I just found out i have cancer!!!?

Question

How do i tell my teachers, friends and i am due for chemo in 2 days and they even said i might die! What will happen to me? How should i tell them that i might die and that i have cancer/

plus i just had a baby what would happen to her?

i have breast cancer

why would i lie about this i mean i am on 16 and it was 3 days cause they found the cancer in the blood draw yeaterday when i passed out out of nowwhere

Answer 1

OK.... First and foremost, catch your breath. The news of a cancer diagnosis is devastating no matter age, stage, location, prognosis. It is cancer - and that is overwhelming. No one can possibly fault you for having the feelings you are feeling.

Now, as far as telling people - you have to do what feels right for YOU! When my mother was dx'd with cancer about 2 years ago, she chose to tell NO ONE at first except my father. She didn't even tell me - I just figured it out on my own (long story). That said, it was all I could to to get her to tell my brothers and her only sister. She went through radiation without telling another soul - not even her very closest friends. Then she had a relapse about 15 months later and this time she had to do chemo - every three weeks and hair loss and the whole thing - and she still chose not to tell her friends or anyone other than the limited family she told in the first place. She lost her hair and lived with a wig and no one was the wiser...

In my mother's case, she is a VERY VERY private person and did not want people to talk to her or treat her differently because of her dx. She wanted to just live her life and be treated 'normally' and not as someone who was 'sick.' She just finished her chemo from her 2nd relapse - she is 3 yrs out from dx and doing great. And still she has told hardly anyone... Her choice.

Now, as for the 'might die' thing.... Every single one of us will die and any one of us might die tomorrow while driving our cars or just walking on a sidewalk. Progress in cancer treatments have resulted in MANY patients (my mother included) being treated for a 'chronic disease'. THere have been so many advances in breast cancer therapies in the past several years - why not research these and talk to your doctor to find out the entire 'game plan'? There are women who live for years and years and years who were initially dx'd with metastatic breast cancer - why not you?

Now, as for your kids - my advice is to take it one step at a time. Get more details on stage, grade, treatment options and risks/benefits and take it from there. I trust you have close family/friends who can help you get through this? It won't be an easy journey, but you can do it. And remember one thing - cancer does NOT define you. Your LIFE defines you. So no matter what, live your life and enjoy your life! Every day i so darn precious for all of us....

VERY best of luck to you!

Answer 2

I was just diagnosed with Hodgkins Lymphoma. A form of cancer. I will need chemo treatments as well to cure or treat this. I've already told most of my friends straight out what is going on. It's best to be straight up and honest with people I've learned. I would not mention anything about dying because alot of times chemo can help and theres no guarentee that your going to die. Chemo may be a hard time for us both but I'm sure your friends, teachers, and loved ones will give you alot of support. You can always talk to others that had chemo already and ask them about the situation if you have any questions. I find that helps me the most. Take care and think positive!

Answer 3

Saying you're going to die is BS.
More and more people are surviving today than ever before.

Here's how my wife & I got through. (She had cancer, and is celebrating 5 years symptom free)

I was home on a Mon AM, and the doctor called. He said she had to see a surgeon right away. I thought, " I can tell this is not going to be a good week. " ))I'll explain))
We located a surgeon, who explained," we don't rush you into the operating room. At this point, we need more info, CAT scan, lab work. We need to determine exactly what we're dealing with. "

It took 3 weeks before surgery was performed. But in those 3 weeks of waiting, we realized it was a team effort, and the surgeon was, basically, the coordinator.

The surgeon explained, we'd get through this if we keep our sense of humor and our faith in God, He explained, cancer is an emotional roller coaster and put my wife on an antidepressant right away. He also called MY doctor, explained what was going on, so he could phone in an antidepressant Rx for me.
It was a long battle, but the final score was Maryanne 1, cancer 0. She's great now, sees her surgeon once a year for a checkup, and really enjoys life.

I won't say "there's nothing to it. " but everybody s rooting for you (including me) andin a few months, you'll say "I went through all that?"""And we both think her surgeon is the best doctor in the world.

Answer 4

First of all, breast cancer is not diagnosed through the blood. Second, no doctor is going to start you on chemo without a biopsy and x-rays and certainly are not going to say you may die.

Answer 5

I agree with Panda. Your story doesn't add up. I suggest you try telling the truth or make your story more believable.

BTW, you cannot detect breast cancer from a blood test.

Very unlikely but possible:
1) having a baby at 16 years of age
2) having breast cancer at 16 years of age
3) no mention of surgery

Answer 6

Let's see in some of your last questions you claimed you didn't know how to tell your mother you were pregnant and would be due in 2.5 months, than the next question you thought you were in labor, than you were picking out baby names, and now you have cancer? All in a day?

My son has cancer and I can tell you that his pediatric oncology team provided support by going to his school and speaking to his teachers and friends. They have a program that explains what cancer is and how it affects young people and how they can help.

Ironically, we found out that the honest truth is always the best approach.

Answer 7

There is never an easy way to tell anyone so you just have to take your time and worry about getting yourself well right now. I know especially with a little one you are prob scared out of your mind. When 24 and I was 6 months pregnant I had a 6 cm mass removed from my right breast, but I was fortunate that it was bi-nine, but I remember how much of a wreck I was just waiting for the test results. My heart goes out to you, and just worry about yourself right now because you don't need to add any additional stress to your life

Answer 8

I actually do.i'm a leo girl so i guess i do feel this. the cancer i'm close too. he does get moody, and quiet which does make me worried. so i feel like ignoring him.. then i realise that it's not his intentions to hurt me and deep down he is emotional and generally a deep person, which i adore.. must be because of my pisces moon. i can't be mad at cancers. your not being fake about your feelings you're best match would be with a scorpios relating to your changing moods.. they' a very deep sign and would understand cancers

Answer 9

that is a very overwhelming thing for to find out about
why not just tell a couple of very close friends and they can tell the others so you don't have to go through the emotional pain of telling them yourself=God Bless and hope the chemo works

Answer 10

First think on your self and your baby forget of your friends. When I was 7 I had a brain tumor remover and every body on school know it so soon or later they my know so just focus on what coming next and too about your baby.