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My brother thinks he knows everything about life at 22 years old what do u think of this?

My brother thinks he knows everything about life at 22 years old what do u think of this he is very arrogant because he thinks he know how peoples minds work and how to manipulate them he hasent got his high school diploma he smokes alot of marijuana, how do i get him to get his ego a bit in check and stop thinking he knows it all i am only 20 and even i know i dont no everything infact in the big picture of things i might not know nothing

2007-04-07 17:22:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Family

14 answers

arrogant 22 year olds are pretty common. But there's not really much you can do. Eventually they will be proven wrong, or they will delude themselves to the point of being oblivious to the world around them.

You add the fact that he smokes a lot of dope, and you've got a recipe a truly insufferable jerk.

The best suggestion I can make is to ride it out, make sure that you have both feet on the ground and live your life to the best of your abilities.

Five years from now, when you're working at a decent job and living a comfortable life, he'll wonder what happened to himself.

2007-04-07 17:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0 0

it truly is a puzzling one. i'm 29 and that i nonetheless don't recognize each little thing. I study something new all the time. If he thinks that he's G-d then i could supply him a attempt to take. I even have an 8 365 days previous niece that has me addicted to webkinz I do the quizzes. the unhappy area is that I generally %. the 5-6 365 days previous questions, and that i also have a puzzling time answering the questions. so some distance as knocking him down slightly. you may constantly call the police on him for the marijuana. he will spend sometime in reformatory. that could desire to eliminate his ego. or perhaps tell him properly you think of you're so large how approximately taking the GED attempt so which you have a level. i certainly have my intense college degree alongside with some college. i've got considered the GED attempt. it truly is lots extra difficult than in basic terms ending intense college. i've got helped teach people taking the GED. it truly is totally puzzling. you may constantly confront him and tell him he's not as large as he think of he's. a brilliant style of the time people could desire to be confronted extra desirable than something.

2016-10-02 08:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by barksdale 4 · 0 0

Your brother is a loser. One of the attractive things about marijuana is that it enables losers to convince themselves that they are Einsteins.

You should go to college, get a great job, marry an intelligent and well-off guy (or girl), get a great house and then shower your parents with gifts. Visit often.

Everytime your brother comes upstairs from his basement room (with the muscle-car posters on the wall and the smell of rancid bong water) looking for the box of Lucky Charms, he'll be treated to the ever present signs of your success.

When he's 35, still living in your mom's basement, and working part-time at Dairy Queen for pot money, then you'll have your satisfaction.

2007-04-07 17:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You're not going to like this answer, but someone's got to do it and I guess it's my turn.....

With respect to your brother thinking that he knows "everything", well, I hate to tell you this, but that's a pretty common thing for people who are the age of you and your brother to go through. Between the ages of roughly 15 and 25 me and my brother did very similar things (at least according to our parents.)

What's "odd" about your question is that you're in that age range where you probably have your own sense of invincibility, but you're actually recognizing it someone else. That recognition is probably due to one of two things:

1. You're alot more mature than your chronological age might suggest.
2. Your brother's omniscience is interfering with your own.

I'm going to guess that it's probably not either, but some combination of both.

If you're still reading, with respect to changing your brother, YOU CAN'T. It isn't given to us to change other people. We may be agents of change for others, but the actual change has to be by their choice.

In your question, there is a tone of concern/pain combined with a sense of superiority on your part. I suspect that you might be projecting those things to your brother as well. He might very well be responding to those things, even if he couldn't tell you that he was.

Think about it for a second, he's the "oldest". In our society that gives him a couple of different rolls: he's supposed to be more experienced (he's been around longer); he's supposed to be successful because he's supposed to be his father's successor; etc. (And I know that it probably doesn't make you feel any better to hear those things, don't take heart, but they are the rolls our society has set up.) But instead of being those things, he's probably all to aware of his own shortcomings (again, even if he could/would admit it.) Besides, from his standpoint, he's gotten this far just like he is, and probably doesn't think that there's much wrong with him. With respect to the drugs, well, he's probably self-medicating to help him cope with the things that he doesn't want to see/admit are wrong with him or his life.

So where does that leave you? Unfortunately, in the same place you were in when you started reading:

* Your brother is what he is. Even if you understand a little better the "whys" behind what he's doing.
* You can't change him or what he is.

The best you can do, in the short-term, is watch yourself and figure out what things you do that bring out the behavior you don't like when he's around. When you know the triggers you can moderate your own behavior avoid some of the problems. And no, I'm suggesting that you run and hide, but rather as a temporary measure you can do things to keep situations calm, or at least less tense.

In the long run, you're going to need help from your family and/or friends to try and encourage your brother to at least get a GED and lay off the dope. You may even want to consider getting some professional help for yourself, not because there's something wrong with you, but rather to help you cope with your brother.

I think you probably care about him, but sooner or later you may have to learn a hard less about love; sometimes it's not enough and the only thing left is "tough love."

Peace

2007-04-07 18:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by D D 2 · 0 0

Ignore him, one day he will get a reality check and his ego will bust. Don't act like you even care about what he is saying. His brain cells are probably frying, so that explains a lot.

2007-04-07 17:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by BL 2 · 0 0

Show him you are more mature than him, and you can start doing it with not wasting your time worrying about him and his "I know it all" attitude, don't worry ...life will teach him that no matter how old you are...you still keep learning and discovering how everybodie's mind works.

2007-04-07 17:29:31 · answer #6 · answered by fun 6 · 0 0

He is egoistic.
He is to learn a lot about life and he will have to in due course of time.
Do not worry about it much for the present.

2007-04-07 20:12:09 · answer #7 · answered by NQS 5 · 0 0

time will bring him down a tab or two, just keep doing what your doing keeping your life on track, and when your making good money, and he is still smoking and broke, then you can ask him, how he gone make his life better.

2007-04-07 17:27:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

He's a fool and he's fooling himself. Stay away from him. He is big trouble. If you live in the same house, move out.

2007-04-07 17:26:53 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0 0

why is it your place to put him in his place, life will do that task soon enuf. you might be a control freak because you want to control what your brother thinks. what we think about others is what we think about ourself. you take care of yourself and let experience tend to your brother.

2007-04-07 17:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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