i was wondering what i can do..my boy friend and i were gonna have sex, and at the last minute he decided that we werent gonna use a condom.what do i do?
2007-04-07 15:02:25 · 12 answers · asked by storm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him he doesn't need a condom while playing with himself. Everything about using a condom is right. Everything about not using one is wrong. It could change your whole life giving into him. Do not do that. You have to live your life by YOUR choices. Not his. He is being self absorbed, and selfish in his request, proving that he does not love or respect you or your body.
2007-04-07 15:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're not comfortable with that and, especially, if you're not ready (in all ways) for all of the effects this action will have, tell him NO! Using birth control should be a mutual decision. If the guy is just going to get you pregnant and leave, he is not a real man. As the cliche says, any man can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a dad. If you're not ready to be a parent, tell him NO, even if at the last minute. If he's really interested in you and the relationship, he will understand and will wait until both of you are ready. If he's only interested in sex, then you need to find a more responsible and trustworthy guy. Don't be afraid to say NO.
2007-04-07 15:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by Eastern US Guy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This raises the question of whether you actually went through with it and had sex with your boyfriend. If you did, your first concern should be getting a pregnancy test. (The odds are actually pretty slim that you would get pregnant from one sexual encounter, but it only takes one.) And whether or not you went through with having sex with your boyfriend this time, it's pretty clear that you need to secure a more passive form of birth control, such as birth control pills. In any event, it's not your boyfriend's decision whether or not he uses a condom when he has sex with you. You have an absolute right to set your own boundaries when it comes to sexual activity.
2007-04-08 05:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by NetEsq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooo no dont let him do that to u!!! Remember all the long term effects! If your not ready, then dont be afraid to tell him! If he loves u he will understand, and if he doesnt than u are wayyyy better off without him. If you are ready, dont let him talk u out of using some kind of birth control, whether it be a condom or something else!
2007-04-07 15:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you 2 were about to have sex, your bf decides not to use a condom, and you STOP and decided to go online now to ask? And I thought stopping to put on a condom was a mood killer...
Just don't have sex. You sound too young to be having sex. If you MUST have sex, use the condom!!
2007-04-07 15:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
think about what happens if things don't go as planned. it might be fun to go unprotected for the moment but will it be just as fun 9 months later in the hospital? a $1.00 condom would, i think, be a much wiser decision then 9 months of pregnancy, potential parent problems, and worst case scenario, possibly having your boyfriend bail on you because of your pregnancy...that happens a lot unfortunately!
2007-04-11 09:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by Bates 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that that's fine. He can decide not to use a condom during sex.... if he wants to go it alone. He should not "decide" for the both of you. He can decide things for himself when it doesn't concern you, but if you are involved and don't want to go raw, then you need to tell him that it's not his decision to make
2007-04-07 15:09:59 · answer #7 · answered by Lovely Day Dreams... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So in the heat of the moment, you walked to the computer and decided to ask the question on Yahoo Answers?
Give him blue balls until he decides to use the condom.
2007-04-07 15:06:37 · answer #8 · answered by Vegan 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Dont let him pull that crap! He cant like you much if all he wants is to do is get you pregnant! Please dont let him talk you into that! You have no idea of the pain and heart ache it will cause for your Mom and Dad!
2007-04-07 15:09:43 · answer #9 · answered by jack y 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Id say go for it ONLY if you are really comfortable and know that he has not been around and might have something that he can apss on to you. That is a big decision that you must take. Also remember pregnancy can happen.
2007-04-07 15:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by adictpunk04 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋