There's this girl that I like?

Question

Theres this girl that I work with who I like. I am really shy with girls and I haven't talked to her or anything yet. I want to get to know her but I feel to afraid to even talk to her. I've noticed that she is kinda quiet herself and I've been told that she's really nice but I keep getting this feeling that she doesn't like me, or she thinks im obnoxuious even though she doesn't know me, or that she thinks im not good enough for her. I want to talk to her and get to know her but im scared she might try to avoid me or something.

How can I overcome my fear?? Whats the best way to get to know her??

Answer 1

You can overcome your fear by practicing, every guy in the world has to take the risk when he asked a girl out, that not only will she rejected him, but they she will mock you in public, or do some other set of nasty, bitchy thing.

You can't avoid it, it's a risk that all men take, and you just have to harden yourself up for when this reaction happens. Women always wonder why men are so reserved, in their feelings, they should be on our side to get some of the reactions that we do, when we're just showing interest in a woman and wanting to get to know her.

Answer 2

Not everyone overcomes being shy and I should know. I also really liked some quiet girl, whom I wasn't sure what she thought about me. Every time I wanted to tell her how I felt, I'd just freeze up and say anything other than what I was dying to tell her. Then the time finally came, when signing yearbooks that I said to myself "Speak now cause you may never get this chance again". I figured it's better I tried rather than regret for never having done anything at all in the first place. Then I took one deep breath and opened up to her. As a result she was really surprised, in a good way, and said if she had only known all this before. It did make a difference in my favor. First all, realize there's a possibilty that the girl you like might feel the same way toward you, as you do of her. Eye contact helps to know whether someone likes you or not, when you talk to her. If she's paying attention to you then you'll know she's interested for sure. But looking away means she's either in doubt, not sure or not interested. The more she makes eye contact with you, you'll know you're
succeeding. Sometimes hand movements tells something.
The worse thing is being wrongly judged like the cover of a book. Until she knows the real you, she'll never know whether she misjudged you or not. Don't try to impress her...just be True to yourself, of who you really are. Doing otherwise will only expose you as being dishonest. One way to get to know her is first see if she likes certain things you're interested in. Like for instance...if you happen to play a guitar, see if she likes that. At least it'll be a start.
If she does avoids or reject you, just let go and try to be satisfied that at least you tried, than having done nothing at all. Since your heart is sincere, you're wise to choose a quiet one.

Answer 3

The best way to get to know her is to just go right up to her and try to have a conversation. If she doesn't like you, that's HER problem, not yours. But if you never approach her, you will never know if she likes you or not. You have nothing to lose here.

Actually, I'm going through a similar situation here. There's this girl in one of my classes who I kinda like, or would like to at least give her a try. And like the girl you're after, people claim she's really very nice. But in the few times I've tried to start a conversation with her, I have had very little success. It might be the kinds of questions I was asking (almost all factual questions . . . nothing too open-ended), but I get the impression that she isn't interested enough in me to be worth my time. If only she had shown a little more interest, I would have asked her out on a small date or something. But at this point, I feel like she isn't trying hard enough. Oh well . . . the few girls studying in my field tend to be kinda weird anyway.

OK, now on to your situation. The best way to get to know the girl is to introduce yourself, ask her a few open questions (questions you actually care about hearing the answers to, so you will actually pay attention), and get her contact information. Later, ask her out on a date. If she doesn't like you, just forget her and find a girl who does. Good luck!

Answer 4

Try to figure out one or more things that seem to interest her, and then think of some way you can casually bring up one of those subjects - ask her some question about it and see how she reacts to you. To overcome your fear - try to convince yourself that you're only doing this as a sort of experiment, just to see what will happen :) Don't give up too soon - and good luck!

Answer 5

I am someone who doesn't recommend dating coworkers, but for teenagers its not that big of a deal with minimum wage type jobs and stuff. Just make sure that if you do date her, that you keep your love life outside of work, because it can really make working together really awkward for the two of you. No PDA @ work!

A lot of people in my department at work (Guest Relations at a theme park) have started out shy, but we are forced to be outgoing because it is a part of our job to interact with hundreds of guests each day. If you're really shy, just try talking to everybody you see! The more you talk with unfamiliar people, the more outgoing you will become. You should introduce yourself to her, as I always introduce myself to practically every other employee I see at my work, especially within my own department. Just be friendly! What kind of place are you working at, btw?

Answer 6

For me, I'm pretty shy around boys that I like and I don't like the whole BOLD approach to confronting me. The best way is to do a low-key approach which doesn't commit her to answer you back or give you a "yes or no" answer right away. Maybe walk up to her and hand her a little message like "Wanna meet for coffee, sometime? My treat!" Don't stalk her, but take notice to some of the things she likes to do. Maybe a certain author she likes or music...The most important thing is to be yourself. Don't pretend to like something she likes...Just offer your opinon, but always acknowledge hers as well. Good Luck!!!:)

Answer 7

It might help to give her a compliment... girls love compliments, but only as long as it's sincere. Then, take it from there. She'll most likely respond positively, and be willing to have a conversation. Even though it seems terrifying it really isn't; girls are people just like everyone else. Be casual, sincere, and as confident as possible. Once she knows you're into her she'll be more willing to return your affection.

Answer 8

im really shy around girls too so i know how you feel. i guess the only thing you can do is try to walk up to her and tell her how you feel and ask her out to a movie or something like that. she could feel the same way about you. you'll never know unless you try

Answer 9

well first off, jus simply say hey to her when she walks by every now and then, and ask her a question about something related to work, try to approach her as if she doesnt mean much to you, and treat her as u would a friend, then once u both start talking a bit, then u'll figure out if she does like you or not, good luck gettin her!

Answer 10

aw, ur cute but a dork..to overcome your fear would be to talk to her..and the best way to get to know her would be to talk to her and ask her questions, stop being so paranoid and go up to her and start a conversation, ask her how long shes been working there, ect. stop being shy!!!!... besides something good could come out of it.. and if something bad comes out of it atleast you got over being paranoid. so talk to her!...


good luck =)