man who promised to love you forever hurts you emotionally and physically?

Question

Fear,confusion,hope and love,But sometimes,ita because the woman has nowhere to go,and no one to turn to.

Fear,confusion,hope and love,But sometimes,its because the woman has nowhere to go,and no one to turn to.

Answer 1

You find a way to fall back in love with the person that loves you most. YOU! If this man is hurting you he doesn't love you enough. A person that loves you would never want to see you hurting. They definitely wouldn't want to be the cause of you pain. You are going to have to get back in touch with yourself and get out of that unloving relationship. Do this before you start believing this type of treatment IS love. I know it sounds stupid but it will happen. You will start making yourself believe that his ill treatment is his way of loving you. You'll start thinking you're not good enough to make him stop. That if you acted better or were prettier, thinner,younger,smarter, or whatever he'd treat you better. This isn't going to happen so you have to let him go. You can only change you no one else. Make a better life for you give yourself a chance for something better. It's going to hurt to leave but you will be thankful you did in the end. The right person for you is out there waiting. Don't stand them up, even if that person is just little old you.

Answer 2

Not a lot of detail there.

Was it an accident or a misunderstanding? Was this hurting an unusual, isolated incident? When I say isolated, I mean a completely freak occurance. Like he'd just broken his foot and you dropped something on it and he wigged out. I don't mean it was just the first time he got mad and hit you, that's the start of a pattern.

If not, then leave. Abusive men don't very often come around and stop being abusive. Especially not within a relationship. I've seen too many women that try to convince themselves it was their fault, or it won't happen again. But in the end they all had to leave because it just became too much.

Answer 3

Not much to say that hasn't been said already. "Leave him" is the obvious choice, but since you even have to ask the question, there's obviously more to it, like, a difficulty in leaving him other than just the lost emotions. Whether it's a financial reason, family reason, anything, just remember, this guy promised to love you and he blew it. If he tries to make the same promise again, you should know better; let him get away with it once, and he'll do it again
Get out of there

Answer 4

Ok First, emotionally, you will get over it but promises are made to be broken. Second, girl don't let no man put his hands on you. By doing that, you are showing him you are weak, and that will give him more power over you and more reasons to hit you because he knows that you are weak and will not hit back and stay in the relationship. Are there kids involved, if not then just think of your family. What would they do without you? Because if he got the balls to hit you once it is not going to stop there, that I'm sorry baby and I don't know what came over me, you have to stop making me mad sh!t is a lie. It will happen again, don't let him tell you different. You are better than that, and do not deserve it. Cause it might feel good now because he says he loves you, but how good does that black eye feel or that broken arm or the time after that, you won't know because you will be dead. Life is not worth a stupid man that is not worth it. GET OUT!!!! There are other men out there that will love you without putting their hands on you. So be strong and find a friend that will help but get out it is not worth it you life is to precious.

Answer 5

As difficult as it may be, you leave him. Emotional and physical abuse escalates unless he gets some serious help. Unless he's arrested for domestic violence, the odds of that happening are slim to none. Your life is at risk and I am certain your emotional self has been badly affected already.

I was married to an extremely abusive man who also promised to love me forever. When I finally found the courage to leave him I was a shadow of the person I had been before I met him. It took me years to get back to being myself, but my complete self has never returned.

You can't change him. Get out while you are able to. It isn't easy, but this man doesn't really love you! He wants to control you through fear. May the Creator surround you with an army of angels. Annie

Answer 6

You leave him never allow a man to disrespect you by emotionally or especially physically. Don't stay with him you deserve so much better then that. If you have to see a counselor to help you get thorough the emotions of it all and you can also look to family and friends for support. Good luck

Answer 7

You leave him. No one deserves to be abused. That is exactly what this is. I suggest you either stay with some friends or family or go to a woman's shelter. Do not go back no matter what he says. And get some legal action against this guy. If you don't, law enforcement cannot do much to help you until he actually physically harms you. Get some help girl.

Answer 8

RUN!!!!!!!! As fast as you can to the nearest exit!!!! He truly didn't love you if he physically/emotionally hurt you! Your a worthy person, and he's not worthy of your love. He's beneath you....Sorry, brings back some really bad memories.....but that was then, I'm a live TODAY!!!!

Answer 9

Leave alone and for good. If he's doing that now...soearly in your relationship and yo accept this treatment, he'll continue to use you until he uses you up!

You don't deserve it. Find someone more understanding!
They're out there for real!

Answer 10

get away. if it was just emotional pain, you could do it pretty much on your own, but since he's physically abusive, just getting away from him physically won't help. you'll need to make nice with family and old friends who probably still care about you enough to protect you from him and stay around those people as much as possible.