How to raise up Self-confidence? Thanks all?

Answer 1

As a mental health practitioner with 20+ years experience, now retired, I can advise you that there are a whole lot of artificial / contrived / cheap ways being sold on the market about how you can say good things about yourself as you look in the mirror or somesuch nonsense that will supposedly "raise up self confidence". The only problem is that anybody with half a brain won't fall for that nonsense long and return to the same low feelings they previously had about themselves. Experience in living and a belief in God are the only two REAL things that will truly raise your self confidence, and still keep it within healthy norms and not make you some self-centered neurotic / pathologic individual that everybody would love to stay away from. Patience, which only comes with time, will be the key to increased self esteem. And some successes in life, however small or great, will drive you in that direction, but give yourself some time. Stay in reality. There are way too many bloomin' idiots out here so stuck on themselves that they can't see anybody else. God Bless you.

Answer 2

one way to raise your self confidence is to look in the mirror and tell yourself i love you. corney i know but it does work. just remember that everyone is beautiful and you need to make yourself know that. also try to name ten things that you like about yourself. that sounds probably corney too, but it also works. try to concentrate on the good things about yourself instead of the negative things. if none of this works then see a therapist and maybe they can help you with some self esteem tools. hope this helps

Answer 3

Having low self-esteem or confidence can be very detrimental to your mental health and physical health. Its wonderful that you want raise your confidence and are seeking help in the correct way to do so, many people find it hard to change the pattern of negative thought. Having self-confidence is very very important! Many people don't realize they have to work on gaining confidence.
Self-esteem and self-confidence are related but are not quite the same. Self-confidence relates to our actions and self-esteem is the value we place on ourselves, both are very important. (We have to learn what it is before we can learn how to fix it).
These two go hand in hand, Many professionals believe you CANT have one without the other. Usually self-confidence comes from self-esteem.

…Answer these questions for yourself …(Write down your answers and take time to think about it)

* Can you list 10 things you like about yourself without taking pauses or time to think about it
*Can you accept compliments without dismissal or deflection of it?
* Can you try new things?
*Are you critical about yourself?
*Are you happy with yourself...happy being you?
(Later you can look back at where you were and how much you moved forward, I like keeping things like this as a memory or a resource to look back on, don't forget to even right the date of the day you answer it on the paper. Don't just right yes or no but try to reflect on possibly why it is a yes or no.)



Here are some tips/steps to help improve both:
* We spend so much time focusing on the negatives and what we cant do...Take time to realize the positives, your successful results, things you do well. This can be anything from being a good friend, your job, at school, a good daughter, at a sport, reading, writing, hobby, anything!
(when you focus on negative, it tends to invite negatives into your life, try thinking positive for a while and really take notice of the difference, I know its much harder than it sounds and it takes time. Part of this step is patience, realize that it doesn’t happen over night)
* Learn to love yourself. Refer to the step above, take a moment whenever your down or look in the mirror and repeat your positives or what you like about yourself, it doesn’t have to be something that somebody else may find beautiful or great (for instance I like my small teeth because they aren’t perfect)
*Let people compliment you! Instead of being embarrassed or trying to deflect it just simply say Thank You (and don’t be shy, say it like you know what they said is true, even if you don’t think it is)
* Branch out, try to do things you haven’t done, hobbies, anything. Remember you don’t have to be great at it, have fun and stop taking things so seriously. You are probably the hardest on yourself and it shouldn’t be that way.
* Think to yourself…would you say the things you say to yourself or the way you judge yourself and do it to a friend or family? Of course not because it would hurt them and make them feel bad! Your doing that to yourself and its not fair to YOU.
* Pretend you have self confidence and in due time it will come. When people perceive confidence, men/women are attracted and people treat you different.
* Be thankful for what you have, cup is half full and never half empty!!!
* Try to get some exercise in your week, this will make you feel better physically and mentally. When you exercise, you raise serotonin levels, which will make you a happier person and because your body becomes healthier and improves this also leads men and women to feel better about themselves and raises confidence and self worth.

I wrote a lot but in conclusion remember that your amazing, your wonderful, you have so many great qualities and keep telling yourself. I know in the beginning you wont believe it and you will feel stupid but after a while (it takes time), your going to start believing it!
Take care

Answer 4

to achieve your dreams remember your ABC's...Avoid negative sources,people,places,things and habits.Believe in yourself.Consider things from every angle.Don't give up and don't give in.Enjoy life today,yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come.Family and friends are hidden treasures,seek them and enjoy their riches.Give more than you planned to.Hang on to your dreams.Ignore those who try to discourage you.Just do it.Keep trying no matter how hard it seems,it will get easier.Love yourself first and most.Make it happen.Never lie,cheat or steal,always strike a fair deal.Open your eyes and see things as they really are.Practice makes perfect.Quitters never win and winners never quit.Read study and learn about everything important in your life.Stop procrastinating.Take control of your own destiny.Understand yourself in order to better understand others.Visualize it.Want it more than anything.Xcellerate your efforts.You are unique of all God's creations nothing can replace you.Zero in on your target and go for it!!!!!!

Answer 5

Set short term and long term goals, and work every day at accomplishing them. The more goals you complete, the more confident you will feel and the happier you'll be.

Answer 6

what you do is keep all the loving letters freinds give to you and boost ur self up by saying ur beautiful and pretty and just rember that jesus loves you and u are beautiful in your own way :)

Answer 7

go 2 peekvid and watch the movie the secret

Answer 8

you should tell yourself all the good things about you. like oh i look great today, or lets show Jessica what I'm really made of. never look at the bad things. it will only bring you down.

Answer 9

Your question has many answers. One is; eliminate disapproving, negative, judgmental people from your life.